Juggler On Approaching Women In Clubs

Juggler has a short (but sweet) post up on his blog about how he meets women in clubs.  It’s a bit different from most of the other methods out there, but I think in a way it could be more effective.

Juggler writes:
When I enter a night club I am a little nervous. It’s dark. People are
dressed up. I don’t know anyone and people as a rule are standoffish.
But as I begin to talk to those first few people I make friends. I
begin to feel relaxed and then I spread out.

I
have recently realized that the average would-be pick-up artist
approaches his seduction environment quite differently. He runs around
and does sets. He may do 5-20 cold approaches per night. He has to
re-motivate himself, re-calibrate, decide on an opener and approach
5-20 times. This seems alien to me and frankly I think it is time to
consider it an old-fashioned concept.

When you go out you
should do 1 cold approach – the first one. After that the rest are warm
approaches. You bounce off of people. You establish roots. You make
friends.

One of my favorite things is to become friends with a
group of people and then catch the eye of a girl, smile, wave and
approach. I am not a strange guy approaching, I am the ambassador of my
group. You can literally meet everyone in a club this way.

This
is not advanced. What it takes is a commitment to see other people as
possible friends and not as possible enemies. It takes an ability to
establish trust and make friends quickly.

There are two very different schools of thought out there when it comes to approaching women.  One is the "numbers game" method where you cold approach as many different women as you can until you find one that’s open to you.  The other is the "quality over quantity" method that states you should only look for girls that are displaying interest and open to you approaching them.

Both have their advantages and disadvantages to them.  Personally, I’ve become a fan of the "quality over quantity" approach.  I started off with your typical cold approach method when I was first learning this stuff, and it can be quite a successful method — but it’s really hard work.  It takes a lot of energy and willpower to walk around talking to women you don’t know (plus, you run a high risk or rejection).

The "QOQ" method doesn’t really get you to meet a lot of women, but it does help you to meet the kind of women that you’ll probably continue to see on a regular basis.  So though you don’t meet as many chicks, your risk of rejection drops down considerably.

I think Juggler’s approach is a good one, and it’s not too far off from Mystery’s "group theory," which is pretty much the best way to meet women in club settings.