How To Get A Social Life

Who else want to know how to cultivate an active social life, even if you don’t have one right now?

Well, don’t dispair.  There are many ways in which you can improve your social life, quite easily.

Read on…

Here is a good, step-by-step guide to getting a social life.

Please note:  This guide is for guys who are a little bit "hard up" when it comes to social interactions – be it with women OR men.

But make no mistake – if you are able to get this handled, you’ll not only improve your quality of life, but also your success with women.

Without further ado, here is the guide.

Thundercat’s Step-By-Step Guide To Being Social

The Basics

First of all, you don’t need to be the most popular guy on the planet to have a social life.  As long as you can be laid back, friendly, and a good listener, you can be a guy others want to hang with.

Now, you may not hook up woth the type of people you 100% want as friends, but it’s a good start.

Next, you want to have some type of conversation skills.

Now, you don’t have to be a "cunning linguist," but you do have to be someone who can hold a conversation.

The best way to do this is to ask people questions – especially if they are about them.  People love to talk about themselves, and it’s a great way to get to know people.

This will also help you to know what THEY like to talk about, so when you chime in, you know the conversation will be interesting.

Attitude:  Be positive!  No one likes a sour-puss.  Be a friendly guy who’s open to meeting and hanging out with all types of people.

Know how to relate to other people.  You don’t want to sit there with a blank stare on your face.  In order to make friends, you need to be ENGAGING.  DOn’t dwell on things about others you don’t like.  Look for the good qualities in everyone and try to show them what you have in common with them.

Grooming.  You MUST take care of your appearance.  Now, you don’t have to conform yourself to be someone you’re not, but you should wear clean clothes, smell nice, bathe reguarly, and things like that.  No one likes to hang out with a stinky slob.

Basic confidence.  If you are able to pick up the phone, call people, and ask them to hang out, you are able to have a social life.  If you can talk to people you don’t know, be they at a party, club, restaurant, or other venue, you’ll be in good shape. The best skil you can have to improve your social life is knowing how to meet people.

Know how to have FUN.  It’s a real pain to try and make other people have fun.  But a good rule of thumb is – if you’re having fun, other people will too!  So focus on having a good time yourself, and you’ll be on the right track.

The ability to influence people is a great skill to have.  If you meet resistence to people wanting to go out with you, it’s nice to be able to "talk them into" leaving their rut and joining you on some type of adventurous outting.

Making friends isn’t rocket science.  The basic formula is:

Be Cool – Meet People – Ask Them To Hang Out

How hard is that?

If you are really shy or insecure, this can be hard, not to mention a little daunting.  But having a few good friends can really help you to come out of your shell.

Seek out people you aren’t intimidated by to make them your friends if that is the case.  If girls scare the hell out of you, then look for guy friends.

Here are the WORST things you can do if you’re lonely:

1.  Be ashamed of yourself and continue to wallow in your loneliness without taking steps to fix things.

2.  Be negative and have a bad attitude (this is especially true if it’s directed towards women!  Bitterness is not attractive.)

3.  Practicing Failure – thinking people will reject you before you even try.  Not healthy.  Not good.

4.  Laziness.  Staying in your comfort zone is, of course, comfortable, but it is also counter-productive.  You need to take action if you want to improve your social life.

5.  Ignore Invitations – if you get invited to go somewhere – GO!  Don’t make excuses to stay by yourself!  Take any opportunity to be more social, even if it is scary.

You need to have the right belief system if you’re going to overcome your fear or inability to be social.

The first belief you want to establish is that EVERYONE is your friend!

Thinking you have to "make" friends can be daunting.  Just believe that people are already your friends and treat them that way.  It will be much easier for you.

Be yourself.  Too often, people try to be "other people" or act like someone they’re not to impress others.  This is a BAD IDEA.  Too often, people will win friends in the short term then lose them when they discover those people aren’t who they thought they were.

If people can’t like you for who you are, they aren’t worth your time.

However, most people "aren’t themselves" when they think they’re just being themselves.  Laziness and apathy can kill your natural personality.

Keep in touch with your friends.  The best way to kill your social life is to wait for people to call you.

Call, email, text, whatever it takes to keep in touch with people.  Set aside one day a week where you touch base with everyone you know.  This will help you keep your social circle alive and strong.

Be a party planner.  Think of stuff to do and invite other people to do it with you!  Left to their own devices, most people won’t do much of anything.

But if YOU can learn to be the hub of interaction, and invite people to do fun stuff, eventually, other people will start inviting YOU to do fun stuff (Or at least call you up to see if anything fun is going on.)

Make it your business to know what people are up to on the weekends.  This is a GREAT and EASY way to know what cool things are going on.

Also, make things EASY for people.  People won’t hang out of its too complicated to do.  So let them know the when, and the where, and if necessary the How.  Give them directions if need by.  Tell them to invite THEIR friends.

So that’s it!  That’s all you really need to accomplish to have a strong and active social life.

But if you want to learn how to meet people so you CAN cultivate this social life, you should check out my book The Art Of Approaching.

This is an EXCELLENT way of learning to get to meet people.

Click Here To Check Out Secrets To Meeting People.

And get out there and enjoy an active social life!