Secrets Of International Seduction

So Men’s Health conducted a survey which found that Foreign men have sex on average of 70 times MORE a year than the average American male.

So if you’re not an American, you should be getting laid all the time, right?

*Ahem.*

Anyway, Men’s Health then tried valiantly to compose an article detailing some of the "tricks" foreigners use to get laid in their own country.  And while I’m going to share this article with you here, I’m also going to share why most of it is complete bunk.

Read on…

England : Take Her, Outside

Hugh Grant has typecast British men as meek and bumbling. But according to a 2005 Durex survey of 317,000 people in 41 countries, these blokes are so irresistible, their partners can’t even wait to get back to the flat. Twice as many Brits as Americans report having had sex on public transportation and in alleyways and gardens. "Many a chap has fallen in love in the checkout line at the supermarket," says Vicki Ford, a British psychosexual therapist and the author of Overcoming Sexual Problems. And apparently they consummate it on the way home.

How To Do It: Arouse her temptation. Pull her into a side alley or a dark doorway and plant one while gently stroking her neck, suggests Emily Dubberley, a British sex expert and the author of Brief Encounters. "Fear of being caught stimulates her fight-or-flight response," explains Ford. "Adrenaline floods her system, making everything feel much more intense."

First off, Europe has a way bigger public transportation system than America.  Most of Americans have these things we like to call CARS.  And we’re not talking about those go-carts the Euroes drive, we’re talking cars you can camp out in – SUVs, Hummers, heck, you can even go vertical in most Toyotas.

Also, we here in the states have public decency laws, so it’s a little hard to take a girl into an alley, start getting things on, and then not be caught by a stray cop, club owner, or passer-by who calls "rape" to the first person they see.

There’s also the comfort factor to consider.  Nothing’s worse than going into an alley to bang and smelling dumpster the whole time.  If you simply can’t wait to consummate the relationship after meeting a chick, it seems to me the car is the way to go.  Or at the very least, spring for a cheap hotel, or do what most pick up artists do…

Take her to the most readily available public bathroom.  =)

Australia : Drive Her Wild

We Americans love our cars, but Australians love in their cars. Almost 75 percent of Aussies have had sex on the road, according to Durex. "We can always find a private space to get it on," says Jan Hall, Ph.D., an Australian sex therapist. The car provides the ideal cover: "Sneaking away for a surreptitious shag or fondle says, ‘I can’t wait,’ " says Gabrielle Morrissey, Ph.D., Australian author of A Year of Spicy Sex.

How To Do It: Heading to a party is the perfect opportunity to lure her over to the driver’s side–the mood is up, and you’re dressed to the nines. Playfully graze her inner thigh with your fingertips. Suggest that it’s proper to be fashionably late–how should we fill the time?–and park on a secluded street for a quickie. "It’s like sharing a secret all night," Morrissey says, "especially if you’ve promised each other an encore."

As to this one:  See above.

Just make sure your car is "fuck friendly."  Nothing’s worse than trying to get it on with a gear shift up your ass.  (Though some guys might like that, who knows?)

Romania : Play it Straight

Meeting women is easy, if you’re not sidetracked by insecurity ("Is she looking at me?"), coy games ("Have our waitress ask her waitress what she’s drinking"), or body-language interpretation ("Dude, her eyes say no, but the angle of her feet says olГ©!").  When Romanian men want a woman, they tell her. "The men here have a lot of self-confidence," says Felicia Abaza, sex editor of Men’s Health Romania. "And the women are tuned to respond to it."

How To Do It:  Tired come-ons will fall flat. Instead, lean in unexpectedly and whisper in her ear, "I just had to be near you." Be mindful of your tone. Brash: bad. Calm: good. "Caress her with your voice," says Patricia Cihodaru, Ms.C., a Romanian psychologist and sex expert. And when you’ve become friendly enough that you won’t get a punch in the chops, "say she looks beautiful and tell her how much you want her," says Cihodaru. "Hearing your desire is the strongest aphrodisiac."

This is what we like to call the "Direct Method."  Again, only really confident guys can pull this off the RIGHT way.  I can’t tell you how many pua’s who’ve tried the direct moethod simply come off creepy.  Here in America, where feminism rules, it’s very difficult to be direct with a girl you have yet to form some type of rapport with.

And while the direct method can crash and burn for you, the indirect method simply never fails.  So why not go for the sure thing?

China : Build Tension with Technology

Forget the 3-day rule. In China, men follow up the day after a successful date–by e-mail. "Technology plays a big role in relationships here," says Yoyoo Chow, sex editor of Men’s Health China. "Most couples meet over the Internet. So if a man doesn’t take the initiative, she’ll find someone else pretty quickly."

How To Do It: Send a short, suggestive note, says Chow. Something as simple as "Last night . . . wow! When can I see you again?" will incite her interest. If she feels the same way, she’ll respond accordingly. As the sexual tension builds, resist the temptation to pour out your soul or create a list of your top 10 fantasies. At this early stage, short equals sexy–always. And remember: Use of emoticons will ensure that you spend the night alone.

Technology can be a great way to keep interest going.  Text messages work MUCH better than email in my opinion (at least here in the states).  But a solid combo of email, texting, Instant Message, and talking on the phone.

In China, phone service is bad, and email is all surveyed by the government, so it makes sense to turn to "short" descriptive emails.  Luckily we Americans don’t have a couple BILLION people (most of them men) to contend with, so the urgent email the next day isn’t as important… though one doesn’t want to wait too long to re-establish communication with a girl, lest he be forgotten!

Italy : Seduce Her with Food

It’s no secret that good food, wine, and conversation lead to great sex. "Italian men flock to dinner parties to meet women," says Adriana Amedei, sex editor at Men’s Health Italy. "There’s no crowd, no noise, it’s relaxed. All you have to do is share your opinions . . . at least to start." The real mating game, says Amedei, begins at the table. Flirting overtly over a meal (or discreetly under the table) builds tension that will spill over later. "Food and sex are intimately connected, because they tap into the senses," says Martha Hopkins, author of InterCourses: An Aphrodisiac Cookbook.

How To Do It: "Listen attentively to her, make eye contact, and seek out a common interest," says Hopkins. "Then, while eating, conjure up the same sounds that accompany passionate sex: mmm, oooh, aahh." You’re creating a mood and a fantasy. Be subtle about it, however. You don’t want the host to say, "Um, Fred, do you mind? We’re eating."

Yeah, I guess food can be sexy, but eating is only hot when women do it – with the right types of foods.  Watching men eat is like watching a pig at a trough – not pretty, and very unappetizing.

However, if you do find yourself at a meal with a beautiful woman, do not by shy about enjoying yourself, sharing your food with her, feeding her, etc.  Again, this goes DIRECTLY to how much rapport you have with the girl.  (It’s hard to offer your own fork with a piece of food on it to a girl you don’t have rapport with!)

I will say this, though – parties are much better places to meet women than bars or clubs for the reasons mentioned above!  But they are more rare in the US than I guess they are in Italy.  Also, Italians tend to share their food (hence the "family style" of most Italian restaurants) than Americans do, where everyone gets their own portions.  So this could have something to do with the mention above.

I also find that waiting for fruit or dessert is the better option than sharing a piece of your steak or chicken in an "erotic" fashion.  So play up the hottness with the sweets.

India : Prolong Your Pleasure

Indian men know that the journey is almost always more interesting than the destination. "Sexual pleasure is linked to the gradual process of seduction, which includes courtship, touching, and kissing," says Sanjay Srivastava, Ph.D., author of Passionate Modernity. "Focusing on the finish misses the point."

How To Do It:  Practice a technique called karezza, in which the man remains inside the woman for at least 10 minutes, moving only when necessary to maintain an erection. Penetrate her slowly and gently. Match your breathing and maintain eye contact to focus on your emotional connection, not the physical act. "Conventional sex can be very limiting," says Kenneth Ray Stubbs, Ph.D., author of The Essential Tantra. "This results in a larger climax for both partners."

You know, I am a big fan for making sex last as long as possible.  But making SEDUCTION a prolonged event is a bad idea.  Seduction should only last as long as it needs to in order to get the woman INTO the bedroom.  Otherwise, you could lose the girl by not acting when you should.

For some great sex tips that would make any Indian jealous, check out this website.

Netherlands : Play with Positions

Lovers in the Netherlands know what they want–and how to ask for it. Sixty-four percent of Dutch men and women are confident asserting their needs during sex, compared with less than half of Americans, according to the Durex survey. "In bars, men are picked up as often as they approach women themselves, and both are willing to experiment in bed," says Achsa Vissel, a Dutch sex psychologist. Being forward with your compliments–and desires–will pave the way for pleasure.

How To Do It: "Dutch men pay attention to places that seem less erotic, like the inner arms, back, and shoulders," says Vissel. Shaking up the routine leads to more sex: Sixty-three percent of the Dutch are satisfied with the amount of sex they’re having, compared with 55 percent of Americans. When your partner is ready to move past the missionary position, try moves that allow you to stroke her clitoris during sex, like doggy-style or cowgirl.

Well, in America (and most of the world) the women aren’t as outgoing it would seem.  The burden is still on the man to take control, and that should be EXACTLY what you are doing.  Not only should you take control of the interaction and seduction, but telling the girl what to do in the bedroom is pretty much essential to enjoying yourself.

And as far as positions go, check the link above.

Greece : Don’t be So Uptight

Americans are bombarded with sexual imagery all day, yet we’re closemouthed about sex. Not in Greece. "We talk about sex all the time–in the office, with our friends, with our partners," says Nikki Hayia, sex editor of Men’s Health Greece. "A Greek man can talk dirty to his woman in front of 10 people, and it doesn’t bother him to kiss and touch her in public." Simple public displays of affection can work for you, too: A recent study by the Berman Center in Chicago found that couples who kiss often in nonsexual situations are eight times more likely to be sexually satisfied.

How To Do It: Hint at what’s to come, says Hayia: Subtly stroke her thigh or lower back during dinner; run your fingers up her leg; steal a lingering kiss on her bare shoulder at a crowded bar. "American men are too uptight," Hayia says. "Relax, guys. Have sex like there’s no tomorrow."

Aside from the obvious joke (I would have thought the Greeks would give advice about doing it in the butt!), this one is dead on.

Too many guys are nervous about sex.  They can’t talk about it around women – even women who like them!  Most guys would get laid a LOT more if they just knew how to talk about sex.  Talking about sex gets images going in people’s minds, and that can get them turned on.  So why not do it more?

And if you should offend someone, you can always use the excuse "Just kidding!"