The “Qualifying Compliment” Trap

Nightblue has a very interesting post up on mASF about someting he calls the “Qualifying Compliment” trap.

Nightblue writes:
This can be a bit advanced but I think everyone should know about this.
Sometimes girls qualify you with a compliment in a way of screening. I noticed its a test/trap really.

Like when she says things like
‘You know my first impression of you wasnt that bright but
now I started to think that you do have some things that I really like about you’ or something similar.

If you answer with a thank you or something like that BOOM you failed. She has the power, you are in the frame where YOU need to work for her.
This can be ok with you, but IMO one of the worst things you can do is allowing the girl to make the rules.

When she qualifies you like that you should immediately break the frame like you know whats going on.
Some answers I give are,
HB[again taking the power by qualifying compliment]: Blah Blah but you do started to make me like you etc.
Me: NO! come on how can *I* be worthy of you? Your WAY too cool for me.
Or
HB:You know youre not like I thought you were, I even think you can be a very cool person now.
Answer: Oh Great! Then I assume Im getting some BOOTAY.
Im gonna call my mom and give her the good news!

You can say ANYTHING as long as it breaks the her qualifying you frame.
Girls add a compliment to it to make you graceful to her qualifying you.
They are really good at this power taking.

This is funny, because I know a guy who’s rather strong with the force who does something very similar. =)

You can read the whole thread on this here.