Supercharging Your Self-Esteem

A guy named Dreamcruiser over on mASF had a nice little post about how to rev up your state before you go out to da club.

Dreamcruiser writes:
Quite some time ago, when we started to frequently go out at night with friends, we had a special ritual to boost our state and bring everyone in the right party mood.

This was mainly because back then, none of us had much money and warming up with drinks in bars and clubs was too expensive.

So we all gathered at one of our friends place about an hour before going out. Each of us had a special video tape, with music videos and funny stuff on it, recorded for the sole purpose of getting everyone in a good state.

During the weekdays, we recorded the latest clubbing music videos (usually with loads of hot girls), short funny clips of various comedys, funny outtakes and even short clips of wrestling matches. Just everything that was really funny or exciting. Then on the weekend evenings, when we met at my friends place, we sat together with one or two beers and watched all the videos at full volume on his big ass TV. We laughed our ass off to the funny clips and the latest hot music videos got us in dancing mood. The combination of all your good friends having fun together, watching funny stuff and hot girls, listening to good music and enjoying a beer got us in god mode immediately.

When we started to feel like singing along with each song and the athmosphere was boiling, we rushed to the biggest club in town as fast as possible. No need to tell you we entered the scene as if the whole club fuckin belonged to us.

There were four large cages around the dancefloor with all the HBs dancing inside, while all AFCs were just standing around drooling. As soon as we got there, everyone of us stormed into one of the cages and had fun with the girls there. We were just so POWERED UP and state boosted, that we didn’t care for a second about anything but having fun and enjoying the moment.

There’s always been a lot of talk about state boosting methods in the community. But letters you read to yourself in front of the mirror to make you believe you are the shit are just not working as effectively as this method back then was.

So my advice is: dig out this secret weapon and use it to rock your place like a tornado. We’re in the digital age now, that makes it a lot easier to put together awesome state booster compilations on CD, DVD or even your harddrive.

Here’s what to do:

1.) Collect your favorite (party) music videos. For me this is usually house-music and some hiphop (usually hot girls in the videos also), but just choose what you like. Important: no calm, depressing or boring stuff. Also, you want to avoid that hardcore heavy metal stuff that makes you angry and aggressive. Just go for cool party music. And did i mention that lots of hot asses in the videos never hurt, haha.

2.) Collect some funny clips. Youtube style. Just short amateur clips you can find anywhere on the net – but only the best. They should make you and your friends laugh at it over and over again.

3.) If possible, put together some short movies clips and/or pictures of you and your friends having fun. Stuff that you recorded during your nights out, during the hollidays or other times where you just had a really good time.

4.) Collect some hot party movies, like from spring break or any other big party where everyone is just feeling perfect.

Then just drop all of this on a cd or dvd. Mix up the music videos with the party movies, drop in some funny clips here and there and also the clips of you and your friends.

Some facts about how this works:

Our brain has so called mirror-neurons. In short – they make us FEEL the things we SEE. Even when the things we see don’t affect us personally at all. That’s why we get horny when watching porn, or sad if some movie character dies, get scared from horror movies and so on. And that’s also why we get happy when looking at smiling people. So whatever it is that you see in your statebooster DVD, will put you in a similar state.

Through NLP you can conncet certain impulses to one ore more of your senses to emotions. For example, if you always listen to a special song while chilling, then this song will put you in a relaxed and calm state once you hear it. Or each time you are out and feeling god-like, you wear a special shirt. Then your mind connects wearing that shirt to feeling god-like and you will automaticly feel better each time you wear it.

Putting together a statebooster DVD is many times that strong!! Why? Because it triggers multiple senses at once. You SEE the videos, you HEAR the music, you FEEL your friends around you and all of these impulses are connceted to feeling god-like. You can even enhance that effect by adding a special drink (cocktail or something) you only drink during such "warmup" occassions and thus adding the TASTE state-trigger.

Important: All of these state triggers have to be connected in your mind with very positive states. That means you have to REALLY LIKE these songs and you have to REALLY LAUGH at the funny clips. But NEVER watch this DVD when feeling really bad. It may lift you up a bit temporarly, but you will destroy the effect of the DVD forever, because your mind will then conncet the triggers to feeling bad. Otoh, you could just put together a new compilation.

And you can always add new stuff to this compilation. Just keep the best stuff (these things will become "classics" and "insiders"), and replace everything else with better stuff you find over time.

ENJOY!!!!!

Never underestimate the importance of state control.  Knowing how to make yourself feel good is crucial to raising your self-esteem and feeling confident.  Dreamcruiser suggests a good visual way of amping yourself up.  Another good way is listening to music that gets you excited and feeling good.  But like he also says, NEVER watch or listen to these things when you’re depressed or not feeling good in an effort to "cheer yourself up."  you only want to associate your "state chargers" with good feelings, not bad ones.