Change Her Behavior

You know, I’ve read a lot of posts by Neo-Rio, and have never failed to be impressed by what this guy has to say. He is probably my favorite poster on mASF, because 9 times out of 10, I always go away from his posts having learned something I did not know before. But I found a post from him today in my surfing that really blew my mind. It’s quite simple, yet very profound…

Neo-Rio writes:
This is perfectly normal. From the treatise of love:-
From a woman’s point of view, this is what’s going on in her mind:-
“For example, according to the instinctive ritual you switch your attitude from warm (for baiting) to cold and you are puzzled why he does not fight for you? But a low-primative man is puzzled – why did you suddenly become so cold without any reason? He does not suspect that this has to be done according to the ritual and he is suppose to start conquering you without taking into account any possible impoliteness and humiliation. “

In other words, you’re being handed a shit-test, and it’s up to you to pass them.
If you don’t like the girls behaviour… tell her to change it. Or else….
Sit her down and give her freakin’ instructions on how she is supposed to behave.

Read the thread this is found in here.

I’ll repeat that for those of you who didn’t get it the first time:

“If you don’t like the girls behaviour… tell her to change it. Or else…. Sit her down and give her freakin’ instructions on how she is supposed to behave.”

My friends, there’s no difference between doing this, and setting the frame. You wanna know how to be “Alpha?” You wanna know how to be “Dominant?” Read those two lines above. Memorize them. DO THEM! That is how you become Alpha. Tell people what to do. Act like an authority. People will follow.

I’ve done this with women before, and it is incredibly powerful. But I was looking at it on a micro scale. I’d use it in small bits to correct body language or something. But these words Neo-Rio wrote, they struck me on a fundamental level. I think this is something that has to be used on a MACRO level. That being: You must use this frame in every interaction you have.

I have a friend who is an incredibly hot chick. She’s a 9.5 on the looks scale. I’ve known her since college. I’m also good friends with her boyfriend, who she’s been seeing for 10 years now. This is a girl who gets hit on CONSTANTLY by guys. She could have her choice of any dude on the market. But she stays with her Boyfriend. The BF has an interesting form of Push/Pull he uses with her, but the interesting part of this story is how they got together.

My friend tells me that when she was in high school, she knew her current BF, but she was in love with another guy. She started hanging out with her BF, enjoyed his company, but didn’t really look at him in that “I’m attracted to this guy” light. Then, one day, her BF said “You’re my girlfriend.” My friend protested, saying she didn’t see him that way. But he responded “Nope. You’re my girlfriend. We’re going out.” And from that point on, he treated her as his girlfriend. And before long, she just went along with it and actually BECAME his girlfriend, even though she originally didn’t want to.

How did this work? He gave her instructions.

He’d tell her “We’re gonna go see a movie tonight.” She’d say “I can’t tonight!” He’d respond “Sure you can. I’ll be at your house at 8.” And then he’d actually show up, and if she wasn’t ready, he’d tell her “Come on, get ready. We’re gonna be late. Put on your jacket, we gotta go.” And sure enough, she did it.

All because he told her what to do.

Try it sometime. Give someone, anyone, a random command. See if they follow. Most of the time, unless the command is outrageous or dangerous, they will. People generally are lazy. They don’t know what to do or how to do things. They need leadership. When someone comes along and gives them instructions and seems to know what they’re talking about, the people will naturally follow the instructions they’re given. Even if the person is unsure, they’ll do what they’re told if the person telling them what to do is confident enough. I think this is because it takes the responsibility away from them.

I have seen guys who are great with women do the EXACT SAME THING. Instead of coercing a girl to try and kiss them, they’ll say something like “I’m going to kiss you.” And then do it. Or they’ll just skip the talking all together and kiss. And the girl will go along with it.

Confidence, or the appearance of confidence, is the single biggest factor in persuasion.

Women overwhelmingly find confidence attractive. Why is this? Is it because they get wet when they think about the abstract concept of “confidence?” No. They find it attractive because Confident Men sweep them away, remove all uncertainty and accountability from their actions, and give them a direction to go in that is clear and direct. People like it when that happens. People like having their course laid out for them. Sure, there are exceptions, but for the most part, people like to be told what to do.

I’m very excited about this concept. I’ll be sure to look into it further.