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Dr. Phil Bitch Slaps Ross Jeffries - Have Video Proof

Ha ha ha - he he he - hoo hoo hoo...

Ah, where to begin...

First of all - why the hell would any of these guys go on Dr. Phil in the first place?  Do you know any GUYS who watch Dr. Phil?  (Well, STRAIGHT guys?)  I certainly don't.  Dr. Phil's audience is WOMEN.  So why bother wasting time pitching your seduction business to a bunch of chicks if you aren't teaching them how to get men?  Snarf.

Okay, all that aside though - I thought the Mystery Method guys came off very well in this show.  They were cool, calm, collected and walked that fine line between being "politically correct" and honest about what they teach.  Fact is, Mystery Method DOES work on women.  It is effective.  That's why it's taken off the way it has.

Now, whatever you feel about Savoy and the current state of Mystery Method, post-Mystery, is immaterial to this show.  Sure, I would like it if Mystery was still in charge of the Mystery Method name, but that doesn't mean these guys aren't offering value to other men by teaching what they are.  (Plus, there's a lot of behind the scenes stuff about the meltdown over at Mystery Method I won't be sharing here, since I've been sworn to secrecy not to reveal it.)

So now that we've got Mystery Method out of the way, let's get to the real mean and potatoes of this.

Ross "MINE'99" Jeffries.

And boy oh boy, was MINE'99 channeling all his evil, selfish, hypocritical energies in this episode!  Wow.  I knew MINE'99 was delusional, but the extent of his warped reality has only gotten worse with age.  Maybe his horrible friz-fro is somehow affecting his brain in the same way an alien parasite would?  Who knows.

Anyway, back to the show...

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The Secret Files Are Live...

I have been doing an interview series for almost a year now where I sit down and pick the brains of various women to get an idea of their experiences when guys try and pick them up.  It's been going very well, and the feedback I am getting from it has been great.

I am now making all my past interviews available, as well as access to the new monthly interviews here:

www.SecretSeductionFiles.com

In fact, if you go there right now, you can get the first interview and report for free.  Just scroll down midway and you'll find the interview there.

I'd love to hear any feedback you guys might have regarding the secret files.  Just leave your thoughts in this post.

How Ugly Men Attract Women

It's a sad fact of life that everyone out there has some type of insecurity that makes them feel "unattractive."  Even the most  beautiful women in the world have stuff about them that makes them feel ugly at times.

For men - their visual nature can often times make them very critical of their own appearance.  There is always something that makes us  feel as though we are ugly.

Maybe it's the fact that we are too short, or fat, or bald, or old?  There are any number of factors that make us feel "unworthy" of the attentions of beautiful women.

But if that was the case - no one would ever be able to attract a woman at all!

In fact, the next time you're out, take a mental note of every guy you see with an attractive girl, and try and appraise whether or not you think that guy's looks are worthy of the girl he's with.

Sure, sometimes you'll find a guy who's with a girl and they are both fine credits to their species.  But most of the time, what you'll find is the guys with really hot and appealing women range from "average" to "ugly" in the looks department.

That's because beauty - in men - is the exception, not the standard.

But more than that, men rely on factors OTHER than their looks to help attract the kinds of women they want to them.

There are three major factors that most men try and utilize to the best of their ability when attracting new and exciting women to them.  They are:

1.  Wealth

2.  Social Status

3.  Personality

Let's go through these one at a time...

The first factor men use to attract the opposite sex is their wealth, or finances.  Proving one's "provider" status to women is a sure fire  way to get female attention.  After all, what woman DOESN'T want to be pampered?

However, there is a big problem with this tactic.  First of all, not everyone is rich or wealthy, so this factor is reserved for the few that are.  More than that, women often feel like you're trying to "bribe" or "impress" them with your wealth, and because of that, they will treat you more like an ATM machine with feet, rather than a loving, caring, mate.

Keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with using financial success to draw women into you.  But unless you have the money in the bank to do so, you can't rely on this method to get you a good woman.

The second factor is social status.  Women are very attuned to the social hierarchy of things, so having a "high status" around women definitely makes any man more attractive.

This status comes from holding a certain position of power.  It could be an important job, some type of fame, or just the esteem of your peers.

However, one of the difficulties with this is that you need to be able to display social status.  You can't just tell someone "I'm a very important person" and have them believe it.  They have to get a sense of it themselves, and sometimes your situation is not conducive to communicating this (like meeting a woman on the street for instance.  She has no idea who you are!).

Also - not everyone has a high social status.  Some people are content with maintaining a medium to low level status.  Where does that leave these people?

With the THIRD factor - that of Personality.  The thing I like about personality is that it's something EVERYONE can use to attract the kind of women they desire, and it doesn't matter how much money you make or what your social situation is like.

Having an attractive personality is the best way for "average" or "unattractive" men to get women interested in them.  Being able to make a woman laugh will turn her on more than a guy with big muscles and a full head of hair.

Understand that women are slaves to their emotions, and your personality is the method by which you trigger emotions inside a woman!

The better your personality, the better you're able to make a woman feel.

And your personality is something that can be changed and cultivated over time.  You can make yourself into anything you want to be!  It's  truly amazing how some "losers" can become "rockstars" in the eyes of their friends and the women they like just by tweaking their personality a little bit.

So how do you do this?

The first step is to really work on your confidence. The more confident you are, the better you're able to display your personality.

Working on your social skills will also help you to be relaxed and have fun around women.  This will create new opportunities for attraction.

And learning how to create strong emotional bonds is also the best way there is to get a woman emotionally attached to you.

When you use these three techniques, you'll be able to gain the fancy of any woman you wish - no matter WHAT you look like.

What Every Girl Needs...

Watch this one to the end.  It really pays off!

Orgasmic Birth?

Here's an interesting article about a professional mid-wife who is trying to promote the benefits of natural childbirth vs. C-sections and the use of drugs.  She says that women can experience a type of "birth ecstasy" under the right circumstances.

Gaskin began her practice as one of about 250 hippies who pooled their money in 1971 to buy rural land south of Nashville to form a commune. Soon she and a few other women on The Farm were delivering 25 to 30 babies each month.

While training herself, Gaskin sought out doctors and other midwives and devoured medical texts. But she never sought a medical degree, instead helping to create an alternative certification so lay midwives could prove their competency.

Not all obstetricians think home births are inherently unsafe. New York obstetrician Heidi Rinehart spent a few weeks at The Farm while a medical student. Although her husband also is an obstetrician, when they were having a baby, they asked Gaskin to be their midwife.

But even doctors who’ve never heard of Gaskin have felt her influence because of patients who have read her books, seen her birth videos or heard her speak.

“They request or demand or vote with their feet to have the kind of birth they want,” Rinehart said.

Now, Gaskin has a film in the works that is in keeping with her anti-establishment, freewheeling nature.

“We’re doing a movie called ‘The Orgasmic Birth,’ ” she said.

That’s not a metaphor. Gaskin says that under the right circumstances women experience a sort of birth ecstasy.

“I mean, it’s not a guarantee,” she said, shrugging her shoulders and smiling, “but it’s a possibility.

“It’s the only way I can think to market it to (this) generation.”

If women could really orgasm during childbirth, I think we'd be seeing a lot more babies being born.

Working On Your Man-Ass?

So I came across this article about a new pair of men's designer underwear that is supposed to make your ass look fab-ulous!  Check it out:

The issue of fancy men's underwear is still threatening to undermine this great country. Andrew Christian has unveiled his new, horrific men's underwear with Flashback Butt-Lifting and Contouring Technology. He promises that it "gives men the illusion of having a sought-after "bubble butt" without having to spend hours in the gym." Great John Wayne's ghost, is a bubble butt now sought-after among men?!? An actual quote from the designer, who is suspected by me to be working with the terrorists: "Surprisingly, I was actually inspired to create this technology while at the gym and seeing how hard men work on exercising their buttocks. I just knew that there had to be a way to achieve similar results by simply wearing underwear." Good. God. After the jump, before and after pictures of the new underwear technology at work. We beg you, do not be seduced.

Maybe it's the gym I go to, but I don't think I've ever seen a man working on his ass.  I didn't even know bubble-butts were sought after by guys!  Is this the male equivalent of the wonderbra, where as soon as you get it off it leads to nothing but disappointment?

Guys REALLY need to stop caring about designer fashion.

Superconference Call Audio

Hey guys, for those of you who missed it, here's the conference all audio from the other night with Savoy, Brad P, and myself.

If any of you are interested in checking out the Superconference in Las Vegas this weekend, click the link below to learn more details.  You can also see some of the crazy Vegas pics I talked about in the audio, and the video of Cajun on "Keys to the VIP."

Click Here For More Superconference Info

As a side note - I was all packed and ready to go to Vegas for my speaking engagement at the Superconference when I got news my Grandmother passed away on Sunday.  She had a long bout with Alzheimers Disease, and finally succumbed to it.  Her funeral is on the exact day I was set to speak, so I'll unfortunately have to miss this event.  I hope anyone who was looking forward to hearing me speak will understand.  This has been a very difficult time for my family.  But don't worry - even though I won't be there, there are a TON of great speakers lined up who'll be sure to over-deliver.

Breaking News: Real Social Dynamics Still Sucks Ass

So the other night, I'm minding my own business when I get an Instant Message from Donovan over at the Seduction Chronicles.  He asks me to check out this post where someone other than me finally takes RSD to task.

Now, I know I get a lot of flack for ragging on the Real Social Dickweeds over there in the magical world of PUA-land where Tyler and his minions continue to drink the cool-aid about how they rule and everyone else sucks, so I was happy to see that I'm not the only one being vocal about it anymore.

(Just to be fair, nearly every major PUA I know talks shit about Tyler and crew, but they don't do it publicly.  That distinct pleasure seems to be reserved for yours truly.)

So my first reaction to this post was - it went too easy on these guys.

Now, most of what I'm going to write here is directed primarily at Tyler and Papa, since they pretty much are RSD.  All the other guys - Jlaix, Christophe, and anyone else I don't know, I have no real problem with.  They are just the most recent brainwashed minions to fall under the Tyler spell.  So this in no way is meant as a criticism of them.

Getting back to it - the purpose of Donovan's post was to talk about the mythical "Blueprint" which is now 4 years in the making.  It's basically a critique of Tyler's teachings, and that reflects as to why the Blueprint is never coming out.

Now, RSD just released "The Blueprint Exposed," or whatever the heck their next lame product is.  But make no mistake about it - it's just the same old recycled Tyler crap you've always gotten from him.

The biggest complaints I hear directed towards my criticisms of the RSD boys and their teachings is that I'm "jealous" or "petty" because they "won't hang out with me" or that we had some type of falling out because Tyler didn't want to write articles for me any more.

Make no mistake about it - that's not true.  I used to consider these guys friends, and I kept quiet about my concerns with Tyler and crew for a long time after that relationship deteriorated (this happened around the time the boys were all ganging up against Mystery in Project Hollywood).

The thing that made me go public with my criticism of RSD was the deluge I got from people who took their workshops and felt they got scammed.  Before long, I was getting too many of these emails and bad reviews to ignore.

Then came the evidence that RSD was putting inexperienced instructors into the field to teach paying customers stuff they could not even do themselves.

Finally, there was the "Deep Throat" who sent me private messages from RSD's instructor's message board specifically outlining how they planned to trick workshop students into thinking they improved in their workshops when really it was just a trick for inexperienced instructors to make the poor student feel good without having to actually deliver results (and therefor not deliver a refund).

All that combined, I felt the need to speak out, because my personal experiences with these guys has never been anything but bad.  Papa is a sociopathic liar, and so is Tyler - Tyler is just more charismatic and better at hiding it than Papa is.  And neither of them really care about anyone other than themselves - so you can add a healthy dash of narcissism in there for good measure.

Now, I know what you're thinking:  "Thundercat, what does this have to do with pickup?  Why are you hating?  Negativity sucks.  Blah, blah, blah."

Well, this actually has a LOT to do with pick up, since these are guys that students look up to and follow.  These are also guys who have the power to REALLY mess people up.

The reason I'm writing about this is really because the focus on Donovan's post was about the teachings of RSD.  Well, let me say this right now:

THE TEACHINGS WORK.

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Asian Pick Up Artists In The Media

This just in - Asian Playboy is on the cover of Asian Weekly.  It's a bit of a puff piece, and they don't really portray the community as a whole in that great of light (what's the deal with saying a lot of this stuff is misogynistic?).

Having met Asian Playboy, I can tell you he's the real deal.  Very cool guy, and quite skilled - this is especially important if you're Asian, because he specializes in teaching Asian men how to pick up chicks (I don't think there's too much of a difference between teaching Asian men and regular guys, but since I'm not Asian, who am I to disagree?)

Anyway, you can check out the whole article here.

Free Seduction Conference Call This Thursday

Hey Everyone,

Brad P (#5 Top Pick Up Artist), Nick Savoy, and Myself are putting on a FREE teleconference this Thursday.

I would strongly encourage anyone to call in and listen to the call.  The three of us are going to be discussing some exciting stuff, and we'll also have a Q&A session where we address your issues too.

Here's the info:

Start Time with Time Zone: 9:00 pm EST (6pm PST)
Date: 2/7/08
Conference Phone Number: (512) 879-2032
Participant Access Code: 136180#

Hope to see you on the call!  There's going to be some incredible techniques discussed!

Porn Stars And Politics

Here's a funny little ditty from Funny Or Die where they asked Pornstars about their Super Tuesday picks.

See?  Every vote matters!

High Heels Boost Women's Sex Drive?

Here's an interesting article about how wearing high heels work a woman's "sex muscles" and give them better orgasms.

STILETTOS can be good for a woman's sex life, says a study which claims wearing them ``directly works the pleasure muscles linked to orgasm''.

Experts found the high heels toned women’s legs and strengthened pelvic muscles.

In tests, Dr Maria Cerruto, of the University of Verona, Italy, discovered that wearing a pair
of ‘‘moderately high heeled shoes’’ had beneficial effects for a woman’s sex life.

‘‘Heels work the pelvic muscles and reduce the need to exercise them.

‘‘Wearing heels during daily activity may reduce the need for the pelvic floor exercises necessary to keep that part of a woman’s anatomy toned and elastic,’’ Cerruto said.

She asked 66 women under 50 about their sex lives, exercise regime and shoes.

In tests, their pelvic muscles were more relaxed in higher heels, increasing their strength
and ability to contract.

‘‘Women often have difficulty in carrying out the right exercises for the pelvic zone and
wearing heels could prove to be the solution,’’ Cerruto said.

Manolo Blahnik, whose shoes are worn by Sex and the City’s Carrie Bradshaw, said: ‘‘This is wonderful news. I’ve been hounded for years about how bad it is for posture, but
. . . when you put on a high heel it makes life more exciting. For women, it’s a way to appeal to
the male species.

‘‘There’s a limit. Anything over 11.5cm, you can’t walk properly; it’s no longer elegant.’

No wonder women spend so much money on shoes.  =)

The Fifth Best Pick Up Artist In The World

So as many of you know, I rated Brad P. #5 on my top 10 best PUA list of 2007.  Funny story - Brad P actually went out and used that ranking to his advantage to pick up a girl, and he wanted to share the story with everyone.

So check out Brad's field report on the advantages of being the fifth best PUA out there.  =)

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David Shade's Manual... No More?

All right, there is some rather surprising news coming out of the David Shade camp today...

It seems that David Shade's Manual - the ORIGINAL sex guide for the seduction community - may be no more.

Read on to find out the details...

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Top CFO Fired For Being A Player

Hat tip to Josh for sending me a link to a story about a hot tier CFO of a major health insurance company who got his ass canned for being a player.  Check it out:

David Colby was one of corporate America's most admired executives before he was fired abruptly last spring for what was vaguely described at the time as misconduct of a "nonbusiness nature." Now details about his personal life are spilling out, and it's clear he was more than just Wall Street's darling.

Details in a motion filed Jan. 15 in Ventura (Calif.) Superior Court depict the former chief financial officer of health insurance giant WellPoint as a corporate Casanova -- a world-class, love-'em-and-leave-'em sort of guy who romanced dozens of women around the country simultaneously, made them extravagant promises and then went back on his word.

The moral of the story?  DON'T LIE TO WOMEN.  It will always come back to haunt you.

SteviePUA Is Back!

So one of the old timers from Mystery's Lounge, SteviePUA, is now back in the mix it seems.  Stevie was always an interesting guy who posted great material on the Lounge, but he alsso used to keep a few online journals about his exploits before he disappeared for a while.

So imagine my surprise when I got this email from Stevie a while back:

I hope your dad is doing ok. I read about him on your site a number of times recently. I wish him and you my best regards.

 

You and your readers might enjoy a lot of the new material I have made available for the first time - new audio, video and posts.

 

I've just put up an Interview Series with one of the best PUAs I've met in Asia.

 

Also I've got a new, improved journal site which is in sections - field/lay reports, field techniques, game theory etc. In additional it includes an archive of my posts.

 

The address for the main site is

 

http://www.steviepua.com

 

and the journal URL is

 

http://www.steviepua.com/journal

 

Best wishes for 2008!

 

Stevie PUA.

I'm looking forward to seeing more stuff from Stevie in the future.  If you haven't been exposed to Stevie's stuff before, take some time and check it out!

Rules Of The Game - Video 3: Do You Need Money To Pick Up Chicks?

Yet another great video from Stylelife.

Rules Of The Game - Episode 3: Be Trashy (by Neil Strauss)

Awesome PUA Myspace Page

All righty...

I've always been a big fan of PUAs branching out and keeping their own blogs and websites dedicated to helping the community and others learn how to improve their love lives, and there has been an explosion of PUAs on social networking sites.

There's my own social networking page - tclounge.com.  That site has grown beyond my own expectations and people really seem to be enjoying it.  And it's 100% focused on Pick Up.

But I recently stumbled across a fabulous Myspace page by someone named Vaoncan, which is a fantastic resource.  In his blog, he's compiled a few posts that he bills as the "Best of MASF" that you simply must check out if you're a student of pick up.

I'm really happy to see this kind of expansion of the community.  Anything that makes it easier for guys to learn the right way to get women is a-okay in my book.

Check out Vaoncan's myspace page here.

The 5 Hottest GI Joe Babes

For all you guys who brew up with GI Joe, you might find this interesting.

=)

The Shocking History Of Vibrators

I recently came across an interesting article that focuses on the history of the modern vibrator.  If you're looking for a fascinating read, check this out...

Until the 20th century, American and European men believed that women were incapable of sexual desire and pleasure. Women of that era basically concurred. They were socialized to believe that "ladies" had no sex drive, and were merely passive receptacles for men's unbridled lust, which they had to endure to hang on to their husbands and have children. Not surprisingly, these beliefs led to a great deal of sexual frustration on the part of women.

Over the centuries, doctors prescribed various remedies for hysteria (named for the Greek for "uterus"). In the 13th century, physicians advised women to use dildos. In the 16th century, they told married hysterics to encourage the lust of their husbands. Unfortunately, that probably didn't help too many wives, because modern sexuality research clearly shows that most women rarely experience orgasm from intercourse, but need direct clitoral stimulation. For hysteria unrelieved by husbandly lust, and for widows, and single and unhappily married women, doctors advised horseback riding, which, in some cases, provided enough clitoral stimulation to trigger orgasm.

But many women found little relief from horseback riding, and by the 17th century, dildos were less of an option because the arbiters of decency had succeeded in demonizing masturbation as "self-abuse." Fortunately, an acceptable, reliable treatment emerged: having a doctor or midwife "massage the genitalia with one finger inside, using oil of lilies or crocus" as a lubricant. With enough genital massage, hysterical women could experience sudden, dramatic relief through "paroxysm," which virtually no medical authority called orgasm, because, of course, everyone knew that women did not have sexual feelings, so they could not possibly experience sexual climax.

You know, it never ceases to amaze me how little anyone knows about female sexuality.  I mean - I know I am curious about it?  Were there no other men throughout history into the va-jay-jay?

Why We Flirt

I came across a rather interesting article on Time Magazine's website that asks the question "Why We Flirt?"

Contrary to widespread belief, only two very specific types of people flirt: those who are single and those who are married. Single people flirt because, well, they're single and therefore nobody is really contractually obliged to talk to them, sleep with them or scratch that difficult-to-reach part of the back. But married people, they're a tougher puzzle. They've found themselves a suitable--maybe even superior--mate, had a bit of productive fun with the old gametes and ensured that at least some of their genes are carried into the next generation. They've done their duty, evolutionarily speaking. Their genome will survive. Yay them. So for Pete's sake, why do they persist with the game?

The article goes on...

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How To Be An Attractive Bald Man

Being a bald dude myself, I can totally relate to guys who are losing their hair, and all the insecurity that goes with it.  Most guys think women don't like bald guys, but this simply isn't true.  However, I ran across a post by a guy named Klutch who made some very good points about baldness.

Check it out...

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The Truth About NEGs

All right...

Yesterday I posted a funny video that parodied Mystery and how he teaches to use "NEGs" to pickup girls.

It's funny, because I remember Neil telling me that when he went on his book tour for The Game, the press mostly asked him about "NEGs."  I also recently ran into a group of people who, when they found out I teach dating advice for men, instantly brought up this idea of what a NEG is...

And not surprisingly, people tend to have the wrong idea about NEGs and how they're used.  So I just wanted to take a few minutes and explain the true nature of NEGs.

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NEGs Really DO Work!

Looks like Mystery has some competition... lol.

Priceless.  Nothing says "high status" like wiping your ass with a girl's number.

Female Sex Blogs

There's always been this "myth" that women don't enjoy sex as much as men do.  Well, I know that's not true, and this video talking about how the evolution of blogs gave women the freedom to talk about their secret sexual desires and rendezvous simply blows that myth out of the water.

Check it out: