The Art Of Screening: How To Avoid Meeting Lame Women Online
September 16, 2011 by Thundercat
Filed under Tips & Tricks
Ellie210 posted an interesting question over on the mASF forums about how to avoid going out on dates with women you meet online who end up being lame (not ugly, mind you, just girls who aren’t fun to date). His question goes something like this…
ellie210 writes:
I get quite a handful of dates from online dating, in fact it’s my main source of recruiting new women. But holy fuck, a huge majority of these women are fucking lame. I’m not even talking about looks or how hot a woman is (I’m pretty impartial to looks, as long as she’s not a warpig). I’m talking about lame chicks who you can’t even have a conversation with for more than 5 minutes.
I know some of you guys just pitch the date off the site. What I do is get the girl’s number and I give her a call to pitch a day and time. But I also call to screen out lame chicks, if I end up carrying most of the conversation.
Do you guys get dates with women who turn out to be lame? Or do you always get dates with cool, awesome women?
Speaking as a guy who does a lot of online dating (and I mean A LOT), I can safely say that the way to avoid most “lame chicks” is to properly screen them BEFORE you meet up.
What do I mean by this? Read more
Girls In Your Facebook Profile Pic – Good Idea Or No?
September 13, 2011 by Thundercat
Filed under Tips & Tricks
MakotoIto had a question over on the Attraction Forums concerning the type of picture he should put in his profile on Facebook…
MakotoIto writes:
Hey guys.
Do you think it’s better to have a profile picture of you having a hot girl with your arms on their waist both smiling?
Since this might hit off pre-selection or it is a bad idea since people might think your attached?
For Facebook I can honestly say that having a picture with you and a hot girl in your profile pic can’t really do you any harm. It makes you look like a fun, attractive guy girls want to be around. But it also depends on what you’re using your Facebook profile for. If you’re trying to attract people to being your friend and getting them to meet you for events and things like that, then this is definitely something you can do. After all, Facebook is a great way to keep in touch with girls and at the same time project the kind of image you feel will be attractive to them.
However, I’ve found for actual dating sites, having pictures of you with other women can actually hurt your chances of meeting girls. Why? Well, when a girl looks at your dating profile page, she’ll judge herself against the girls in your pictures. If she feels the girls in your pictures are hotter than her, she’ll feel like you won’t go for her. If she’s hotter than the girls in your pics, she may deem you of “low value” and not bother with you. So on dating sites, keep the profile pictures to you and just you.
But Facebook ISN’T A DATING SITE, so its okay to stick pictures of you and hot girls in your profile picture. Just be sure the rest of your Facebook profile is congruent with that. Project a fun, positive energy, put up interesting and enjoyable status updates, and be active inviting people to fun events. If you can make your Facebook profile a central hub of activity, it won’t really matter what picture you put in your profile.
Romancing On Craig’s List
August 13, 2010 by Thundercat
Filed under Articles
Here’s an interesting article about dating using Craig’s List. Read more
Plenty Of Fish Profile Strategy To Attract Hot Young Women
August 10, 2010 by Thundercat
Filed under Tips & Tricks
JohnnyC69 has a great post over on the mASF forum about his strategy for creating profiles on Plenty Of Fish that attract hot girls. It’s a pretty interesting breakdown of how he structures his profile, and anyone who is interested in online dating should check it out.
JohnnyC69 writes:
So the other week, I decided to delete my POF and OKC profiles. I was telling myself that I was spending too much time online and that I need to be getting out and honing my cold approach skills.
Problem is, I’m waiting to start a new job right now and until I do, I’m broke and jobless. Temporary problem with the solution already resolved, but fact is, I’m stuck at home waiting and waiting and waiting.
Hell, even if I wanted to make a trip out to wal-mart just to chat up girls, I don’t have the gas in my car to do it!
So after about a week and a half of getting no action to speak of, I got bored and decided to try out a new type of profile. It still utilizes the screening approach I had before, but thanks to some tips from Regal (actually I copy/pasted his and made some minor variations…what? half the ideas were mine anyway!), it’s now really geared toward young hot women, which, around here, it seems the only true hot ones are aged 18-23. After that age, you start getting into the single moms, jaded biatches, etc.
I WILL NOT post the profile on here. After looking on PAIR and seeing how many local guys there are on here (you fucking lurkers! speak up for chrissake!), I can see it getting abused too easily.
I’ll give you the formula though:
Talk about yourself in a C/F manner in the beginning, i.e: “Me? What do I do? I kick ass and take names!” etc…it should be obvious that you’re playing around in an over the top, funny (but still cocky) way.
Next paragraph, tell her how amazing you expect her to be. Then go over the top funny in the descriptions of how she should be amazing. Be creative. In fact, feel free to brainstorm on ways we can make new templates from this model, I’d love to hear what you guys can come up with. I’m talking to you, Mankite.
So that was about it for the profile. I did decided to do something that I’ve never been a fan of, but so far has proven to be doing me some good: I lied about my age.
And why the hell not? 18-23 year olds discriminate against guys in their 30′s. And yeah, I can already hear Blackdragon getting ready to come in and breath fire and acid all over me for having a “limiting belief.” However, it’s just been MY experience.
So this time when I filled it out, I shaved a good 7 years off of my actual age. Another thing about that: I DON’T FUCKING LOOK MY AGE. If the lie was more congruent to the reality, then I don’t see a problem.
At any rate, it’s working. The strategy was to swoop in and find some young, impulsive girls looking to be hot and impulsive with an “older” guy…but not too much older. For some reason, a hot 25 year old guy seems to fit the bill for most of them perfectly.
Supposed to be going over to a hot 18 year old black chick’s house this afternoon. She sent me her number yesterday in response to my opening message. Did a little phone sexing last night. She invited me to come to her house today.
“I don’t have gas money”
“I do.”
“Well alright then, I guess I’ll see you tomorrow…”Young and impulsive indeed…
Some good stuff here. Also, having a good picture for your profile will help. If you’re going to put up pics, I recommend just putting up 1 really good pic. If you want to play coy, or you don’t think you’re that good looking, you can refrain from having a pic and put in your profile that you will send pics upon request. That’s worked real well for me in the past.
Questions About Online Game
August 6, 2010 by Thundercat
Filed under Analysis
EricTheViking over at mASF had some interesting questions about online dating I thought I’d address:
EricTheViking writes:
1. Why is it that I have much more success if I use the photos of some good looking guy on my profile? I thought looks don’t matter but if I looked like that guy I could have sex with a new 9 every week.
2. Why is it that you guys don’t use Facebook to find girls? Why dating sites»? I have tons of hotties on Facebook (literally hundreds), so could you, why use dating sites»? I’m really interested in an answer to this question.
Let’s answer these questions in turn… Read more
How To Get Girls To Meet you Off Of Facebook
February 19, 2010 by Thundercat
Filed under Tips & Tricks
Checkmater over on mASF had a good question about getting girls you meet on Facebook to meet you offline.
Checkmater writes:
I spend way too much time on Facebook. Facebook chat, messages, poking etc they’re all great low-commitment ways to talk with girls. I have a few good things I’ve learned, would also like to solicit some advice b/c I have such a hard time meeting some1 in real life afterwards. Out of 1000 friends there are at least 100 attractive women.
However, there is a downside. For instance, a girl recently wrote on my wall telling me I look like a certain celebrity. Great! I wrote her a little message back, 3 sentences saying “What’s up?” She replied, “What’s up to you?” I replied, with a dull question, then nothing. I posted something on my wall a week later, and she replied to it.
My facebook protip: Always end with some sort of witty interrogative. Absurdist questions are sometimes good. Negging her facebook profile picture, be careful though, you might think it’s funny to write, but it may not be nearly as funny to read.
Request for protip: How do I get from here to, coffee, etc.
First of all, for those of you interested in Facebook Game, check out the article I just wrote over at Pick Up Evolution about meeting girls on Facebook.
But as far as meeting girls offline from Facebook, here is my advice…
There are two ways I know of to take Facebook meets offline. The first is to host some type of event that you can invite people to. Whether its throwing a party or organizing a group to go out, you invite the girl you want to come along and bring her friends, and follow up with her to make sure she’s coming. Then, at the event, you chit-chat and number close or set up the date right there.
A second, slightly more sneaky option, is to check and see if she has her phone number listed in Facebook. Lots of people who update Facebook through their phones include their number in their contact info on their profile. Because only your friends see it, they don’t think twice about sharing, so you can get her number directly and start texting her and eventually set up a coffee date.
Another option is to email her and ask for her number straight up. Just say something like you’re updating your contacts and you realized you don’t have her number, or something like that.