Natural Game

IN10SE (pronounced “Intense”), author of the book Social Mastery has a post up about what it means to have a “Natural Game” when it comes to picking-up women.

IN10SE Writes:
Hey Guys,

Something that I’ve been realizing lately – and I call it natural game. The reason that I call this “Natural Game” is because when you’re just vibing with a woman – where you’re flowing from attract game to comfort game and back and forth – and things escalate to seduction end game, this is the closest to my own natural game as I’ve yet been able to systematize.

First off – I really believe that flexibility and calibration skills are two of the basic keys to seduction. I’ve been realizing this more and more with the more women I’m with. Now keep this in mind as you read on…

Every woman has 2 basic needs:

1) The need for attraction
2) The need for comfort

Now, with “natural game”, when I’m with a chick, once we’ve gotten past the early game hook point (where she’s in a convo with me, I’m not just some stranger, but someone that she’s actually engaged in a conversation with. She’s invested some of her energy into the interaction, I have demonstrated enough value to her that she’s not just going to walk away) I get into “Vibing” mode.

Now there’s attraction game which is based on being playful, teasing, fun, light, demonstrating social value, take aways… and there’s comfort game which is based on deeper, more meaningful rapport, and connection.

Now where does flexibility and calibration come in? Now, with this chick, she could be talking to me – her words are telling me something, the meaning of the words “the why is she telling me this” is telling something, the context is telling me something… I’m constantly noticing – “What need is she demonstrating to me right now? Attraction or Comfort?”

And I calibrate to either attraction game or comfort game based on what NEED she is demonstrating to me.

Second, I ask myself, “Have I passed the attraction hook point? Have I passed the comfort hook point?” Because the next phase is End Game and these hook points are the best times for isolation.

Realize also that in End Game, she’ll be demonstrating a need to you to be seduced. She be giving you signals, she’ll allow herself to be in certain contexts – allow isolation… so that the interaction can flow into End Game. The End Game hook point is the sweetest one of all – and this is when you can just take your time with a woman and build up her desire… knowing that she is commited to the Close.

Natural Game is about having the flexibility and calibration to flow and vibe between these phases of the game (Attraction/Comfort/Seduction) so that things move almost effortlessly to the Close.

Questions, Comments?

Good stuff by IN10SE. I hope to get around to reading his book soon since he has a lot of interesting insights. If you wanna check out the whole thread, you can read it here.