The Art of Introducing Yourself
February 23, 2004 by Thundercat
Filed under Tips & Tricks
Boiledbrain wrote a post asking the eternal question “Should you wait to introduce yourself to a girl until she asks you or not?” Now, obviously this is a bit of a controversial topic based on the responces:
warlord3421 writes:
Introduction is big supplication, wait for her to ask the name!
effigyc writes:
Like I’m saying, this is BS. People have taken this non-supplicative thing way, way too far! Giving a girl your name is NOT supplicating unless you just walk up and go “Gosh, you sure is purty! My name’s Jim-Bob. What’s yours?” If you’ve had a conversation, if she’s smiling at you, laughing, etc. introducing yourself should be no big deal. It might even keep the conversation going if you stall, or even further the sarge if you’ve done enough work.
FatAss writes:
Doesn’t matter. Really. I wait until a convo warms up, because I figure that otherwise there’s no point in introducing myself.
So what is the right answer? I know someone like the all-powerful Zan would laugh at a question like this (I should know because I’ve asked him this before). To some guys it doesn’t matter if you introduce yourself or not. To others, it’s a sign of showing interest, so they play the game where they wait for the girl to either ask/introduce herself first before introducing themselves. But I personally feel it all comes down to the frame from which you’re coming from.
If you’re coming from the frame where you don’t care, you’re just having fun, etc. You’re going to introduce yourself when it feels appropriate. If you’re coming from the frame where you’re gaming a chick, introducing yourself too early telegraphs your intentions. It’s not a deal breaker by any means, but it’s usually best to get her intrigued to the point where she asks you first.
So I guess what I’m trying to say is that there is no right answer here, since it’s context dependant. Of course, what do I know? Anyone agree/disagree?
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