Dr. Paul Seminar Review

Here’s a review from a rather satisfied customer of the one and only, Dr. Paul…

My Story

Hey Folks, my name is Mike, and I attended the inagural Dr. Paul Dating OS seminar in Chicago last December. Before the event, I had spent a considerable time reading lots of the material that seems to have flooded the dating community, if you can call it that. Some good, some great, some bad. Lots of techniques and some self-improvement stuff. It helped and I saw some improvement in my dating life. In my life I had a couple of girlfriends and hooked up some, but it was hit and miss. I even went through a multi-year dry spell. A couple of them. I was still finding myself unfulfilled. In fact, it mostly sucked.

I seemed to attract a bunch of nuts and none of the women were ones that I really wanted to be with, and weren’t the right ones for me. Like most guys, I was just couldn’t get the ones that I really wanted. I would get slammed and rejected and I just couldn’t push myself to the next level and put things together. I had started reading Dr. Paul’s newsletter and books, and it just seemed to make sense to me. It presented a durable solution and I found that I was able to accept the concepts intellectually. Personally, I wanted to find a better solution that having a cadre of techniques that are derived from breaking down what is essentially a pretty simple process: that of attraction. His point really is true: Address and fix your inner game, and the outer game will follow. Enter the seminar. As soon as I found out about it, I knew I had to attend. It was December, and there were a lot of things I could have done with the money I was going to spend on the seminar and the trip, but I "just knew" I had to take advantage of this opportunity.

Fast forward to a cold December Saturday morning in Chicago. I went to the building where our meeting was not knowing what to expect. I walked in, and saw guys (and a lovely woman!) of all ages, backgrounds, and experience. I was surprised to find guys from all over the world too. There were 25 of us, and we were all there for 1 thing: to improve our dating lives. Finally, it was time to go upstairs and get ready for the seminar. We had to take care of paperwork and other things before we started. And I finally got to meet Dr. Paul in person.

The seminar started, and once I took a look at the material and what we were going to cover, I was BLOWN AWAY. The research and refinement Dr. Paul had done to this material addressed all of my dating life issues and how to handle them. All the way from knowing why certain girls weren’t right for me, to how to find exactly what I wanted in a woman and how to get it. Why I havent had relationships go to the next level, or last for the duration too. The importance of having a story. I am bound by a non-disclosure agreement, so I won’t go too much into the material. I will say after being in the classroom all day, the chair I was sitting in was killing my butt, but I wanted more. But, it was time to get ready for dinner, and the FIELD portion of the workshop. Theory and reading is one thing, but to see it in action is another. None of this stuff would have had the effect on me it did without it.

We went to dinner as a sort of family. A chance to bond, hear stories, and meet and get friendly with the coaches. We were assigned into smaller groups with a coach, and then had plans to switch groups later on. This way everyone got time with Dr. Paul. I left to go change to meet later with the guys at our first stop of the night.

I walked in the Cubby Bear, a neighborhood bar in Wrigleyville, and our first stop of the night. It was an X-mas pub crawl, and all of the bars were jammed with people. Now, in my life I have had problems with anxiety and I can tell you that it was at an all time high here. I was under glass, as the coaches were evaluating all of us from our dress and body language, to our attitude and approach. I found the guys, and saw Dr. Paul in his pimpafied fur coat with his big pink ring. He had about 7 girls around him and one was kissing his ring. I could not believe it. Typical to my history, I didnt really want to engage anyone, but a coach found me, and forced me into an approach. We talked to a couple of friendly girls, but I could feel myself blowing it, going down in flames. The coach said "you have too much negativity man. You are too negative. It’s like you are pissed off or something." In hindsight it was something I needed to hear. In the moment, it didnt help, and I started to feel bad.

Our next stop was Red Ivy, a bar a couple of doors down. Once we got in, we switched our coaching groups. I was feeling pretty low not being able to approach anyone. I hung out with your coach, Jacob (name amended to protect privacy) and watched some of the other guys. Jacob is an interesting fellow, an artist. Women are literally not a challenge AT ALL for him. In fact, he is from out of state, but didn’t even bother booking a hotel room in Chicago for the weekend, if you get my drift….anyway, Jacob really wanted to help me. He said "find a girl you like and tell me. We will do something about it."

I saw 2 girls and 2 guys standing in sort of a box, with the girls facing each other and the guys facing each other. The hotter of the 2 (tall, blonde, fit around 25, named Sam) looked at Jacob once, then twice. He had his back to her. I said "hey Jacob, that girl over there just looked at you. Twice." He said "which one, that one?" "Yeah." He walks over and I follow in order to eavesdrop. He walks up, at sort of an angle…

Jacob: So…you like to dance?
Sam: No not really.
Jacob: No me either.

Now, that was all I could hear of the conversation, but it seemed to me like Sam had this look of "like you have a chance with me." But they quickly got cheek to cheek and were talking mouth to mouth, on the verge of making out. Turns out her group was leaving, going to the next bar in the pub crawl. Jacob got her phone number and put it into his cell phone. 30 seconds MAX.

No "how old are you, what do you drive, how much money do you make, what do you do." None of that, and he was almost making out with her. Blew my mind. (Incidentally, I followed up with him the next day on the phone number. I wanted to see if it was real. He goes "Oh yeah. Let me call her." He called and her machine picked up. I was listening over the phone. "Hi, this is Sam." Enough said…) Back to the bar. I managed to get in my own head and kind of strayed away from the groups.

I watched some of the guys talking to girls and the coaches talking to many girls. I literally shut down and couldn’t get anything going. Honestly, I was FREAKING out inside. Dr. Paul noticed this, and said "don’t worry about it. I will work with you personally this weekend. We will get this taken care of." At the time, I didnt believe him.

It was time to go to the next bar, and we were standing around talking, waiting on the other guys to gather up. Around that time, Orion (you might know him from David D stuff) asked me how I was doing. "Crappy" I replied. He was kind of disappointed I think. I kind of backed a couple of feet. Next thing I knew, he yelled to me. "YOU! Those 2. NOW!" and pointed to a couple of girls. I didnt have time to think. I went up to them…

Me: Hey girls, how’s it going.
Girls: Good
Me: Are you guys doing the pub crawl? Having fun?
Girls: Yeah

About this time I was stuck for something to say. Luckily one of the guys from the seminar stepped in and started talking to one of the girls, leaving the hotter one for me; Allison – best looking girl I had ever talked to. Ever.

Me: So, that’s a beautiful scarf you have on. Does it make you warm and fuzzy?
Allison: Sorta, I just like it. I like your shirt.
Me: Thanks. Look at my ring too. Cool isnt it? You should kiss it. (Tried to steal the Dr. Paul line)
Allison: Noooo, dont think so.
Me: So you are a good girl then?
Allison: I like to think so.
Me: Well, I would like to find that out.

About this time, I was struggling for more to say, and I did all I could do at this moment.

Me: Well, I am going to go back to my friends.
Allison: Awwww. (Turns to me, and blows me a kiss)(No joke).

I walk back to Orion, and all he says is "See?" I knew what he meant.

We go to the next club, an upscale and exclusive bar in Mid-Town. There was a private party in the upstairs and weren’t many women in the downstairs part. We had bottle service (first class!) and it was a good time to reflect and discuss what went on at the other bars. Jonandre worked with me on some style tips and ways to carry myself.

I caught a cab with Dr. Paul and went back to the hotel. I was EXHAUSTED, but it took me a while to get to sleep. I was so excited about what took place that night. But wait….it gets better….

Sunday morning we all met back in the classroom, and things were abuzz with field reports and stories. I didn’t have much to tell, but the progress that I made was huge for me. We covered the more advanced material of the program. A part of the seminar that was interesting was that Dr. Paul had many movie clips that really highlighted a lot of the material and how it manifests in real people. It was a huge eye opener, and we all could quickly analyze the situations in the movie with the framework of the DatingOS. Great, great stuff. We were all amazed at how fast we picked this stuff up. We analyzed some high profile couples too. Why Brad & Jen split. Why Bill & Hillary are still together.

Now, this is where Sunday gets real interesting. Dr. Paul does an EMDR demonstration at each of the seminars. No doubt, you have heard of EMDR in the newsletters, so I wont go into technical details here, other than it is a very advanced and effective sort of hypnosis technique. It eliminates barriers that other methods do not. Dr. Paul had promised to address my issues that came up Saturday night, and now it was time. Another guy had done it before me, so it became my turn.

I was apprehensive about having my inner issues drawn out before an audience, but I came to Chicago to get my problems solved, so I did COURAGE and went up. The best I can describe the process is that my mind went into a cloud-like state. I could tell that it was completely relaxed. An event came up from my life that I had completely forgotten about. Oddly, I found it linked to my total self-image, and that transferred to how I interacted with women. 20 minutes later, it was over. I felt like a new person. That something that had been holding me back for too many years was gone now. The guys in the group were all very supportive, and thanked me for sharing in front of them.

Time for dinner again, and another field workshop. We went to Stanley’s Kitchen, a famous restaurant and karaoke bar in Chicago. Had a great dinner and follow-up discussions. Watched all of the coaches talk to a couple of the servers and had them laughing and falling all over themselves to hang out with the coaches. We went to the karaoke side for a bit and watched Robert, a guy from the seminar TEAR UP "Wanted Dead or Alive" by Bon Jovi. (nice). A couple of the guys remarked that I acted like a new person. From there, a few of the guys stayed and Stanley’s and some of us went to Spoon, an upscale club.

Sunday nights are industry night, which translates into "models and up-and-coming actresses come here tonight." I walked in to Spoon with Robert, and we went to the upstairs part of the club. Robert went off to dance, and I was standing off to the side of the dance floor. Next thing I know, 2 girls grab me, and off we go to the dance floor. We danced a while, then went up to the bar. Some other girl comes up to us, and starts talking and hanging out.

Then another hott blonde comes up and starts dancing in front of me. All this is while I am standing there with my back against the bar, chatting up the girls. In walks Dr. Paul, and he says "Dude! What is this?!?" I looked at him like, "hey man, I dunno. But they are here." A couple of the girls get us drinks, and Paul says "let’s do some advanced stuff." "That girl is testing you…turn your back to her. NOW!" I did it. 20 seconds later he says "now turn back to her, slowly." Did that, and she smiled.

About this time, the blonde grabs me for some attention. I pick up my finger and wave in a NO NO manner. She gives the pouty look and I motion for her to turn around. She does, and starts grinding her posterior on me. She looks back, and I give her the bored look. So she lifts up her short shirt to show me the tattoo on the small of her back. Then, I motion to her for more. Next, she pulls the strings of her little pink thong out of the top of her pants. I laugh. NICE!

One of the other girls walks off, and Dr. Paul goes "let’s send to her." So we send, and she comes walking back in a few minutes. Great stuff. I could not believe what was happening. I had 5 girls that came up to ME, in the hottest bar in Chicago. Unbelievable. I even showed one of the guys from the seminar what I was doing and helped his game. Sure enough, a couple of girls came up to him. From there, we were exhausted, and decided to call it a night. I had accomplished what I wanted to.

Notice that we used "sending." Sending is such an underrated method. What I have found is that your are sending ALL THE TIME. Don’t believe me? The next time you pull up at a traffic light, look over at the car next to you. The person always looks over. And women do it twice as fast as guys. That’s sending my friends. In a nutshell. I will give you a small tip about sending for reading this far, free of charge, from me to you.

When I enter a place, be it a club, restaurant, music event, or whatever, I have what I call a default send. I imagine sending warmth, and good positive emotions all over the area. From there, I find the place I want to hang and stay there. In less than an hour, women will be orbiting and milling around. They will come up and say, "I am not sure why, but I felt I needed to come up to you." I have merged many groups of friends using this method, and made many new friends. It’s unbelievable how this works. And it works over and over again.

Now, I will say this which is a theory. If I had not addressed my challenges and gotten this material from Dr. Paul, I would not be sure of the effectiveness of the above method. Maybe it would work, maybe not. I would be interested to hear reports from anyone that tries it.

So, thats my story. Dr. Paul promised that anyone that attended the seminar, he guaranteed that they would have a great guy/girl by New Years. I didn’t have one. I had three. In January, I had four. And they all knew about each other. Heck, on the way home from Chicago, I met a girl on the way out of town, 2 at O’Hare, and 2 on the plane. In between I have had many relationships that were short-term in nature.

Now, I am dating a wonderful Lover (I am a warrior) that is Ivy-league educated, works with special needs children, and is beautiful. She is on my energy level, and we have a great time. But, I still socialize and make friends with new women all the time. I always wanted to hang out at the house and sit on couch or on the computer. Now, I am always going out. I would much rather socialize than anything else.

Before the seminar, my favorite complaint was "I never meet any women, and the ones I do are all nucking futs." Now I say "I cant believe there are so many beautiful, wonderful women that have so much going for them. How can I date them all?" Seriously. I came back from the seminar and studied the material, and have gone over the events of the weekend again and again. It really was life-changing.

Whatever happens with my current girl, I know I can meet a wonderful woman at any time. Do you have any idea how great it feels to walk into a place, and get looks from women that acknowledge they know you are a guy that has it together? In watching the coaches, I saw that attraction happens in 30 seconds or less. Everything that needs to be communicated is done in that time span. (Remember the Jacob story?)

Having access to the best dating system literally on the planet has put me over the top in that 30 seconds. When you KNOW, in your head and in your heart that you possess ways to deal with anything that women throw at you and anything that happens in relating to the opposite sex, it literally becomes no problem anymore. Rejection? Yeah right. At the worst, if someone walks off from me, more often than not, they will come back later on. It’s just a test to see if you get rattled. Having this material makes it HER LOSS that she chooses to miss out on getting to know you. Even if a particular girl doesnt come back, so what? I can easily meet more.

This part of my life is handled. It’s over. Having this out of the way, has allowed my quality of life to skyrocket in other areas. I have used this stuff and applied it to my business life with much success. My superiors have all mentioned that I seem more mature, and able to handle things better. I can easily frame the personality of people I have to meet and deal with on a daily basis. I have moved into a leadership role. I am continuting to use EMDR to overcome some business challenges, and move into a self-employed situation.

You wont see me in the "Top 10 Pick-up Artists of the Year" that Thundercat puts out (on which Dr. Paul got an honorable mention by the way this year.) You wont see me going toe to toe with Mystery, or the RSD guys. I couldnt care less about that stuff. I don’t want to notch my bed post with the number of strippers I have banged. (Although, I did a little demonstration for my brother with a girl from his work. To this day, she will not leave him alone about me) I am just a guy from Alabama that went to the seminar, did courage and handled my business, and have had more success than I can imagine. Sometimes, I think I am living in a dream.

Finally, I want to mention Dr. Paul is a great guy. He could be teaching this stuff for 2, 5 or 10 times the price AND GET IT. He could work one on one with weathly guys. But he doesnt. He chooses to work with groups in a seminar format, that is less in cost than other guys that is not nearly as effective. He even gave me a ride back to my hotel from Spoon on Sunday night at 1 A.M. even though I could tell he was tired, and had to be back at work on Monday morning. Dr. Paul, from the bottom of my heart, I want to say "THANK YOU." My life is incredible now. I went through years of medication, therapy and other stuff, and nothing ever came together until the seminar. Thanks so much.

Most of the other guys out there that do workshops focus on the actual pick-up. Some have good stuff. Like I mentioned, the process of attraction happens in less than 30 seconds. After that, what do you do? Attraction, after all, is a pretty simple process that has been sliced and diced up by guys teaching stuff. In my experience though, you either have it together or you dont. Dr. Paul addresses all of that. Anything that you can encounter all the way from "picking-up" to marriage or a break-up is handled. There are less than 100 people on the planet that have this information. Good for us, bad for you.

For the people that were on Dr. Paul’s list back when he offered the seminar in December, but didnt attend, another 6 months has gone by. Are you where you want to be? I am, and more. When I committed to going, I didnt really have the money either. But, in January, I lucked in to getting some side work for a couple of weekends that exactly paid for the seminar, and my plane ticket and hotel room. Deliver pizzas, cut grass, whatever for 3 months. Just get there.

As a favor to Dr. Paul (incidentally I haven’t communicated with him since the seminar) I have set up a new e-mail box. If anyone has questions about being a seminar STUDENT only (I am not qualified to answer problem questions) email me through Dr Paul’s assistant, shauna (shauna@doctorpaul.net), who has kindly agreed to forward questions to me.  And no, not under any circumstances will I give you a copy of the material. Don’t even ask. It wouldn’t make sense to you anyway without the classroom instruction. Any of the guys from the December seminar, I would love to hear from you; let me know how things are going!

Take care all.

Mike

Sounds like Dr. Paul has some interesting inner game techniques.