My Secret Identity — The Dichotomy of a PUA

February 4, 2004 by Thundercat
Filed under Rants & Reviews

**Reposted from the first Lair, original date: 12/24/03

Growing up, I used to collect comic books. I was pretty hard core about it too. I started when I lived in Germany and it was the only American thing my family had available for kids, and its a trend I continued until high school. I eventually stopped because I was spending upwards of $200 a week on comic books. Seriously, I was addicted. All the money I had went to owning that shit. My parents had to orchestrate an intervention to break me of this habit. I probably have a good $3,000 worth of comics packed away in our basement somewhere.

The funny thing is, the heroes in those comics always had a secret identity. You could break it down to who they really were, and their super-hero persona. In fact, many stories often dealt with how these heroes would cope with their secret identities and who, in fact, they really were. I find it a very similar parallel to where I currently am in my life and my development as a Pick-Up Artist.

There are situations I’ve been in since I’ve been home where I’ve found myself wanting to sarge a girl, but in a way I feel like I either can’t or shouldn’t do it because I’m with my family. The problem with family is that much of the time, they will not understand why you are doing what you are doing. At least for me, who comes from a fairly conservative, catholic family, my parents would at the very least be puzzled and at the very worst, shocked, at what I was up to most of the time. Not only that, but my younger brothers (who’ve never had the problems getting women that I’ve had to face) would be very judgmental about it. In a way, if I revealed to them this aspect of my life, I’d be putting myself at a disadvantage because I’d be opening myself up to judgment by my family.

Obviously, what they think of me doesn’t really matter. However, it would affect the interactions I’d have with them in the future, especially if they think I’m not very good at this whole “pick-up” thing. The best time to reveal this aspect of my life would obviously be with a beautiful fiancee on my arm, but I don’t expect that to happen for a very loooooong time, if ever.

So up to that point, I’m stuck living a double life when it comes to my family and AFC friends. This community is a saving grace in a way, because I now have a network of guys who I can not only talk about this stuff with, but also who understand where I am coming from. Its a valuable asset, and one I’m quite grateful for.

I know a lot of guys like Papa and Swinggcat are very open with their families about what they do, but I just don’t feel comfortable telling my mom that I’ve devoted a great deal of my life to learning how to get laid by any girl I want, including 3-somes and strippers and any other variety of girl. She’d have a fit. This is the same woman who forbade me to date until I was 16. Can you imagine letting it slip that I’ve frolicked through Vegas with a group of strippers trying to score some drugs so we could party down in my hotel room? Yikes.

I’m interested in how people handle this. I know that if you’re congruent with it, it doesn’t matter, but there’s still that nagging reservation about revealing my secret identity to others. Its a rather sticky wicket, if you ask me.

Until that time, I guess I’ll just stay locked in the nearest phone booth.

Thundercat

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