The Truth About Boyfriends

You know, I’ve been thinking about a few things lately (always a dangerous thing, I know). One of the things I’ve been thinking about are girls who have boyfriends, and even husbands. It’s funny, because I don’t know if you guys have noticed this in your experiences, but have you ever been conscious of how most girls have boyfriends who are really, really lame?

I mean, even if they’re good looking, most boyfriends are pretty beta guys. They’re kind of wimpy and AFC or what have you. They’re very “safe.” Same goes for most husbands. They’re the responsible guys. The guys who make money, pay the bills, fix the car, take out the trash. They’re the guys who are understanding, nurturing, caring, who take care of the kids and will cook the occasional meal. But they’re often not the guys who can stir that unbridled passion within a woman. Maybe they once were, but for the most part, most guys I’ve met who were out with their girlfriends were pretty lame.

But the same is true for guys too. Lots of guys will often choose a girlfriend or wife based on how sweet and loving she is. How well she can cook, how loyal she will be, whether or not she’s willing to clean and do laundary. Whether she’s a good mother or not. She may not be the best looking girl in the world, but you know she’ll take care of you and she’ll be there when you need her. She’s “safe.”

But the guys most women will sleep with are the Bad Boys. The Players. The guys who are arrogant and cocky, and can stir that passion within them. They’re the guys who are the great fucks, but the girl might not want to see for a steady relationship. They’re the guy who she never has to see sick, or sad, or see the skid marks in his underwear, or his inner most thoughts and feelings. With him, the illusion of excitement and adventure is still alive. And by that same token, that goes for guys going after hot party chicks too. The only problem is that once someone gets into a relationship with this type, the reality comes crashing down and it’s usually a dismal failure.

But this is an important thing to make a distinction about when it comes to pick-up: The men women have as boyfriends are not necessarilly the men they want to sleep with. And if a man comes along that can stir passion within them, they WILL cheat on their boyfriend/husband. So this means that the BF/Husband is not a real obstacle. Sure, the woman may LIKE the BF/Husband. She may even love him. But in the end, he’s safe and boring, and no one can resist excitement and adventure.

This is where I think a lot of the major Players out there excel. They do not let this false barrier stop them from getting the girl. But by the same token, it may also sour them on Long Term Relationships because they know how people work in this regard, and know that if any guy comes along with a modicum of game, his girlfriend/wife will sleep with him! Kind of a bitter outlook, isn’t it?

I don’t know, I just think this topic is an interesting one, because for me personally, it puts a lot of stuff in perspective, especially when it comes to knowing how to control the underlying meaning of an interaction. For instance, say you like a girl who has a BF. You don’t have to get her to break up with him or anything, you just have to present a juicy alternative so that she can have her cake and eat it too. Why make her choose? Just beta the BF, work on attracting her, and seduce her. Make her feel like it’s not her fault that she’s doing this (cheating), that you’re just too charming or whatever.

Anyway, it’s something to think about.