Cause and Effect

June 14, 2004 by Thundercat
Filed under Tips & Tricks

Grandmaster Dimitri, everyone’s favorite Swash-Buckling Pick-Up Artist, has an excellent post up about Cause & Effect that would make that snooty French guy from the Matrix cum in his pants.

Grandmaster Dimitri, Swash-Buckling Pick-Up Artist, writes:
Here’s one of the hugest mistakes in thinking I see with some guys here: They don’t get cause and effect.

Curing effects will *never* fix your game. Instead, you’ve got to look for the *base* problem, the CAUSE.

Okay, let’s grab a hypothetical situation: “A woman said, ‘You’re a loser. Get lost’ to me.”

INCORRECT FLAWED VERY FUCKED UP THINKING: “What should I do?”

CORRECT THINKING THAT WILL IMPROVE YOUR GAME: “Why?”

You’ve got to figure out *why* a problem is happening, not how to deal with it. See, if you come across as someone that’s comfortable with himself, happy, well-adjusted, and that can’t be fucked with… guess what? You won’t get fucked with most of the time!

All sorts of problems with guys being assholes disappear if you’re a cool guy they don’t want to fuck with. Girls stop a lot of their shittyness if you give the aura that it doesn’t faze you AND that you’ll next her ass for the a better looking girl if she doesn’t treat you right.

So, let me answer half of the posts on the board, right now:

Q: A girl said XXX shit test to me. How should I respond?
A: Your response isn’t as big of a deal as understanding why she’s shit-testing you. It means she’s at least a little interested or has the potential to be, and wants to see if you’re the real deal or if you’ll blow yourself out. Once you understand this, shit-testing will stop annoying you, so you’ll pass by default. Cool, huh?

Q: When I did XXX thing, negative XXX result happened. How should I treat the result?
A: Go back and troubleshoot your original tactic or routine, or toss it if it’s garbage.

Q: Aggressive guy or girl did some jerk move to me, like threatening violence! How should I react?
A: It’s your image, through and through. Work on your bodylanguage, style, and attitude: If you don’t look like you can be fucked with, most people won’t fuck with you.
Q: I try to isolate a girl, but she says “blah blah excuse” when I try to! How should I respond?
A: Think about why she doesn’t want to be isolated at this point: Are her friends nearby and she doesn’t want to look like a slut? Does she not trust you enough? Is she *totally* horny and knows she’s going to fuck you if you two are alone, but also thinks you’re a quality guy and thus doesn’t want to fuck you yet? Figure that out, act appropriately.

Get the idea? Specific situations mean jack and shit, since with a little work at the root cause of some bad stuff, all the nasty effects will go away.

Good stuff. I’m really digging Dimitri’s posts. He’s got a lot of good things to say.

You can check out the original thread here.

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