Mystery Speaks — Solving Incongruence

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So Mystery asked me to host a new audio message from him on the blog. I listened to it already, and it’s some really good stuff. Yet again, Mystery schools ol’ Thundercat on how things should be done (his audio is so much better than mine! *grrrrr*).

Guess I’ll have to start practicing my tonality again.

“Watermelon.” “Water-melon.” “Wat… er… melon”

Anyway, click Play below to listen to Mystery in all his glory!

Solving Incongruence

Slow Day

Hey guys,

Not a whole lot to post on today. mASF has really been lacking in quality posts and I’ve been too busy to search the rest of the internet for PUA related stuff. So the only real development today is the new audio from Mystery. Check back tomorrow, I should have some good stuff to put up then.

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That’s the last time I do an audio recording at two in the morning.

Thundercat Speaks

Okay, I got a special treat for you guys (well, those of you that care, anyway =). I just got some new software I’m futzing around with and am gonna give it a whirl right now.

In my never ending quest to fritter away what valuable free time I have, I’ve decided to move in a multi-media direction with the blog. This means more interactive stuff, like audio and possibly video, all geared towards PUA. So I decided to test things out and record this special message, just for you guys. =)

Well, there you have it. Me in glorious surround sound! Well, sound anyway. I’m serious about you guys giving me feedback so I know what you want to have access to here on the blog, so get those fingers typing!

Badboy Lifestyle, Vol. 3

Into Inner Game

By BadBoy

www.playboylifestyle.net

We all know how important INNER game is.  But have you ever stopped to ask yourself what this inner game actually is?  Is it when I memorized material very well or when I perfected the delivery of my voice?

Inner game is based on confidence, attitude and beliefs in your life in general.  Your attitudes toward life are going to be projected to the women you talk to, and they will attract her to you.  That is how most naturals get laid.  They developed these three aspects of their identity (confidence, attitude and beliefs), they begin to feel more confident, they start to behave like a prize, and that’s exactly what attracts women.

I enjoy analyzing these ideas, and I recently found something crazy below the surface.  People in general love leaders, especially women.  We all know why: they live in their own world, they radiate with confidence, they know what they want, etc.  Now I am going to teach you how to become a leader, how to make people follow you, love you, respect you…  These steps are the some basic ones you need to lead a successful life.

Yes, I am only 25 years old, but what I have lived through, you cannot even imagine.  I believe I learned a lot in these 25 years (possibly more wisdom than the average Joe collects in his entire lifetime).

The first observation is that charisma does not exist.  People do not know how to describe something that no one actually "has," so they call the effect "charisma" or say that they believe this guy is a charismatic person.  If you observe charismatic people, you see that they actually have one big quality in common.  They have a strong frame where they live, and their frame is so strong that people are sucked into their reality and frame of reference.  Everything they do reflects an ultra-strong frame, that operates by his own reality and rules.  They also have a lot of rules that you must follow when you are around them.  They treat themselves with a lot of respect.  They do not tolerate any disrespect; in fact they punish it.

You can apply these characteristics to your own life.  They are actually core lessons for living succesfully on this planet.  Let’s take respect, for example: How do you ensure that the people around you show respect for you and your work?  First start to respect yourself and your work too.  When you start to respect yourself completely, other people will also respect you.  If you don’t respect yourself, why in the world will anyone else respect you?  If you treat yourself like shit, trust me, other people will also because you are sending them a strong signal that that is just what you are.

Next, what you must accomplish is develop a set of rules in your life.  What people can and cannot do around you or to you.  Punish any negative behavior you don’t like.  Tell them, for God’s sake, and make it crystal clear, that they cannot behave like that.  Kick their asses for it.  Make them know they did something that you don’t respect.  People are like sheep.  You must tell them what they can do, and what they can’t.  If they treat you like shit at the office, at home or on the street and you do nothing, of course they will do it again and again.  Other people will treat you like a monkey if you let them.  Make personal boundaries for yourself, and make it clear to the people around you that you have them.

When they bring a new elephant to the zoo, of course the animal is going to try to escape, break through the fence or whatever it can do to try to get out.  But it is funny to realize that elephants have a really interesting memory.  They memorize all the negative experiences that happened during their lifetime and just the negative ones.  They don’t remember the positive experiences nearly as well as the negative ones.  (Some humans are the same.)  So there is electricity (low voltage) around the fence, and it is funny how the elephant is going to burn his ass just once in his life and never again because he knows what happened when he tried to escape.  He is aware of the consequences.  That is exactly what you must do in your life, and especially with women.  They must always know how far they can go.  For example, if my girlfriend flakes on me, of course I will be pissed off, but I will show her that I am angry , and will calmly state that this time was the last she ever did it.  For everything that she does that I do not like, I tell her she can do it only 3 times: the first time, the last time and never again!

My rules are strict.  People will enjoy the time they spend with me.  I will do everything for their happiness in life.  I will teach them and have fun with them, but there are some rules you must follow, otherwise you won’t see me ever again.

I have options, I can do all this with somebody else.  Even if you don’t have other options, let it look like you do.  Behave like you do.  I am going to do everything for my girls.  I love them and will treat them like a queen, but as long as I think they deserve it.  It is funny to see how women call me a jerk, when I stick to my rules, and let them live by them.  Of course I am going to make them feel it when they try to disrespect my rules.  I think that is the only way for a living creature on this planet to understand what it is allowed to do and what is strictly forbidden.

Take a look at the police.  They have strict rules.  Break them and you get punished.  They play with your feelings, and trust me, you won’t make the same mistake again in your life if you screw around with the police.  I want you to do the same in your own life.  Let people around you know what is allowed, and what is not.  Otherwise nobody is going to respect you.  It is funny, but people will test you from time to time to see if you are still congruent with your frame.  That is why I say that "shit tests" do not exist.  Those are not tests as long as you are simply congruent with your frame.  Women will challenge you all the time when you are seducing them, and then later on in a relationship.  That is normal behavior.

My best friend has this cute little dog.  The pet knows that it is not allowed to sleep on the sofa because he got his ass kicked a few times, and still months later he comes near the sofa with his cute little look.  He glances at the sofa, then his owner, the sofa, the owner, just waiting for a reaction.  He might even put one leg close to the sofa, the whole time looking at his owner.  What the dog is actually doing is testing his owner to see if he is still congruent with his rule about sleeping on the sofa.  Is he going to allow him to jump on the sofa or is he going to yell at him?  The dog is not shit testing his owner, just making sure he is still congruent.  Children will test you in the same way.  Every couple of days or even hours, they will challenge you to see if the rules have not weakened or changed.  You can see this behavior everywhere in nature.

Now, let’s get back to charismatic people.  Funny, but the more rules they used to have, and the more they punished those who broke those rules, the more charismatic you are.  Negative examples, like Hitler, and positive examples like Christ, Gandhi, the Dalai Lama and Martin Luther King.

These leaders issue commands and demand unquestioning loyalty.  Challenging their ideas is strongly condemned and often leads to some type of emotional or physical punishment.  With women, you give them pleasure and show them a really nice time when they are with you, but then punish any negative behavior or disrespect from her.

The first step toward developing confidence, attitude and beliefs is to start respecting yourself! If you have ever gone out with me in the last few months, you will notice something really unusual: as soon as I go into a set, I am not sucked into their frame.  I do not live in their world.  You will see that they live in my world.  How do you see this?  When I approach a set or any group of people, I don’t position myself so the whole group can hear me.  I don’t try to yell so the whole group can hear me.  First I position myself in the most comfortable position, where I feel the most relaxed, and then I reorganize the other people around me the way I like.  For example, I approach them, have them open up to me, sit down, use the space around
me to make myself comfortable, and then I might position three girls to talk to eachother, and take the target to talk with me.  Probably you can understand that this behavior is not something I modelled or learned, but it is something that is part of who I am for a long time.

I really can’t stand people who have a weak frame.  For example, I hate to see guys fall into a situation like this: The guy sits in a chair, maybe one that is totally uncomfortable like the letter S, and he stays there for hours, pretending he is relaxed there without saying a word about it.  He would sit there no matter what because the chair is more important than who he is.  It is more important than his health or his body… sad.  Why the fuck should I be in some uncomfortable position when I talk with some average frustrated woman.  What the fuck is she for me?

You will always see me in the most comfortable position you can imagine while I am in a set or anywhere in life.  Why?  For a few reasons:  You can’t be nervous when you are in a relaxed position.  You will feel cool.  People will see you as a really cool guy, and most important, your voice is going to be deeper, more relaxed, so that people will start to lean in to hear you.  If you drop your voice down when they can’t hear you, they will start to lean in and pay more attention to your lips in order to understand what you are saying.  Looking at someone’s lips for ten minutes is really sexual.  In the next few days I will post a few exercises for improving your voice on my forum, Playboy Central:

http://www.playboylifestyle.net/phpBB2/index.php

Carpe diem.

Made in the Shade

Heads up, fellas. Looks like the Lair has a new contributor. the one and only sex God himself…

DAVID SHADE!

That’s right. The Good Mr. Shade will be doing a monthly column for the blog. I’ll be posting his first article sometime next week. For those of you out there looking for some kick-ass sex techniques, you can’t do much better than David Shade. His excellent David Shade’s Manual is pretty much required reading on every PUA bookshelf!

I look forward to seeing what David is gonna contribute to the blog.

Calibrate!

The One, everyone’s favorite 3rd person PUA, has an excellent post up about how important Calibration is when you’re out in the field.

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One Step at a Time…

UK based PUA Loverboy has a pretty good post up in the Advanced Boards of mASF. It kind-of runs the gammut of pick-up ideas and is pretty well written. Good overview of skillsets for any newbies out there who are just getting into this stuff.

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Shark Opener Field Tested…

It’s no secret that Shark is probably one of the most controversial PUAs out there right now, especially with aggressive internet posturing and controversial direct openers. But it seems someone by the name of Nilatak has gone through the trouble of actually field testing Shark’s methods.

It’s an interesting read, to say the least…

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New Real World Seduction Website

Looks like Swinggcat has updated his website! Given it one o’ them thar “facelifts.” The new look is interesting to say the least. Reminds me a bit of the “Good Old Days,” for all you old timers out there, lol.

Anyway, if you wanna check it out, follow this link:

www.realworldseduction.com

Be sure to share what you think of the new RWS look in the comments section of this entry.

Bubba Ho-Tep

I just rented the movie "Bubba Ho-Tep."  Man, is that a great film!  Funny, quirky, emotional… nothing to do with Pick-Up necessarilly (well, if you don’t count Mystery’s old school "Elvis Opener," =) but a great movie none the less.

I’d recommend everyone buy a few beers, invite over a few friends, and check out this film out.  For all you Bruce Campbell fans out there, he does an entire commentary track on the DVD as Elvis!

Thank yuh.  Thank yuh very much!

Okay, this is a little fucked up…

Okay, well, it’s no secret that a lot of guys don’t really like or respect the James Method.  I don’t know much about it, so I’m not gonna comment on the validity of his system (but from what I’ve seen, it doesn’t lookt hat good).  Anyway, there’s a small contingent of guys who spend their time doing God’s work and making fun of said James along with his method.  The first was when a picture of James’s "girlfriend" made the rounds.  Needless to say, it wasn’t a pic of the most flattering girl in the world.

Well, I guess James has a new picture up of a new girlfriend.  And though this one is better than the last, there’s something in the picture that is more than a little distrubing…

M writes
After http://www.bristollair.com/resources/comics/
m_jamesmethod.jpg
did the rounds, it seems James decided to post another picture of a girl.

http://www.thejamesmethod.com/jamesmethodltr.jpg
She’s nice and all, but look closely at the picture on the wall. The one below the Fight Club picture.

Fuck me, that is one sick twat.

You can find this picture M’s referring to at the mirror site here.

Frankly, I think it’s extremely disrespectful to keep something like that on your wall.  If that’s James’s place, what does it say about him as a person?  If it’s the girl’s place, what does it say about the type of girl you can attract using his method?

Personally, I’m disgusted.

Guaging the Dominant Girl

You know, in every group of people, there’s an inherent social hierarchy that exists. In every group of women, there’s always a leader, a “dominant girl” who pretty much controls the thoughts and action of all the other girls she’s with. You’ve seen it before, so have I. Now, Tyler Durden comments on this phenomenon.

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Merging a loose set

In one of Tyler’s rare, short articles, he shares with us a really great tactic for keeping a tenuous set together, despite all odds.

Tyler Durden writes:
Something that I always do is remerge a loose set. I go in and hook IOIs from the girl that I opened immediately. The second that I see that the IOIs are there and that she’ll do whatever I ask, I will use an opinion opener and say that I want a full panel female opinion and to call her friend over. This way I can remove the other girl from whatever guy she is attached to, and if the girl doesn’t want to leave the guy then I will say over and over “Yell at her to come over. Tell her too, I really want to ask her this.” I do this when I pull 2sets with PlayboyLA quite often if its afterhours on the street. I will see the IOIs from a girl, and start walking with her and tell her over and over to yell at her friend to come too. I’ll also say “Tell her I’m nice, and to listen to this story”, or anything like that, in order to unlock the friend. If she says it enough times, particularly if she’s the dominant friend, it will work well. PlayboyLA does the same for me if he hooks IOIs with his girl before I hook them with mine.

I prefer this because it gets my wing a girl as well, and also because if left loose, the girl can become a potential problem if she grows bored of the guy that she is with (often the case with AFC naturals), and then just drag her friend off out of jealousy that she is having fun with me. I may well re-isolate right after, but now the obstacle has met me and won’t unpredictably make an issue for me in most cases.

This is good stuff. I think a lot of people don’t quite understand the importance of having solid group theory while sarging. I mean, being able to merge different sets and play them off of each other is a real advanced (yet vital) skill to have if you want to get REALLY good at pick-up. In my opinion, no one is able to teach this skill better than Mystery (www.mysterymethod.com). So if anyone wants to get this skillset down, I’d recommend checking out a seminar.

If you wanna check out the whole thread, you can read it here.

Be Hardcore, the best of MrSex4UNYC

Someone posted a rather LONG (but exceptionally good) post on mASF containing all sorts of great quotes from the MrSex4UNYC archive. MrSex4UNYC is one of the all time old schoolers. His archive is fantastic, and since he doesn’t post anymore, that’s the only thing we got to rely on from information from him. So when someone takes the time to comb that archive and find the things worth sharing, it’s worth checking out.

You can take a looksee for yourself here.

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