You know, I find it interesting that lots of guys look at sex toys as “competition.” After all, if a woman has a good vibrator, what does she need a man for, right? Well, I don’t agree with that. I think a guy who can get his girl a good sex toy opens up a whole new world of fun and possibilities with his girl, because she’ll typically become more open to exploring things that are sexual with him in return.
I recently found these articles (check them out here and here) from a woman named Sarah Gibson who owns a sex toy website that lays out some good guidelines for choosing the right sex toy. Interestingly enough, this section caught my attention:
While it is incredibly important you get her a toy that is the perfect fit… you should try to avoid any embarrassing bra-shopping-type-incidents when you say to the sales assistant “Well she’s about your size.” Thankfully you can use yourself as a guide for how big or little you should go for internal vibrators. However, if you’d like something to use as an add-on to your own penetrative sex, stick with something really little like a bullet or clit vibe like the famous we-vibe. These can be slotted in place in between you both while you carry on as normal.
The biggest thin I’ve found when it comes to getting sex toys for your lady is to know what she prefers. Some girls like penetration, while others prefer clitoral stimulation. In my experience, the vast majority of women prefer the clitoral stimulation for various reasons, so when getting a toy for your girl, make sure your focus is on “vibrators” and not “dildos.” Having the option of inserting the toy is good, but it can be hard to guess as to what kind of size and shape your girl will prefer. You can always play it safe and get a vibrator for her.
Secondly, if you actually TAKE your girl shopping and let her pick out the toy, not only can you get the exact one she wants, but it can also be a lot of fun and really encouraging for her to open up to you about her preferences sexually. Some girls might be shy about what gets them off, and taking them sex toy shopping can really bring them out of their shell. Plus, most sex toy stores have so much crazy stuff in them, it can inspire your girl to want to experiment with new things too!
So this is a video from the late 80s/early 90s from some talk show giving a bunch of hard-up women advice about men. Unfortunately, it’s all bad, terrible advice. Even though this footage is decades old, this just furthers my theory that women have no clue about how men think or operate (for the most part, there are always exceptions). Anyway, modern advice about men hasn’t gotten much better from where it was in the 80s and 90s apparently. So keep this in mind – women will actually BELIEVE this crap because its what the Oprah-ized media feeds them. BEWARE!
And by all men, I’m speaking mostly for myself, and assuming no other man out there is dumb enough to like what I clearly don’t. But frankly, there are some things girls adorn themselves with that I just absolutely HATE. I’m talking like Hitler hates the Jews. As in, if I could murder these fashions, I’d have no problem sleeping at night. Seriously, that’s how much I hate these horrible fashions that some women insist on subjecting me to.
Shitty Fashion Style #1: Facial Piercings
I can understand ear piercings. But when girls start shoving metal into their faces, I start to get graphic flashbacks of reading National Geographic when I was in grade school. Sure, some guys don’t mind facial piercings, but it NEVER makes a girl look better. In fact, if I see a pretty girl with a facial piercing, she instantly drops to an “average” girl in my book. FYI ladies, studs in your cheek, nose, or chin make you look like you have a huge metal zit or something. And eyebrow rings and lip rings – what’s the point? They just get in the way! Not only that, but anyone ever notice that facial piercings are constantly surrounded by red, irritated skin? It looks horrible. Stop it. Read more
This was just too funny, I had to share it with y’all. Some girl back in 2007 put up a post on Craigslist asking why she couldn’t find a decent guy to support her in New York. Some genius random poster wrote the perfect response to dealing with any golddigger. Check it out.
9/25/07 THIS APPEARED ON CRAIG’S LIST in New York
Okay, I’m tired of beating around the bush. I’m a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I’m articulate and classy.
I’m not from New York. I’m looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don’t think I’m overreaching at all.
Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 200 – 250. But that’s where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won’t get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she’s not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?
Here are my questions specifically:
- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms
-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won’t hurt my feelings
-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I’m 25)?
- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I’ve seen really ‘plain jane’ boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I’ve seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What’s the story there?
- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows – lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?
- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY
Please hold your insults – I’m putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I’m being up front about it. I wouldn’t be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn’t able to match them – in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.
That was the question from the aforementioned Gold-digger. Now here’s the response. (WARNING: Prepare for awesomeness!) Read more
Str8wlkr over on the Natural Game forum had an interesting post about Leading a relationship vs. controlling a relationship. This topic actually sprung from a thread on a different message board about whether or not guys should let their girlfriends go out to clubs. And you know what? It brings up some pretty interesting questions… Read more
We all know that “girlspeak” has phrases that carry hidden meanings to them, and after reading this article, its obvious that there are ten phrases women use that every man should be on the lookout for…
The Top 10 Most Dangerous Chick Phrases
You are not wearing THAT, are you?
What are you doing? Do you have to do this now?
Listen to me! Are you listening???
Do you know what day is today?
You’re right, I should do that (…)
The decision is yours
Is there anything new you want to try in bed tonight?
We need to talk…
Check out the article if you want to know WHY these phrases are so dangerous. I think the ones I run into the most are “Nothing” and “Whatever,” lol. Then there’s also the phrases like “Why do you watch so much TV?” “So-and-so’s boyfriend does this for her,” and “You don’t have a hidden camera in the bedroom do you?”
On the flip side of the coin are the most dangerous things Men say. Things like…
“Your sister is hot!”
“I have to go on a business trip to Thailand, with a layover in Brazil.”
“I have no idea where those charges on my credit card came from.”
“I know where I’m going. I don’t need directions.”
“Just the tip, baby! Just the tip!”
I think this just goes to show the power of language, and what it can be used for. It never ceases to amaze me how some simple phrases can carry so much meaning.
Ah, those kookie French. First its their inexplicable love of Jerry Lewis, and now its massive fines for not sexing up your wife…
The 51-year-old man was fined under article 215 of France’s civil code, which states married couples must agree to a “shared communal life”.
A judge has now ruled that this law implies that “sexual relations must form part of a marriage”.
The rare legal decision came after the wife filed for divorce two years ago, blaming the break-up on her husband’s lack of activity in the bedroom.
A judge in Nice, southern France, then granted the divorce and ruled the husband named only as Jean-Louis B. was solely responsible for the split.
But the 47-year-old ex-wife then took him back to court demanding 10,000 euros in compensation for “lack of sex over 21 years of marriage”.
The ex-husband claimed “tiredness and health problems” had prevented him from being more attentive between the sheets.
But a judge in the south of France’s highest court in Aix-en-Provence ruled: “A sexual relationship between husband and wife is the expression of affection they have for each other, and in this case it was absent.
“By getting married, couples agree to sharing their life and this clearly implies they will have sex with each other.”
Can you imagine the shitstorm that would occur if MEN could start suing their wives and ex-wives over lack of sex? I mean, c’mon. Women with-hold sex CONSTANTLY, especially after marriage. Why is it some poor French guy gets the hammer dropped on him for not putting out? Can he sue his ex-wife for damages over all the money of his she spent during their marriage?
I’d like to see someone try suing a girl for not putting out after paying for a nice date. Isn’t there an implicit non-verbal contract there somewhere?
Remind me never to get married in France.
Good news for all you guys out there pushing 50…
WOMEN now find men sexy right up to the age of 55, a study shows.
That’s ten years older than the “limit” set by females three decades ago.
It means fellas in that age range – which includes balding Die Hard film hunk Bruce Willis, 55 – can still pull in girls.
But once they reach 56 – like movie star John Travolta – they become “invisible” to the opposite sex, the poll suggests. Three in four women are now also happy to date bald men, compared with half in the 1980s. Four in five don’t mind dating chaps with a slight paunch. Women told researchers older men were becoming sexier as they worked harder to keep in shape and wear better clothes.
In the ’80s, girls considered men “past it” aged just 45.
Debenhams quizzed more than 1,000 people. A spokeswoman said: “Older men no longer look or act like grandads. They often look at least ten years younger than they really are.”
So I guess it comes down to how you dress and act. Both of which are factors any man has COMPLETE control over. So knowing stuff about pop culture, doing things that are fun and interesting, dressing nice, and being sensitive to a woman’s reality works just as well in your 50′s as it does in your 20′s.
Good to know.
We’ve all heard the myth of the “suave european lover,” but it seems like that myth now excludes the French…
A survey by one of France’s oldest and most reputable polling and market research organisations has challenged the myth of the French lover.
More than three-quarters of Gallic couples have bad sex lives, the Institute for Public Opinion found.
More than one in three women said they had used excuses such as headaches, tiredness or children being nearby to get out of having sex.
Nearly one in six men said they had also made similar excuses.
France has long enjoyed a reputation for romance and the French have traditionally thought of themselves as great lovers, more amorous and flirtatious than most other Europeans, especially the British, the BBC’s David Chazan reports from Paris.
But the survey of more than 1,000 French adults, who answered revealing questions about their sex lives, suggests the nation that gave its name to the French kiss could be suffering a loss of libido, he says.
However, help may be at hand, our correspondent adds. The pharmaceutical corporation which commissioned the survey says it is going to launch an information campaign this month for French couples who want to improve their sex lives.
Not sure how accurate this is. Could be that SINGLE people in France are still getting all Caligula on a regular basis. Who knows? But I guess if you’re going to analyze the sex lives of COUPLES, you’ll probably see the same level of disinterest in their partners no matter what country you’re in.
The Daily Telegraph reports on SCIENTIFIC PROOF that fat guys do it better…
FAT men last longer in bed, while lean gym jocks are prone to premature ejaculation, a new study has found.
The scientific research, from Erciyes University in Turkey, found that men with excess body fat develop more female sex hormones that influence their sexual performance.
Men with high fat levels were found to have higher levels of the female sex hormone oestradiol, which disrupts the chemical balance in their body, making them last longer during sex.
The survey’s results found fat men could last an average of 7.3 minutes during love making, while others only lasted 1.8 minutes.
To find the results, researchers spent a year recording the body mass index (BMI) of more than 100 patients referred for specialist treatment.
They compared these results with 100 other male patients who lasted longer during sex.
Results concluded that the men needing treatment for premature ejaculation had lower BMI scores, meaning they were fitter.
“We found that premature ejaculators were leaner,” the report stated.
So all you skinny guys out there – science has PROVEN you guys blow your load too soon. So… neener neener! lol.
USAToday is reporting on a study about how casual sex doesn’t ruin the prospect of long term relationships.
People who “hook up” for casual sex can have as rewarding a long-term relationship as those who take it slowly and establish a meaningful connection before they have sex, says a new study.
University of Iowa researchers analyzed relationship surveys and found that average relationship quality was higher for people who took it slowly than for those who became sexually involved in “hook-ups,” casual dating, or “friends with benefits” relationships.
However, having sex early on wasn’t the reason for this disparity, according to UI sociologist Anthony Paik. When he factored out people who weren’t interested in getting serious, he found that those who became sexually involved as friends or acquaintances and were open to a serious relationship were just as happy as those who dated but delayed having sex.
The study analyzed a survey of 642 heterosexual adults in Chicago. To measure the quality of the relationships, people answered questions about how much they loved their partner, their level of satisfaction with intimacy in the relationship, the future of the relationship, and how their lives would be different if the relationship ended.
“We didn’t see much evidence that relationships were lower quality because they started off as hook-ups,” Paik, an assistant professor in the College of Liberal Arts and Sciences, said in a UI news release.
“The study suggests that rewarding relationships are possible for those who delay sex. But it’s also possible for true love to emerge if things start off with a more Sex and the City approach, when people spot each other across the room, become sexually involved and then build a relationship,” he added.
I know that personally, most of my relationships grow out of the “casual dating” arena. I know lots of girls think that having sex with a guy too soon will make him lose interest in her, but I’ve never found that to be the case. If the guy is only interested in sex in the first place, then he probably will lose interest after getting what he wants (then again, he’d lose interest if it takes too long to get what he wants as well!). But if a guy is open to having a relationship, and sex happens quickly, that can actually speed up the process by which he’s willing to be in a relationship.
So this study isn’t really that surprising to me.
Via that bastion of scientific knowledge known as The Sun…
BRITONS have sex for an average of 49 days, 13 hours and 41 minutes during their lifetimes, a poll showed yesterday.The least sexually active enjoy just 30 HOURS compared to 170 DAYS for the most randy.The average for men is 52 days and eight minutes. For women, it is 47 days, three hours and 36 minutes, said researchers.Among sexually active people, the average session lasts 19.5 minutes.
BRITONS have sex for an average of 49 days, 13 hours and 41 minutes during their lifetimes, a poll showed yesterday. The least sexually active enjoy just 30 HOURS compared to 170 DAYS for the most randy.
The average for men is 52 days and eight minutes. For women, it is 47 days, three hours and 36 minutes, said researchers.
Among sexually active people, the average session lasts 19.5 minutes.
I’m guessing this study doesn’t take into account masturbation? lol.
You know, sometimes I stumble across a piece of advice that is so freakin’ bad, I can’t believe anybody would bother posting it. I mean, seriously…
While recieving oral/sex just bust out your phone and start browsing, text someone etc. Shit you don’t even need to do anything. The idea is to focus your mind on anything that is not pleasure, by doing so you are blocking the mental part of the orgasm and thus you cannot cum. If the female asks why you are busting your phone just tell her “cause I want to fucking last longer” “cause i fucking can” “so I cant last longer”. etc….
Thats it. Just do it. If it does not work your dumb as shit.
Actually, if you TAKE MrXXX’s advice, you’re dumb as shit. I mean, where do I even begin with this…
First off, if you take out your phone and start texting someone while getting a BJ, that’s probably gonna be the LAST BJ you ever get from that girl. Women give me shit about checking my phone while out on a DATE (some say its disrespectful) so I can just imagine how they’d react if I did that during sex. I mean, what girl wouldn’t get pissed off if she was going down on you and you’re texting someone or looking at your phone? I’ll tell you this – any girl who sees that happen is going to instantly think the guy isn’t into them, feel massively insecure, and STOP what they’re doing. I can almost guarantee that.
Secondly, why the hell do you want to last longer during a blowjob? During sex, yes, I can understand you’d want to increase endurance, but that’s because of your partner’s pleasure, right? Lasting long during a blowjob doesn’t do anyone any good. The girl doesn’t want to be down there all day! In fact, if you take TOO long, she’s going to think something is wrong. Plus, why would you want to deny yourself pleasure? That’s what sex is all about, right? Allow yourself to enjoy it!
If you REALLY need help here, blow your load fast during the BJ, then you’ll last longer during sex. No phone or mental torture required.
So Time Magazine just released a story about a study that claims the “cougar phenomenon” of older women dating younger men is largely a myth. Check it out:
For a decade now we’ve been chronicling the emergence of cougars in the dating jungle: women, usually over 40, who hunt younger men, or cubs, and shower them with a tantalizingly experienced kind of love — and lots of Abba music. There are cougar celebrities — 47-year-old Demi Moore married 32-year-old Ashton Kutcher — cougar books, cougar cruises and, perhaps the ultimate affirmation, cougar sitcoms, including the popular Cougar Town, starring real-life cougar Courteney Cox. What further proof do we need of this species’ existence?
Michael Dunn isn’t buying it. The noted psychology researcher at the University of Wales Institute in Cardiff has just released a study that he insists renders the cougar craze a “myth.” After examining the age preferences expressed in 22,400 singles ads on popular dating websites in North America, Europe, Australia and Japan, he found no sizable cohort of women seeking younger men. To the contrary, almost all of them wanted men their own age or older. Nor did he find evidence for the proliferation of cubs: the overwhelming majority of men displayed their eons-old preference for younger women. “I do believe the cougar phenomenon is a myth and, yes, a media construct,” Dunn, who specializes in human evolutionary psychology and mating behavior, told the Australian Associated Press.
Of course, the article includes the counter-argument from people who say the cougar phenomenon is real, but here’s my take on things… Read more
Just found an article on foxnews.com from some woman who has no clue about getting women to have sex with you advising men on how to get women to have sex with them. (Does that make sense?)
Anyway, check out the inane advice:
Logan Levkoff writes:
OK guys, stop all your whining and complaining for a second and listen up: If you want more sex from your wives, you have to grow up and recognize that people change, relationships change, and your sex life doesn’t stay the same.
As a sexologist, relationship expert, and contributor to Good in Bed, the one question I’m constantly asked is: “How can I get my wife to have more sex with me?” Well, I also happen to be a wife and mother of two little ones, so I’m going to give it to you straight. Here’s my advice for not screwing it up and actually getting some tonight:
1. Snuggle, Don’t Grope. You’re in the mood, so you reach out and grab us—our breasts, butt, or genitals, that is. Guys, believe me when I tell you that this is the biggest sin you can commit when trying to seduce a woman. It will not send us into an orgasmic swoon. (And, hey, if it does, you don’t need my advice, right?). Neither will groping us in the kitchen while we’re unloading the dishwasher.
These inept moves don’t get us all hot and bothered — they just upset us. Try hugging or kissing. Hold and squeeze our hand. Unload the dishwasher yourself. Women want to feel connected to our partners—in ways that don’t always involve sex.
As guys, you see something sexy and suddenly you’re in the mood for sex, ready to go. You pick up the mail, there’s a Victoria Secret catalog in the box, and next thing we know you’re sniffing in our direction like a dog expecting a treat. But women don’t work like that. We may see something that’s sexy, and that something may even be you, but we don’t suddenly want to have sex. That’s where men and women differ: You have to actually put us in the mood. You have to make us feel sexy and make us want to be sexual.
Here’s a tip: Did you know that studies show that if you hug for partner for 30 seconds it raises her oxytocin levels? Oxytocin is a hormone that makes us feel loving and connected and helps put us in the mood. So start with a hug.
2. Don’t Treat Us Like Porn Stars. Just because you can pay to watch a chick with fake boobs and a fake tan fawn all over some hairy, grunting guy doesn’t mean you can treat us like some 30-second money shot. Women crave seduction. We crave pleasure. We want sex to be, well, sexy, not like some third-rate porn production. I’m not saying you won’t get those little surprise treats now and then—but you’ve got to work for them. Luckily, the brain is our biggest sex organ, and most women have fantasy lives that leave your porn sites in the dust. You know one of the reasons why women aren’t more into porn? Because almost all of it is created by men and for men, who don’t have a clue about what really turns a woman on. Wanna know what does turn us on? Ask us, engage us. Which brings me to…
3. Do Unto Others. Want hot sex? You have to provide us with the kind of sex we want to have. Simply put, you’ve got to give as good as you get. Do I need to spell it out for you? If you want us to use our mouths, you have to use yours, too! And if you do it first? All the better. Most women orgasm best from clitoral stimulation.
4. Give Us Space. It seems counterintuitive, but letting your partner have some time to herself can help her recharge. Offer to watch the kids for a few hours so she can meet a friend for coffee, take a book to the beach, or relax in a bubble bath. This “time off” lets her wind down so that later she’ll be ready to heat up. And by the way, watching your kids isn’t “babysitting”. They’re your children—play with them like you mean it. Be a dad, not a bachelor. Remember, a lot of us find nothing sexier than a dad who’s into his kids.
5. Talk—and Listen. I know, I know: Many of you would probably rather clean that toilet than be forced to “communicate.” But I’m not asking for an hours-long heart-to-heart here. Spending 20 minutes connecting with your partner and listening to her talk can help her feel appreciated. Avoid stressful topics like your kids, work, and home and stick to larger issues like current events and the world around you. Respond with full sentences, not grunts. If you can remember and repeat something she said 12 hours later, she’ll be impressed—and you’ll be one step closer to sex.
Okay, where to start with this… Read more