Have a Goal

I found a post on mASF from a guy named Sreomon which I thought was pretty good about the importance of keeping a goal in mind during your interactions with women.

Sreomon writes:
Hey guys,

I am starting to notice a lot of guys just go out to “sarge”. They run around clubs doing sets, and jumping from set to set every 10 minutes. They run material…stop…NEXT… run material…stop… NEXT.

I agree that when you are first starting out, its good to get comfortable talking to chicks, but afterwards, IF YOU WANT results you have to SPEND the time. As per my field experience, I may do 5-6 sets all night (at a busy club), 3-4 will be solid # closes (spend 20-30 min), and spend the rest of the time to get a ONS with one/two chicks. I may leave the set and talk to other people. I am not “doing sets” but SOCIALIZING.

The question you have to ask yourself, is “WHAT IS MY GOAL FOR TONIGHT?”. If its going out and trying new material, then running around trying that “new” line may be fine. BUT if you are frustrated in trying to understand why you are getting so many flakes, the main reason is probably because you didn’t spend enough time. If you invest the time to learn about them, they will invest the time in you.

Also, its not always about RUNNING “game”, this is not a show, you are not an entertainment monkey. IF you entertain, I am sure you will run out of gas before you get to the lay. All the PUAs I willing to bet are really good at “shooting the shit”, they talk about everyday life and make it interesting and funny, they don’t necessarily run “material”. They may have good stories they share but the “glue” that makes it all work is maintaining a good conversation and talking about “normal” stuff. Making women feel, I can talk to this guy about ANYTHING, he is a central piece in my “puzzle”. Understand the process/stage the PU is in and play your cards accordingly.

The KEY is: ALWAYS HAVE A GOAL FOR THE NIGHT. When I had the threesome last weekend, my goal that night was to have a threesome, I didn’t just stumble upon it. There were opportunities present and I made the best of them, and you can do the same.

If you don’t know what your target is, then where are you going to aim?

I think there’s something to be said about having a goal and pursuing it relentlessly. It’s amazing what we as humans can do when we put our minds to something. When we have a goal, it helps us to create a gameplan on how to achieve that goal, and that gameplan is part of what we in the PUA community study – be it Mystery Method, DYD, or Swinggcat, it’s all about finding the things we need to get from point A to point B when it concerns a woman.

If you want to read the whole thread, check it out here.