A Lazy Man’s Guide To Getting A Girlfriend
August 12, 2005 by Thundercat
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Here’s an article from Fidentia’s Croatian Superstar Shark (aka Ranko Magami) which talks about how to get a girlfriend even if you’re lazy and have no willpower. Keep in mind English isn’t Shark’s first language, so some parts might be an awkward read.
I am lazy and don’t have willpower but I want a girlfriend!
If you find yourself in the above sentence don’t worry it applies to 99% of male population.
So you’ve decided to change and you know what to do but excuse yourself and just keep on going with the flow and hanging out with your desperate friends who are so desperate that they neglect they have a problem and get drunk so they could go to bed with anything female (as they say!)
Maybe you feel you don’t have any willpower and motivation here are some steps that you can take to change which don’t require big effort both in mind and physically.
Follow them step by step and soon you will be much better than you are now.
First thing you must do is immediately, at this very moment, stop and I mean stop blaming yourself for a shitty state you find yourself in.
You know you should go talk to that quite brunette each day you see her, but every time that happens you think of an excuse that sounds perfectly normal, only after she goes away you realize that there was nothing stopping you.
Remember it’s not your fault. Not your fault!
When you cross the street you look left and then you look right and you cross the street safely. You didn’t know that when you were a child. If they let you cross the street on your own you would newer guess the right sequence of looking at the incoming traffic and you would die very young.
So, many things that they teach us are good for us and necessary for our survival. But many are not.
Remember the society will always teach you something what is good for its well-being and for its well-being it is extremely important that young children don’t get run over by trucks and cars.
But it’s also very important that an average man newer gets an attractive woman pregnant. So an attractive woman must always get pregnant by a man who benefits the society in some way. That is one of the society laws I figured out by seeing how people behave.
Go do an experiment. First tell your excuser buddies that you are busy and cannot join them today, cause if you take them with you, you will all sink and nobody will do anything.
Find out a place where there may be women.
If you can’t do that than you are a hopeless case go jump through window!
No, no just joking you, even if you can’t find that out at the moment eventually you’ll , or ask the guys from your local seduction lair, there are many posts written about how to find where women hang out and I wrote them also.
So now you will do an experiment. Please leave at home you new, star trek communicator style cell phone and take the old one that looks like a brick, leave at home all those rings, necklaces (often they may still look gay anyway) and earrings.
When you first whore them it felt spectacular that you can do it, but leave all that gadgets at home and go to the club dressed like an ordinary geek.
If you are a busy person you don’t have to spend a whole night an hour will do. Then do what you usually do, or at least try to do what you usually do….
Good, you did it.
Now for your next outing please put on all your flashy clothes and accessories that show your «value» and go to the same place.
You can do both missions in the same day or even change clothes in the car if you are in a hurry.
Now after you’ve done it sit back and think.
Why the hell do I feel less fear when I am dressed good and why I feel like a failure when I am dressed bad.
Where does that feeling come from, think….think
I will tell you. It comes from the social conditioning you receive when you are a kid that makes you work and work later in life.
Is there a better way to make a man work than limiting his self esteem, is there a better way to make a man work like mad if you convince him that he will newer get a woman if he is not valuable enough to the society.
Even if you dressed in real Italian designer clothes nothing happens, girls give you a glance but that’s it.
Realistically dressing in an expensive outfit does catch a girls eye and they all like well dressed men but will it get you a girl if you stay an excuser, not really….
In order to get the girl you must first weaken your excuses.
If you have the means to buy expensive clothes do it, but consider image only your secondary weapon of limited strength.
I’ve seen a lot of great looking men dressed perfectly good sitting in nightclubs and waiting for a miracle to happen, they were blocked by excuses and couldn’t even talk to women, not to mention approaching them.
Now I am at the seaside, I see super good-looking bodybuilders having perfect bodies and perfect suntan parading in front of women on the beach, is that the way to go?
To parade all day hoping that a miracle will happen, to supplicate to your own insecurities by buying more flashy clothes?
Now do the following exercise, you may be lazy and a wussy right now but after the exercise your excuses will weaken definitely.
If you can approach and talk to women this exercise is a piece of cake but if you feel really blocked by society pressures in your head this exercise will be a big breakthrough and I advise you to do it.
Go out to the street to some place where people are standing, every town has a meeting place where people meet, if nothing occurs to you any place will do.
Take your watch and put it in your pocket.
Find a girl, probably attractive, and go ask her what is the time.
Of course she looks at you as an excuser smurf….do that to several women.
Then put on your watch so it can bee seen and go ask for the time again.
Ask the same girls , of course.
I bet you started feeling strange feelings gripping you from the inside.
What you feel right now is the society program.
If it grips you so hard on a very simple task of asking for the time how in the world will it let you seduce a woman?
To be able to defeat it you must first be able to identify it.
Many men, even in the seduction community, cannot identify the cause of their problem and just try to fake, fake until …..hmm you’ve seen it.
What I strongly believe in is that you must destroy your own internal excuses and only then take care of the outside facade.
I believe that is the best way to go.
Destroying the excuses in your head is hard work, but you can start while being a lazy man. The more excuses you destroy the less lazy you will be, cause the feeling of laziness is just a manifestation of society program.
If the society program in your mind told you:»don’t go to that girl cause of X» you would stand a chance to defeat it.
But if it told you: «Don’t go to that girl cause you are so tired and you can do it tomorrow» you don’t even notice the excuse and society wins and you loose!
So noticing the excuses is the first step to take, when you start seeing them you will feel like somebody suddenly gave you eyesight.
After you see how society works don’t let your buddies be slaves anymore. Maybe they will not appreciate your explanations at the moment, but they will once they realize it also.
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What a piece of crap!! Useless
Hahaa I first read this and thought “great another post about the SOCIETY MATRIX!” but later on he really made some good points, especially about the states we feel when dressed shitty/feeling not at our best.
“Of course she looks at you as an excuser smurf”
These exercises sound similar to the course “demonic confidence” on ebay (which is way overpriced) which starts off having you approach 30 girls for the time, then approach with a watch on, then approach a couple but ask the girl for the time, then directions, then compliment and so on. SO its good for desensitization.
In a way it’s pretty basic, but it’s right on. And simplicity can be powerful. There are still lots of AFC’s who just don’t get that yet, and it’s true – the amount of social conditioning you wear amounts to 50 sweaters over full plate armor in the Sahara desert at high noon.
And many go on acting macho and “i’m way beyond that!” and never quite get what they want. So whoever said that was crap is even lazier than the article addresses and it might be a while before the opportunity comes round again for him.
Best regards,
Freelancer
This is the best thing I have read since first hearing the Shark CD. Simply awesome. I am happy to see Ranko has decided to share his philosophy in articles as well
Yes, when someone is stuck and his mind is telling him various excuzes some of he can register and some are soo strong you can’t ewen register them as exuses it is crutial to get him moving in the right direction. That means approachng without excuzez and being able to see them ewen if you,still can’t defeat them.
Alek give it to your friends which are trying to block you:)
Shark
This whole matrix society blocker theory is BullShit!
It does not exist!
It only exists if you belive in it.
If you belive you have a blocker programed by the society, that is so strong that it can override your natural programing, than my friend you really are an excuser.
And your excuse is: I’m not fucking hot chicks
because I have a society programed blocker in my head, so i first have to destroy it before i can FUCK HOT CHICKS.
You are already a MAN!
Stop trying to be a MAN!
Now GO and find some girl and FUCK HER!
They all want it.
Chill dude… It’s just a frame… just a mental way of looking at your situation so you can overcome. I’ve found the whole “get mad at society” and “society is out to prevent me from having sex” frames quite useful.
I agree with jason. It is a good way of helping you desensitize yourself to social pressure. It’s a good start for those who have “inner turmoils”.
The next thing people should point out is learning to be congruent with who you are. That’s always a topic people have problems in. Even myself at times catch myself being incongruent.
I think “The Art of Approaching Women” provides a better way of desensitizing ones self. I would recommend it to anyone who has trouble approaching women. It gives some nice openers that one can use to gain social proof until you get the courage to follow through with the PU and close. Additionally, by seeing the smiling faces of the women, it reinforces a positive mental image of talking to beautiful women.
this “guy” is a big fraud, i know him from our old fraternity days up in good ol’ iowa state, nice enough guy at times, but there’s one key piece of info he forgot to mention, he used to be a woman, veronica as it happens, so he/she thinks they know how to approach women, well i’ll let you in on a little secret, he’s a complete loser with women, his little watch technique, got as good results as if he’d have walked up to a woman and asked her to drop her pants and let him take her up the arse, trust me, this chap is a useless pile of excrament, and he’s also not mentioned his adverse feelings for males as well, i’m sure that would come in handy if he writes another one of his ridiculous posts
Can you explain “used to be” what did he/she have a sex change or just walk around all mangina like and be like one of those trans-testicles?
Oh and for clarification is this Shark or Ranko Magami (whats with the Anime name?) you’re referring to John?
…because Im starting to think that many of these Dating “Gurus” are full of shit and are just trying to make a buck. In other words the old saying goes, “Talk is cheap, but it takes money to buy beer.”
i.e. people can talk all the shit they want but it doesn’t necessarily mean they can do what they claim.
Keep in mind I said MANY of these “Gurus” not all.
Oh and on a side note: If you’re one of those really good looking guys and you’re teaching seduction, QUIT IT. You get laid because you’re Good Looking and not because you have game. TRUST me I know women and all this BS about you aren’t necessarily getting laid because you’re good-looking is just that BS! Especially if you have $$ and a house in Redando Beach or a High-Status job. Most of the guys you are teaching do not have these things and would be better off being taught by others in the same boat. You should be ashamed of yourself if you are/have even a couple of these things and aren’t getting laid, and that still gives you no excuse to teach others how to seduce women, unless of course you are trying to make more $$ and have more Status in order to get more Ass.
As for this Shark Character, I don’t know if he fits that role but thats why I want to hear what John Prawn has to say.
“…Go do an experiment. First tell your excuser buddies that you are busy and cannot join them today, cause if you take them with you, you will all sink and nobody will do anything…”
Bullshit.
I go out with guys who are excusers all the time. If you are weak these guys will affect you. If not it’s actually fun to take them with you so they can tell you how cool they think it is watching you flirt with chicks. If you guys are all about Frame and shit then realise this, Other peoples Frames are NOT YOURS. You don’t have to sit with these guys all night and hold hands and they WON’T get mad at you for socializing, go Do it! Don’t Not be friends with someone just because they don’t help you get ass. Thats FAKE and WEAK. Remember, “Bro’s before Hoes!”! Thats man like and thats what chicks want — A MAN!
Now if you meet a Weird guy in some lair or PAIR or whatever and you don’t want to be his friend then thats different, but Like I said, dude; if these guys are already your buddies then be their buddies and I can safely say that you can even get chicks attracted to you sitting with them at the same table and everything. Some of my buddies are COMPLETE AFCs and I can tell you this, it doesn’t stop you from getting chicks AT ALL!
YOU stop YOU from getting Chicks and if you use your friends as and Excuse then you too are an “Excuser”.
Shark is a fucking gimp. He releases a gayboy cd i cant even bump in my chevy without my homeboys laughing at me.
I don’t know about some of you guys out there, but I’m gonna go out on a limb and say that I’m a pretty good looking guy. Before I got into all this “seduction” bull I was a pathetic weak AFC. I use to talk to some really good looking woman before all this David D. and MM stuff, but it never escalated because of some dumbass things I used to do and also ’cause I was a “WUSS”.
Ever since I have been involved with all this stuff I can actually say that I have more game, but still needs improvement. Basically what these guys do is give an AFC a little push and ideas on going about “gaming”. Even though it’s cost me lots of money I do appreciate the help all these “gurus” have shared because without it I probably would be screwing a warpig.
Oh and I do agree with you curious. “Bros before hoes”!
I second massive_rage’s experience. “Seduction” and identifying the psychology of a conversation is useful. As someone who already got attention but was too naive to know how to explore it, I can vouch that I feel more in control.
Massive_rage, I have had similar feelings of change after reading up on “seduction” and identifying the psychology of conversation. So many rules and signals go unsaid.
As someone who already got attention but was too naive to know how to explore it, I feel more in control.
John_Prawn is a total liar cause in my country they don’t have anything like fraternities in USA.
This excuzers make me laugh, guys if you can’t use your own real internet nick when flaiming how the hell will you get laid:)
Newer hahahahahaha
that’s it. i want a shirt that says “excuzer smurf” on it with a picture of one of the smurfs….
816436 969307I agree with you. I wish I had your blogging style. 492943