David Shade’s Manual, Vol. 1
June 9, 2004 by Thundercat
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Interviewing for High Self-Esteem Women
By David Shade
www.davidshade.com
I specifically interview for high self-esteem women. The most comprehensive discussion on self-esteem I have seen is by Nathaniel Branden at nathanielbranden.net. He articulated it well when he wrote:
"Self-esteem is an experience. It is a particular way of experiencing the self. It is to move toward life rather than away from it; to move toward consciousness rather than away from it; to treat facts with respect rather than denial; and to operate self-responsibly rather than the opposite."
He defined self-esteem as "being competent to cope with the challenges of life and of being worthy of happiness. It is confidence in our ability to learn, make appropriate choices and decisions, and respond effectively to change. It is the experience that success, achievement, fulfillment, and happiness are right and natural for us. It is a consciousness to trust our self. It strives for rationality, coherence, clarity, and truth."
He defined six practices of a healthy self-esteem:
1) Living consciously: Respect for facts, open to new knowledge and feedback, and seeking to understand the world and ourselves.
2) Self-acceptance: Realism applied to self. The willingness to own, experience, and take responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, and actions, without evasion, denial, or disowning.
3) Self-responsibility: Realizing that we are the author of our choices and actions; that each one of us is responsible for life and well being and for the attainment of our goals.
4) Self-assertiveness: Being authentic in our dealings with others; treating our values and persons with decent respect in social contexts; refusing to fake the reality of who we are or what we esteem in order to avoid disapproval; the willingness to stand up for ourselves and our ideas in appropriate ways in appropriate contexts.
5) Living purposefully: Identifying our short-term and long-term goals or purposes and the actions needed to attain them.
6) Integrity: Living with congruence between what we know, what we profess, and what we do; telling the truth, honoring our commitments, exemplifying in action the values we profess to admire.
"What all these have in common is respect for reality."
What we call high self-esteem and low self-esteem, Nathaniel Branden calls self-esteem and pseudo self-esteem. He defined pseudo self-esteem as: "trying to compensate for deficiencies; a pretense at a self-confidence and self-respect; the effort to protect self-esteem with denial and evasion, which only results in a further deterioration of self-esteem."
Pseudo self-esteem can be easily identified by: "the defensiveness with which insecure people may respond when their errors are pointed out, or the extraordinary feats of avoidance and self-deception people can exhibit with regard to gross acts of non-consciousness and irresponsibility, or the foolish and pathetic ways people sometimes try to prop up their egos by the wealth or prestige of their spouse, the make of their automobile, or the fame of their dress designer, or by the exclusiveness of their golf club."
Traits of pseudo self-esteem include: delusional, ignorance, denial, evasion, betrayal of consciousness or conviction, lack of integrity, grandiosity, fantasies of superiority, conceited (exaggerated opinion of oneself,) boasting, arrogance, and the victim mentality of blaming others. What all these have in common is the lack of respect for reality. But the biggest indicator is the angry denial of low self-esteem or the denial that self-esteem is significant or desirable.
I have found the following to be true of HSE women and LSE women:
LSE women are insecure and seek validation from men.
HSE women are secure in themselves and have nothing to prove.
LSE women have a bottomless pit of emotional need that can never be filled.
HSE women are self fulfilled.
LSE women will manipulate a man to make him meet her needs.
HSE women know exactly what they want in a man, and when they find one enjoy who he is.
LSE women are quick to obtain their man’s tokens of devotion, such as expensive gifts or immediately requiring a monogamous relationship.
HSE women are suspicious of expensive gifts early on, and do not decide that they want a relationship with the man until she gets to know him well.
LSE women would steal a man if it would give her affirmation.
HSE women are not at all interested in another woman’s man.
LSE women trade sex for attention and for verification that they are attractive and worthy.
For HSE women, sex is about sharing and celebrating sexuality.
LSE women respond to being treated poorly in an attempt to prove their worthiness.
HSE women expect to be treated well and respond only to that.
For a LSE woman, it’s not about the man, it’s about her own needs.
For a HSE woman, it’s about what her and her man enjoy together.
LSE women blame their problems on other people. They have the victim mentality.
HSE women assume personal responsibility for their own lot in life.
LSE women are motivated by moving away from bad.
HSE women are motivated by moving towards good.
LSE women must control others by manipulation.
HSE women see that as unhealthy.
LSE women are drama queens.
HSE women seek harmony.
LSE women have a warped sense of deservedness.
HSE women have a healthy sense of deservedness.
Self-esteem is formed early in life and takes years to develop. A woman’s biggest influence in her developing years are her parents, and it is her father that has the most important influence. It is through him that she acquires the ability, or lack of ability, to have an emotionally healthy relationship with men.
A woman who had a close relationship with her father when she was a little girl is what I call a ‘Daddy’s Girl.’ Her father was loving and caring. He believed in her and supported her. He taught her to be self reliant, independent, and to believe in herself. He may have even taught her how to throw a baseball or throw a punch. She thus grew up with a high self-esteem, a healthy relationship with men, and a good sense of deservedness. She is thus emotionally healthy and believes that she deserves to be treated well by men. Interestingly, she is also very skilled at influencing men and making a man feel emotionally close to her.
Her relationship with her father goes through stages. As a little girl, she loves him dearly and looks up to him. When the taboo instinct sets in at about age 14, she becomes independent from him and sees him as the biggest dork in the world. By the time she matures into the age of legal adult, she again adores him and cares about him dearly. But at any age, she always wants him to see her as innocent and pure, and she wants him to continue to be proud of her.
This is in contrast to another woman who had a condescending or absent father. Such a woman is incapable of forming a deep emotional bond with a man. She has a bottomless pit of emotional need that can never be filled. She believes that she deserves to be treated poorly by men, though she expects being showered with attention and material gifts. She is often spotted in the company of men that view women as objects.
Her relationship with her mother is also important. I have known daddy’s girls who had mothers that were total emotional basket cases and made very bad decisions for themselves. In those cases, the young women tend to make bad decisions for themselves. To a large extent, women tend to repeat the same successes or failures of their mothers. Such daddy’s girls display some of the typical traits of a daddy’s girl, but they make mistakes such as having no direction in life. The very best women are those who had two
good parents in a good relationship.
A Daddy’s Girl has a good sense of deservedness. Deservedness is what a woman believes she deserves for herself. She believes that she deserves to experience wonderful pleasure, and she believes that she deserves you. She will be your best ally. She will be routing for you.
The opposite is a bad sense of deservedness. (Note: everybody has A sense of deservedness.) An example of a bad sense of deservedness is a woman who stays with a controlling or abusive man. Therefore, one of the quickest ways to obtain much information about a woman is to note the men she
associates with. If the woman does not have a good sense of deservedness, you will be forever frustrated, your energy will be constantly drained, and the relationship is doomed. She cannot appreciate a good man when she’s got one. She will sabotage the relationship and eventually leave for some scum that she believes she deserves. If you aren’t a psychiatrist or a therapist, there’s not much you can do about it. And even then, it’s usually futile.
So, how do you specifically interview for high self-esteem? Don’t just ask her if she has high self-esteem. The low self-esteem women will insist that they do, and the high self-esteem women sometimes are modest about it. Instead, covertly look for the traits of high self-esteem. The first sign is if she has a hearty firm handshake and good eye contact. The most trustworthy sign of self-esteem is if she can take a compliment
well. But don’t ask her if she can take a compliment well, because all women will say they do. Instead, somewhere in the conversation, I will pay her a compliment and see how she responds. If she belittles the
compliment or down plays it, I know she has a low self-esteem. The compliment will tend to break rapport, as it should. But if she takes the compliment well, such as responding with a genuine "Thank you!" then it may be possible that she has a good self-esteem. The compliment will tend to increase rapport, which is what I want.
I will also get conversation to where we talk about past relationships. This gives me a very good idea about her sense of deservedness. I will listen for signs of how she was treated by her men. That describes how
she will be most comfortable. If she complains about how her men mistreated her, it is a very bad sign. But if all her men were very interested in her pleasure, then that is a very good sign. They are the women who will most appreciate, and best respond to me.
Then I will test for ‘Daddy’s Girl.’ Eventually in the conversation, I will say "You know, I bet that when you were a little girl, about 7, you had a very close relationship with your father." If she didn’t, it will tend
to break rapport, as it should. But if she did, then it always servers to increase rapport in a massive way. Usually she will ask why I say that, and I will go into my ‘Daddy’s girl’ theory. The Daddy’s Girls always love it. But the ones who were not Daddy’s Girls will go into a long illogical discourse attempting to explain why they nonetheless have a high self esteem.
There is a very simple formula for dealing with Daddy’s Girls: Do all the things her daddy did to her, plus all those things her daddy dreaded a man like you would do to her.
David Shade
http://www.davidshade.com
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Европейский Центральный банк, столп финансовой стабильности, сейчас в панике. В своём последнем отчёте они предупредили:
Биткойн — это не просто пузырь, это социальная угроза.
Якобы биткойн способствует классовому неравенству: владельцы крипты, по их мнению, обогащаются за счёт бедных, оставшихся не у дел. Слабым и беззащитным, мол, пора активно выступать против криптовалют.
Иначе, намекает ЕЦБ, последствия будут катастрофическими. В отчёте даже рекомендовали блокировать криптовалюты, чтобы предотвратить политические последствия, намекая на то, что держатели активов могут повлиять на выборы. Примером они приводят США, где кандидаты активно заигрывают с крипто-избирателями.
Внезапно банки стали предупреждать нас о некой угрозе, исходящей от крипты, словно всю жизнь они берегли нас от бедности.
Неужели банки, которые сами по себе являются орудием неравенства, теперь стали беспокоиться о простых людях? Это забавно, потому что именно криптовалюта открыта для всех, кто готов попробовать что-то новое. Здесь нет двери с надписью «Только для своих», как в случае с банками.
Никто не запрещает вам пользоваться биткоином или эфиром. Никто за вас не решает, кто достоин, а кто нет. Но банки об этом не говорят. Вместо этого они пытаются создать образ криптовалют как инструмента для преступников, заявляя, что она вредит экономике и ведёт к катастрофическим последствиям.
Как будто предыдущие кризисы и экономические коллапсы — это дело рук биткоина, а не самих банков.
Реальные примеры:
В последние годы, особенно в 2024 году, швейцарские банки без зазрения совести закрывали счета у всех, у кого в паспорте указано место рождения — Россия.
По всей Европе, прикрываясь санкциями, банки отбирали деньги у населения. Например, чтобы перевести деньги, нужно предоставить массу документов, подтверждений, деклараций, историю происхождения денег. Даже если всё в порядке, счёт могут заморозить.
В Турции, где сейчас рекордная инфляция, люди нашли спасение в криптовалюте, так как она даёт хоть какую-то стабильность и никак не зависит от капризов правительства, банков или комплаенс-отделов.
В Ливане банки за один день заблокировали вклады, оставив людей без своих денег.
Банковский контроль:
Банкиры мониторят ваши транзакции, требуют подтверждений и историю происхождения денег, даже если прошло 10 лет. Вы вынуждены объяснять, зачем вам ваши же собственные средства. И всё это сопровождается традиционными комиссиями и навязанными услугами.
А что даёт криптовалюта?
Вы можете переводить деньги сколько угодно, кому угодно, когда угодно.
Нет лишних вопросов, никакого контроля и комплаенса.
Полная конфиденциальность.
Да, крипта имеет свои риски: волатильность, недостаточная правовая защита. Но при грамотном подходе эти риски можно минимизировать. Тогда криптовалюта становится надёжной альтернативой.
Криптовалюта — это не просто средство обмена, это символ независимости.
Она не зависит от банковской системы, которая строила границы и правила исключительно в свою пользу. ЕЦБ утверждает, что биткойн — это угроза. И он прав. Только эта угроза направлена не на людей, а на банковскую систему.
Настоящий ужас для ЕЦБ в том, что люди больше не зависят от их комиссий и бесконечных документов.
Криптовалюта даёт финансовую свободу. Именно это пугает банки. Их борьба с криптой — это борьба за сохранение монопольных привилегий.
Теперь выбор за каждым:
Остаться в клетке банковских правил.
Или стать частью свободного мира, где твои деньги — это твоё решение.
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Stuck squirrel wins 2024 Comedy Wildlife Photography award
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An image of a squirrel stuck in a tree has been named the overall winner of this year’s Nikon Comedy Wildlife Photography Awards, with a frog in a bubble and a bream chasing a bald eagle among the category winners.
“Stuck Squirrel” by Milko Marchetti was chosen as the winner from more than 9,000 entries, the highest number received in the competition’s 10-year history, the organizers said in a statement published Tuesday.
The team whittled the entries down to a selection of 45, which were then put to a judging panel that selected the overall winner as well as nine category winners.
Marchetti’s photo shows the moment a red squirrel is entering its hide in the trunk of a tree, with its legs at right angles to the trunk.
“I have taken many, many photographs of squirrels, in many situations over the years in Italy, but this one struck me as really funny and such a strange position, because it is that exact moment when the squirrel is detaching its back legs from the trunk to enter its hide,” Marchetti said in the statement.
“Whenever I show this image at the nature seminars at my local photography club, the audience always explode with raucous laughter, so I had to enter it!”
Stefan Maier, senior general manager of marketing at Nikon Europe, said he was thrilled to announce Marchetti’s win, adding that his image “brilliantly captures the playful and unpredictable moments that make nature so enchanting.”
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