Stuart Smiley was Full of Shit

February 4, 2004 by  
Filed under Analysis

**Reposted from the first Lair, original date: 12/22/03

I want to talk about something that has been a part of the seduction community since Ross Jeffries recorded two little cassette tapes in someone’s garage back in ’97. Its something that is an evil, dirty, foul little beast which in my opinion has no business being ANYWHERE near the people who are actually trying to get good at this stuff. So what am I speaking of? Simple. I am speaking of:


The reason I speak of this is because there is a topic on mASF that caught my eye. Here it is:

Topic: Affirmations (1 of 8), Read 343 times
Conf: >> General
From: 7
Date: Sunday, December 21, 2003 08:35 AM

I have a few questions about affirmations.

Do you use them and do they work for you?

When do you say them and for how long?

I have noticed that they stop working if I stop using them so do I have to keep doing them constantly or will the changes ever become permanent?

Someone suggested recording the affirmations to cd or cassette. Anyone noticed if listening to them has the same effect as saying them?

Would subliminal recordings be more effective? Anyone here know how to make subliminals?

Here is something for you to test. Last night I tried a new affirmation and I got approached twice. That rarely ever happens so it must have been the affirmation.

Here is the affirmation:

“All women get horny when they see me”

You can find the whole thread at:,8

But the reason I bring this up is because I believe that AFFIRMATIONS DO NOT WORK!!!!!

Period. End of story.

The days of Stuart Smiley looking into the mirror chanting “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and dog gonnit, people like me!” are over. In fact, I’d argue they were never really here to begin with.

Affirmations are for insecure people who desperately want any way to validate themselves, to the point where they will start trying to brainwash themselves into believing their insecurities do not exist. This is bullshit. There is no way to get past such insecurities unless you face them honestly and work to find their root cause. Not until you do that will these insecurities go away.

How do I know this? Because I’ve been there. I’ve done the affirmations, and I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt THEY DO NOT WORK.

I can remember back when I was a full fledged member of the Speed-Seduction cult when I was in college, I went ahead and bought the “Unstoppable Confidence” tapes, mainly due to the recommendation of Bishop (who ended up being a con man, go figure). I’d listen to those suckers every day. In the morning when I got up, on my walks to class, and even at night as I was falling asleep. I’d do the visualizations exactly as I was told.

Did it work? Well, no, not really. It didn’t make me feel any different. I was still insecure and scared, and no more confident than I was before. But I so WANTED them to work, that I convinced myself that they WERE working. So I’d go out and act all confident and full of power with my 50-foot tall self ready to crush anything that steped inside my circle of power that was created with my imaginary Green Lantern ring.

The thing is, it was all an illusion. Its okay to “fake it before you make it” in certain respects. But not when it comes to confidence. The thing about confidence is that no matter how well you fake it, something will happen to SHATTER that illusion for you, and it will affect all your actions because of that.

For instance, when I was doing the “Unstoppable Confidence” tapes in college, I’d start walking up to girls and sarging them, running the IC pattern, Blow-Job, Discovery Channel, etc. Most of the time it would go well, but occasionally I’d get a girl who’d say “Why are you talking to me?” “Who are you?” “Go away!” or some combination of the three. At that point, my “confidence” would be SHATTERED. I’d feel like a tool, a fake, a phoney. It ended up hurting me more than helping me BECAUSE I tried to cover up the real problem instead of facing it.

So to the guys out there wanting to do affirmations, I say DON’T DO IT! They may be a short-term fix for some, but long term they do not work! I would recommend that you take an honest look at yourself and try to determine what it is that makes you feel unconfidant, sad, unhappy, scared, whatever. Take a good hard look and figure out what’s causing it, and then FACE THAT. Do not hide from it.

The goal of all Pick-Up Artists or Seducers should be to become a single, congruent entity, and you cannot do that if you’re sweeping your problems under the rug. You gotta face them. Period.

/end rant


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8 Responses to “Stuart Smiley was Full of Shit”
  1. charlie says:

    Affirmations do work my friend. Scientifically proven. YOu’ve just been doing them wrong, switch the word I for the word you so you are telling your subcoincious trust me.

  2. tony jones says:

    In actuallity, the real way to get affirmations to work, is to not do “Affirmations” but do “Afformations”. That basically means to put the affirmations in question form, and watch your results sky rocket.

  3. Stevo says:

    Hey Tony,

    Would you care to elaborate?
    Maybe an example or two?


  4. tony jones says:

    No problem, check out Rex Sike’s website

    Noah St.John’s website

    In my personal experience when I was doing affirmations in the I or You form THEY SUCKED, they didn’t work, and in fact triggered the exact opposite and made me more scared and fearful. Again this is my personal experience everybody’s subconcious mind and experiences are different, some people may have deeper issues or whatever. Now, when I started to put the affrimations in question form I started to get amazing boosts in confidence and results.

    For example, lets take some exapmples from Ross Jeffrie’s unstoppable confidence tapes:

    1. You are aggresive, direct and powerful with the women you desire. (didn’t work for me)

    1. Why am I always so aggresive direct and powerful with the women I desire? (did work for me)

    2. You radiate a confidence, self-control, and charm that women find irresistably attractive.(again didn’t work for me)

    2. What is it about me that always radiates a confidence , self control, and charm that women find irresistably attractive?( did work for me)

    Notice that these questions presuppose that I already have these attributes that are stated, so what the unconcious mind does is find reasons to answer these questions no matter how logical or illogical it maybe. Thus, reinforcing the belief that you have these attributes and you are that way with the women you intercat with even if your not before normally. This takes advantage of the mind’s natural process of finding answers to whatever questions you ask it with sincerity,emotion, and repetition behind it.

    When you start doing this Stevo, report your results back to ths blog. I want to know what happens.

  5. Stevo says:

    Thanks for that TJ.

    I’ll let you know how I get on.


  6. Stevie says:

    If I want a girl to get horny and want to have sex with me when ever I play a Subliminal CD while she is in a room what kind of affirmation should I put on the CD.

    I was thinking something like “I am horny and want to have sex with “my name”

    Will that work or do I need something beter.

    I want it to be a powerful affirmation. something like “I am so horny I want to have sex with “My name”

    I need a real powerful affirmation.

  7. JustMe says:

    So…which works better? Affirmations with “YOU” or affOrmations? Who knows if it’s more effective to listen to the affirmations or say them aloud?

  8. Will says:


    This is my personal affirmation list. It’s mostly to help me be successful with women but also has a lot to do with having self-esteem, confidence and a healthy psychological state of being. Feel free to use it and share it with others. It took me a long time to build this list and I have found it extremely helpful.


    Beliefs of Naturals – My Reality

    Read 3 times before bed and in the morning(do it for a for month)
    Record in the second person. Play recording on a loop continuously at a low volume(whisper).
    Play recording during the day and at night while sleeping.

    1. Being with me is the best possible choice for any woman.

    2. Women love men and especially love me.

    3. I love life!

    4. I am God. I am Perfect. This is my universe!

    5. I am fearless, courageous and bold!!!

    6. I read incredibly fast!

    7. Women love sex and want sex from me.

    8. My intelligence, creativity and potential is infinite!

    9. Women love to be hit on even if they pretend otherwise.

    10. I am completely focused, organised and use my time with the utmost efficiency.

    11. Women are nurtures and pleaser’s who want to nurture and please me.

    12. I am a self-assured, confident, sexual and dominant male.

    13. Everyday in every way I am better and better!!!

    14. I have complete control over my life, mind and psychological state of being.

    15. I am the greatest genius this world has ever seen.

    16. I heal instantly!

    17. I am successful, confident and achieve my goals. I exude confidence, sex, power and self-esteem.

    18. I can be, do and have anything I want to in this world, my possibilities are endless!!!

    19. I love myself! I am complete, fulfilled and completely happy!!!

    20. I am growing more beautiful and luminous day by day.

    21. People love me! I make friends easily.

    23. I read and meditate every day. I access all the knowledge in the universe.

    25. I am completely irresistible to women!

    26. Regardless of how she is reacting to me she is getting aroused.

    27. I see the underlying truth in all things.

    28. I am an adventurer! I travel the world!

    29. Regardless of how she is reacting to me I am the prize she is trying to win over!

    30. I am a multi-millionaire and master seducer!

    31. I love what I do and am richly rewarded, creatively and financially.

    32. I have a perfect photographic memory! I recall everything easily.

    33. Since she wants to sleep with me, the power is in my court to decide whether she lives up to my standards and expectations. I get to decide if we get to sleep together.

    34. I create my own reality!

    35. Today I love my body fully, deeply and joyfully.

    37. Today I open my mind to the endless opportunities surrounding me.

    38. Prosperity surrounds me, prosperity fills me, prosperity flows to me and through me.

    39. I have sex with super hot, confident, loving, caring and intelligent women with genius IQ’s all the time!

    40. I think positively every day, all the time.

    41. I attract amazing people.

    42. My imagination and power affirmations are now creating the reality I desire.

    43. My body is now trained to burn fat and build muscle day by day.

    44. I have a six pack of abdominal muscles.

    45. Let these commands be fulfilled!!!

    46. I am filled with the light of love, peace, happiness, power, success and joy every day, all the time.

    47. I am aggressive, direct and powerful with the women I desire. I radiate a confidence, self-control and charm that women find irresistibly attractive.

    48. My mind is focused on what I desire and I go for it congruently and powerfully.

    49. I take immediate advantage of my opportunities with women. I swiftly establish incredible rapport, gather the information I need, then close with aggression, power and finesse.

    50. I radiate a natural, easy self-acceptance that women find irresistibly attractive.

    51. I am mastering the responses, attitudes, behaviours, insights and timing that bring me irresistible power with the women I desire.

    52. I am now approaching women that I am attracted to.

    53. I am able to pick up and attract any women I desire.

    54. I am a strong, powerful, aggressive, dominant, alpha male, leader and conqueror!!!

    55. I am charming, interesting and fascinating!!!

    56. I have a perfectly sculptured muscle ripped body.

    57. I am super hot and sexy, all women want me!

    58. Abundance is my natural state of being!

    59. Money comes to me easily and continuously from multiple sources!

    61. My IQ and intelligence increases daily rapidly!!!

    62. I have clear beautiful skin!

    63. I have lucid dreams and recall all my dreams with complete clarity!

    65. All things are now working together for good in my life.

    66. I am now attuned to my higher purpose in life.

    67. I rule the world! I am brilliant and perfect in every possible way!

    68. I succeed in everything I do!

    69. I have sex with one thousand super hot women!

    70. I am now enjoying everything I do and feel happy just being alive.

    71. Sex with super hot women comes to me easily and effortlessly.

    72. The light within me creates miracles in my life here and now.

    73. All things are now working together for good in my life.

    74. I am now attuned to my higher purpose in life.

    75. I have the infinite creative power of God within me.

    76. My higher self is guiding me in everything that I do.

    77. God lives within me and manifests in the world through me.

    78. The light of God surrounds me, the love of God enfolds me, the power of God flows through me. Wherever I am, God is, and all is well!

    79. I ascend spiritually rapidly everyday all the time!

    80. I am a Natural, Ladies Man and Player!

    81. Everywhere I go women want to fuck me!

    82. I have sex with supermodels daily.

    83. Supermodels have an incredible desire to fuck me wherever I go!

    84. I attract whatever I desire.

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