Easter Dinner with AFCs

You know, learning a lot of these PUA tactics really takes a toll on you.  It’s very much like the movie Fight Club, where the real world gets the volume turned down and you begin to see and respond to the world in a different light.  Lately, I’ve been spending a lot of time with my friends in the community, guys who study this Pick-UP stuff almost as voraciously as I do (and some who study it WAY more than I do).  And when you’re in that reality, where a typical night is spent breaking down EVERY SINGLE interaction you had with people, you begin to believe that you’ve figured out certain things about how society REALLY is, and how completely clueless other people are.

This last Sunday, I had dinner with really two good friends of mine.  One is my best friend from high school.  The other is a good friend from college.  They both know each other through me, and became good friends, so it was the three of us just haning out.  Of course, neither of these guys know anything about the Pick-Up Arts, or that I do this stuff in my spare time either.  But they both have known me long enough that they know the OLD me.  The bitter, fat cuss who resented women, and would be way too shy to talk to girls.  The typical AFC.

This Sunday, when we went to enjoy Easter Dinner together, was a very surreal experience for me.  It was like my reality had changed and completely left theirs behind.  I approached something like 7 women while I was with these guys, all of them hot, and they would just stand there and watch as I interacted with these girls on a level they probably have never witnessed before in their lives (and I’m not even that GOOD with this stuff yet!  lol).

They kept talking about how much I’ve changed.  They were complimenting me on my look, my dress, my outging nature… they told me I was so "Hollywood," which I guess is as good a compliment as any, seeing as how I love this town.  But the wierd thing is that I never noticed how BETA my friends were before.  I was doing a lot fo frame control in the group, kind-of laying out what the day was going to be, controlling the conversation, making them qualify to me a bit.  It’s amazing to see how most guys respond to these tactics, because with a strong enough frame, you can get guys to do the same thing you can get chicks to do when it comes to taking a strong lead.

I’ve noticed this at work as well.  My coworkers will often just do what they’re told, even by a subordinate like me, if someone says something with enough authority.

I guess it’s just interesting to me how these skills can really change you in ways you never expected.  I still like my friends and have a good time when I go out with them, but it’s a VERY different feeling than it used to be.