Dealing With Other Guys In Clubs

Dimitri, the star of Rapid Social Impact, has a really good post up about how to deal with other guys in the club.

Dimitri writes:
Man, I just
saw a post in General that broke my heart. This cat, seems a cool guy,
wrote asking about what do after he said something friendly to a guy he
knew (saying he’d attend the guy’s band practice, because it’d be
cool), then the guy makes fun of him, calling him his groupie and stuff.

Then, a lot of "AMOG!!!!"
responses come in, before Woodhaven politely presents a better point of
view: Why care? Shrug it off, laugh if it was legitimately funny.

The main thing you need to do to successfully deal with other guys is
*be cool*. If you’re cool, you won’t get a lot of problems. Especially
in social situations, I never get people messing with me at all:
Because why would they? I’m cool, and I’ve got a rock-solid image. I
look above petty shit.

But okay, I hit the bars, and you get these clowns hyped up with liquid confidence in your space. What do you do?

My #1 MOST SECRET ULTIMATE TECHNIQUE:

******LOOK AT THEM LIKE THEY’RE RETARDED*****

I’m serious. This I got, by and large, from girls. When a guy says
something dumb, they’ll give him a look like he’s retarded, then look
at their friends, or away, or somewhere else.

It’s the natural way. If someone’s doing something genuinely retarded,
look at them like they’re retarded. If a guy rolls up to me and says,
"Hey dude, nice shirt, I had that one in high school", I’m going to
look at him like he’s a joker, then look at my girl like he’s a joker,
then look away from the guy – And it’s game over.

But let’s say he’s actually kind of funny. I give him the "retarded
look", and he comes back with the single, only verbal response that’ll
work: He says, "Oooh, you’re giving me the look. Look at this guy, he’s
giving me the look!"

Then I’ll look at him and smile and laugh, because it’d genuinely be
funny (in that context). I’d pat him on the arm and say, "You’re
alright, man." And then he’d see I truly am bulletproof, and we’d be
cool.

Guys can’t mess with me. I can’t lose duels… because I’m *above* them.

A word from Woodhaven on the subject:

"The common pattern is:
PUA sees other guy ->  PUA feels threatened ->  PUA cooks up a sarcastic line -> PUA lowers whatever status he had to match the status of the other guy as he engages in ‘AMOG battle’.

New pattern is:
PUA sees other guy -> PUA treats other guy as friend, because of confidence in own status -> PUA busts on other guy as if he is an old friend -or- PUA ignores other guy and contiues gaming the girl.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve engaged in these battles before, but no matter
who wins, you still run the risk of looking look dumb for *trying* to
win them as if you care.

It’s an internal state thing – have fun with that type of thing and
release the need to win the battle. If a guy throws a verbal jab at
you, laugh it off and continue gaming the girl."

Thank you for sharing the wisdom with us, WH. I’ll add a last note:
You’re done for when you *feel threatened*. Laugh the guy off and
you’re golden.

I really agree with this post.  I think that people who are insecure of their social status feel "threatened" by another guy.  I’ve been witness to some massive AMOG battles in the past, and they’re not always a pretty site.  I think you come off better if you take a guy trying to out-alpha you as "Oh, he wants to play."  That doesn’t mean that if you are *genuinely* being mocked, you shouldn’t stand up for yourself — after all, there’s a time to play it cool and a time to get your hands dirty — but for the most part, something like this is the wya to go.

Dimitri sure knows his stuff.