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Viagrx online without prescription, So I'm reading the latest edition of the AskMen.com dating and relationships column, written by the one and only Doc Love, and I just feel like I gotta say something about this.

Anyway, here's the mailbag:

Les writes:
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I started dating Erin in August 2002. We had about five or six dates, but were otherwise seeing other people and things were moving very slowly.

In December, she asked me to go to New York for New Year's Eve, generic viagrx online. We went, had a fantastic time, Viagrx cheap, and then things took off more seriously. From that point, we both decided to date each other exclusively.

I fell in love with Erin and she fell in love with me. We went on a number of trips together and I treated her like gold, viagrx online without prescription. She was good to me in return, viagrx purchase, though I would have preferred it if she were more of a Giver.

All in all, she is a fantastic woman and has the kind of values that I want in a life partner. Viagrx overnight, However, I can see now that to some extent, I wasn't much of a Challenge as time went on.

We are both conservative and would never live together before marriage, so moving in with Erin was never an issue -- it was always when and if we were going to get married, cheap viagrx no rx. And marrying her was something I was mentally preparing to do, but I was just waiting for her signals to become more clear.

About two months ago, Buy cheapest viagrx on line, I noticed subtle changes in her behavior. She did a few minor things that indicated she was losing interest, so I asked her if that was the case. Viagrx online without prescription, She assured me this was not so, and being in a state of mind where I heard her say what I wanted to hear, I chose to believe her.

Well, cheap viagrx no prescription, one day out of nowhere she suggested that she needs "time apart." Not being a total idiot, I said time apart wasn't for me, Viagrx approved, and I defined my boundaries quite clearly and said if she was committed to me, then great, but if she wasn't, then we should stop seeing each other altogether and just end things like adults.

She did not like me setting my boundaries so strictly because I suspect they were rather unsettling for her and not convenient for whatever it was she was trying to achieve.

Anyway, canadian pharmacy viagrx, for the past six weeks I've been trying to distance myself from Erin (a painful and difficult experience). Over this same time period, Viagrx pills, she has shown up at my house (unannounced) to "visit my family" when she knew I was there, she has called me numerous times and has sent me a number of e-mails.

Initially I was sucked into these antics. On one occasion, on my deceased mother's birthday, buy viagrx once daily, Erin's sister was giving birth that same day. She called me and was upset, Viagrx in australia, so I took a pizza to her house to cheer her up.

On another occasion, I accidentally bumped into her when I was out with a (female) friend for a drink. Every encounter with her is totally awkward and draining, and last week I reiterated to her that I wanted to stay away from her until she has some clarity about what she wants, and in the meantime I'm going to get on with my life.

Given that I genuinely love this woman and care for her deeply, what would you recommend that I do, viagrx online without prescription. I can't allow her to treat me like a revolving door, but I don't want to entirely shut her out if she is somehow trying to extend an olive branch without coming right out and saying it.

As we all know, viagrx no online prescription, women are best judged by their actions, and right now hers are rather inconsistent (which implies low interest). Where to order viagrx, I know I can't do anything to control her, but when she contacts me again (which she inevitably will, either in person, or by phone or e-mail), cost of viagrx, what is the best thing for me to do?

So that's the sob story. Pretty cut and dry situation where the girl feels superior to the guy, Viagrx free sample, the guy suddenly exherts himself and cuts her off, and the girl starts to chase him again to revalidate herself. But here are Doc's responses...

Doc Love writes:
Viagrx online without prescription, Let's clear something up right out of the chute. The decision to "date exclusively" wasn't made by you and Erin together, buy viagrx canada. She decided to date you exclusively. What have I told you guys in the past. Buy viagrx online without prescription, We pick, but they choose. Big difference, and one you shouldn't lose sight of, viagrx online without prescription. And why did she make that decision. Because you managed to drive her Interest Level up into the 90s, buying viagrx online. At least for a little while...

Okay, so the whole thing starts off on the bad foot. Buy viagrx, We pick, but THEY choose. Viagrx online without prescription, Wow, talk about an AFC mentality. This goes down to the crux of the issue with many guy's interactions with women, and part of the thing this community and the tactics taught within try to combat -- FRAME CONTROL, cheap viagrx pill. Why do we have to let the girl CHOOSE. If you look at most naturals, Purchase viagrx, the guys who are INCREDIBLE with women, they are the ones who choose. The woman has to be good enough for them. Not the other way around, viagrx online without prescription. When you come from the frame of mind that the woman has the power to choose, viagrx online sales, you effectively give up any power YOU may have in the interaction because your basing your actions on what pleases and displeases her, when what most guys really need to do is come from the frame where she has to base HER actions on what pleases and displeases you. Drug viagrx online purchase, And the fact that the good Doctor is coming from this frame shows a lot about his medical training, IMHO.

When Erin told you she needed time apart, you should have said nothing, real viagrx without prescription. You should have smiled and walked out. Viagrx online without prescription, You don't sit there and give her your game plan, you don't tell her how you feel, you don't tell her what you're going to do -- you leave. But you did all this stuff. Cheap viagrx online, And in her mind, it was another wimpy form of begging.

Now, I agree and disagree with this point. I do think it's rather powerful to say nothing and walk out on a girl, viagrx no rx required, but I don't think this was the right context to do so. That's the sort of thing you pull with a shit test BEFORE you're in a relationship to demonstrate value. But this guy had been seeing his girl for a while, and getting up and walking off would have looked more like he was avoiding/ignoring the issues she had, viagrx online without prescription. Cheap viagrx internet, I think him laying out CONCRETELY and POWERFULLY what he wanted and then telling her to hit the road if she wasn't with the game plan was a very powerful thing to do, because it demonstrates CONFIDENCE and a WILLINGNESS TO WALK AWAY. A kind-of "You need me, I don't need you" frame, buy viagrx overnight delivery. And I think it's because he did this that his girl ended up chasing him afterwards. If you noticed, Buy viagrx in us, it actually sounded like her interest level began rising again after he walked away from her. Viagrx online without prescription, What do you guys think.

Anyway, the Doc goes on...

When Erin informed you that she needed her space, viagrx without a prescription, that was it. Finito. Buy cheapest viagrx, The end. You hit the magic number: 49%, viagrx online without prescription. Of course she'll play with you like a cat plays with a mouse at 40% to 49% and give you a little false hope, but when it hits 39%, she's in the arms of another guy.

Uh.., viagrx online without a prescription. this still comes from the frame where the woman has control of the relationship. In my opinion, Cheap viagrx on internet, her having control was the problem in the first place. Remember the part about her not being giving. Viagrx online without prescription, Well, that's because she wants a guy who takes a strong lead and TELLS her what to do. Once Les walked away from her, he took that strong lead and she responded to it, find viagrx online. If a girl wants to leave, then let her leave, Buying viagrx, move on. But her sitting down and talking to him was really a way for her to give him a chance to get her interested again, not to break up. But Doc seems to miss this point completely, viagrx online sale.

But whoa, wait a second here -- you got tough and set some hard boundaries that really bothered your girl, huh, viagrx online without prescription. Sorry, Les, Order viagrx in canada, but she wasn't really upset. It was just a little smokescreen she threw up that had nothing to do with anything. She was grabbing at something, anything, viagrx side effects, to indicate her low Interest Level. (The problem is, women never come out and say it. Viagrx online without prescription, "He lowered my Interest Level due to his deportment," is not something you'll ever hear tumbling out of a lady's lovely bee-stung lips.)

So what happened to all those tight boundaries when Erin showed up at your home. Why didn't you just duck out. Why didn't you tell her you were going to the kitchen for a second, then walk straight out the back door and come back at midnight?

Because you wanted the torture. I just hope you haven't answered any of her phone calls or e-mails. I have a feeling you did, though. Know why, viagrx online without prescription. Because you took that pizza with the works over to her when she didn't even ask you to. A huge, huge mistake. Les -- you're delivering pizza. Aren't you a little embarrassed, at your age, to be a delivery boy for a girl who doesn't want to possess you.

Viagrx online without prescription, Now, I agree about the pizza thing, but I don't think it's that big of a deal. Regardless, Les did fall back into the frame of wanting this girl and letting her control the interactions. But I think Doc's analysis here is WAY off. Is it just me. Am I crazy. "Make an excuse and then run away." -- This just seems like bad advice, viagrx online without prescription.

Anyway, the article goes on. You can read the whole thing in it's entirety here. It was actually tough for me to get through, because I so disagreed with the Good Doctor. Guess it just goes to show you don't need to be good OR right to make a living off of Seduction.

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HunterS says:

March 2, 2004 at 7:37 pm

Man that is so sad.

Guy is a complete AFC and this dude is telling him “give up, maybe she will come back when she is ready” (and has done the football team LOL).

What “Doc Love” could have done is be helpful and tell him WHY the G left to begin with – see FS101, DYD mailbag etc. for the basics….

What this G needs to hear is an ALPHA MALE say “How fucking DARE you come to my house, try to come into my FAMILY??? When you are fucking strangers like a COMMON WHORE??? I date WOMEN now, not girls. Call me when you are ready to be one.”

At least the guy will keep his self respect and possibly get his best chance of her returning.

Peace,

HunterS
Spencer says:

May 16, 2006 at 8:03 pm

Doc Love was the first internet “guru” I ever checked out, many years ago after a particularly bad breakup. From him I moved on to SS, DYD., MM, etc. etc. I found Doc to be a good stepping stone away from being an AFC and getting the right mind-set, but yeah, there’s better stuff out there as far as PU goes.

But after a few years of sarging using the more “advanced” methods of the seduction gurus, I’ve come back to Doc’s book. The thing is, he’s useless as far as PU goes, but as for relationship dynamics he’s right more than he’s wrong. The thing about “men do the picking, women do the choosing” is that Doc is right if you are talking about a long-term, marriage type of situation. For a quick one-nighter, yeah, the woman need only be marginally interested in ya, but if you want to get married and have the woman stay around long enough for your kid to grow up, you’re much better off picking one who likes you A LOT initially, ‘cuz it will just make everything easier later on.

Now that I feel like I’ve sown my oats a bit (I’m 35) and I’m looking for a more long-term committment, I find Doc’s advice is pretty right-on. Especially when it comes to weeding out the psychos. Sleeping with a chick a couple times is one thing, but if you’re talking about having one be the father of your child – whoa! I mean, these crazy chicks were a lot of fun when I was younger, but now they generally make me run for the hills. I fear this may be a sign of me *gulp* MATURING or sumthin’, but there it is…

I know many of you will think I’m an AFC for wanting to be a father, but I think it’s just one of the experiences I want to have before I die. I think I’ve had plenty of women, at this point in my life, so now I’m looking for one that I want to stick around for awhile. And Doc Love is much more helpful in THAT regard than any of the seduction gurus are.
Spencer is an asshole says:

May 16, 2006 at 10:44 pm

“Now that I feel like I’ve sown my oats a bit (I’m 35)”

Jerking off and sowing your oats inside your sock doesn’t count!