Be Yourself

Croatian PUA BadBoy chimes in with this nice little tip for all you “social robots” out there.

Badboy writes:
This is one of the biggest misunderstandings in community….. guys, who ever tells you, ‘Just be yourself’ is stupid advice…. they know NOTHING about woman…
I will tell you, the best advice WOMEN ever gave to men in HISTORY is: ”JUST BE YORSELF.’
BEST, BEST…

Now…let me explain…
When a girl says ‘JBY’(JUST BE YOURSELF), she is actually saying to you: be the alpha, confident… interesting guy… you actually are!
Take a look at typical situation.
There’s a typical AFC, lets call him “Mike.”
He is watching tv at his home, siting like an Alpha… using lot of space, yelling at people around him (sister, brother, girlfriend…. etc etc…) He is yelling at his girlfriend to get him a beer from fridge… He is a full fucking self-confident alpha. When he is in house, he is in control (like most of you guys here are)…
Now, there is female friend around — “JENNY”… she is watching all this, she knows Mike, they go out together sometimes… and she is really turned on by Mike being ALPHA at home…
But… they go out… and Mike has a fear of approaching woman, or when he talks to some girl, he is shaking… he can’t say words properly.
So, he asks JENNY for advice, and of course she tells him “JUST BE FUCKING YOURSELF”…. like when you’re at home!!!!
She is actually saying, “just be that self-confident C&F bastard, like you are at home, and chicks will LOVE YOU…”
That’s best advice a WOMAN gave to man in a HISTORY!!! Just be that alpha, confident guy, that guy you actually ARE!!!!
Let’s correct this mistake once and for ALL!!!!

**Note: I altered the above post to read better. Since English is not BadBoy’s native language, his posts can sometimes be hard to read. You can read BadBoy’s ORIGINAL post here.

I like this advice. And it’s true, when most people are relaxed and cool, they can be quite pleasent to be around. However, I think a lot of guys who get into this do so because being themselves just doesn’t work. BadBoy has a slightly different reality than most of the people I know. The Croation camp seems to be naturally more confident, more “I don’t give a shit,” in their attitude. So to them, that’s “Being Yourself.”

Most typical AFCs (Average Frustrated Chumps) who need help with women are usually socially off in some way. They have a problem connecting to people, or certain inner game issues that keep them from reaching their full potential. I know this because I was one of them. My Inner Game issues hindered me for a long time until I started working through them. I have been told COUNTLESS times by my friends to “Just Be Yourself.” My take on it — it’s a load of crap. Often times, you have to CHANGE who you are before you can truely BE who you are.

Of course, this doesn’t apply to all the “Alpha” guys. That’s why they’re Alpha.