AoA: Alone on a Friday
April 2, 2004 by Thundercat
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Alone on a Friday – Forcing Yourself to Go Out
By Thundercat
We’ve all been there before. It’s Friday, you get home and eat a little dinner. The sky is slowly darkening and you feel the urge to go out somewhere and unwind after a long week. So you call up a few friends, leave a few messages, and watch a little TV. It gets later in the evening, and no one has called back yet. You’re getting antsy. You want to go out and have a good time and meet some girls.
Eventually, it gets late, and you’re still at home. No one has called back for some reason, and you’re worried that your night is a bust. You end up shrugging it off and deciding to just stay in and hope there’s some good quasi-porn on Cinemax. Then you spend the rest of the night feeling like a loser, and that everyone else is living a better and more exciting life than you.
In short: You’re alone on a Friday Night. And it SUCKS!!!!
Speaking as a guy who used to spend every Friday night by himself, I can say unequivocally that nothing will depress you more than staying in on a night where everyone else is going to have fun. By doing so, you will begin to develop insecurities that will only depress you more, and as we all know, beating yourself up is not a good way to live a happy life.
So what’s a guy to do? No one wants to go out without their friends. Especially on a night that’s meant to be fun and social. But the thing is, you can’t rely on others for fun.
I’ll say it again: You can’t rely on others for fun.
For example, I have a friend of mine who is HABITUALLY late. Seriously, it’s not unrealistic to wait for him for 2 hours before he joins you after the scheduled meeting time. But the thing is, I don’t mind it, because I don’t rely on him for my interactions. I’ll take my time getting to where I’m going, I’ll maybe hit up a book store or what have you, then head over to the meeting place and maybe get a bite to eat while I wait for him, taking the time to chat up any woman I may see in the vicinity.
This is something most people won’t do. Instead, they may wait at one place for a long time, sitting there quietly, bored, waiting, wondering when their friend will show up so they can start having fun. But you have to make your own fun. You have to rely on yourself for having a good time.
This means that come Friday, when you’re all alone at your place and you feel like going out and having a good time, do not wait around for your friends! Go do things you enjoy! Go out to dinner and chat up your waitress. Go see a movie. Head to the local bar for a happy hour. Just GET OUT OF THE HOUSE! The simple activity of going out in public, even if it is by yourself, will keep those feelings of “being a loser” at bay, because you are being active. You are opening your life up to possibilities that would not be there if you were by yourself at home.
But what do you do when you’re out by yourself? Well, I’ll be writing about that next week. However, in the meantime, I suggest you check out my book The Art of Approaching. In that, you will learn how to meet any woman, any time, anywhere you may be – even if it is by yourself!
To your success!
Thundercat
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Good write up TC. I have spent many Friday’s myself at home at it sucks big time. Going out on your own and not depend on your wing, friends, etc can be challenging but if you make it fun in the process sometimes good things come your way. I like the direction your going with this.
Respect,
Dangerous
Shame you don’t have a mac version. I’d like to read it, but I’m all Mac all the time.
>Shame you don’t have a mac version. I’d like to read it
this isn’t really the place, but can’t you just run virtual pc and then install/read thundy’s book?
Or you can just download it, bring it to Kinkos and print it.
Dude, I think I know who you were talking about when you said you had a friend that always arrived late at the “meetings”. Somebody who considers it as part of his “signature”, his personality. I hear he has a pretty tight game, but I still think it’s lack of consideration on his part.
“but I still think it’s lack of consideration on his part.”
Duh. And anyone who puts up with it is like an old video format that is pretty much no longer around.
BETA-MAX!
“nuff said.
Virtual PC costs money. Not worth several hundred dollars to read a $30 ebook, I’d say. Nothing personal, Thundercat, I’ve enjoyed your lair here. Just saying that it’s irritating. I’ve got the same problem with Swinggcat’s book. What’s it with you cats, anyway?
Yeah, I’ve got a Mac too. Luckily I already have VPC so its not a big problem, but still a pain in the ass.
Swinggcat’s book has already been transcribed to a txt file and yours will be also in time…users will always find ways around the piracy thing.
Anyhow, I’m considering purchasing this, but im awaiting some reviews first.
Hey Thundercat,
Great book man. I now made several of these openers my defaults and with some success too. And your bootcamp training is great. I’ll post some of my successes in the future. I’m new to the pua game, though I have been reading DYD since it came out. BUT now I’m taking action (finally haha) and your book is helping me out with the approaches. I got my tools now its time to go build. Thanks man.
also as to the piracy thing. fuck it, if people steal chances are 99% wont use the material. they will just be info bingers and what good is knowledge without application. and if they do use it, they will probably buy it again because it was worth it.
~Freedom
Thanx for the article. Yesterday i had such a situation. Kicked myself in the butt and went to a bar. Fun was i was not alone a minute. I dressed in a 50 years coat. And a girl opened me on that, but actually she was in for another guy. Got big respect from a group for going out alone. Later i met a girl I knew from my school, she was very open at first and we talked for an houer or so. A 2.00 am I wanted to leave so i said give me your number. She “what for” . I said “Dont know like to meat you again”
She no rather not. So I went home a little frustrated. I think I have to improve my game a lot. Also opened a group with to Hb but after 2 Mintutes of chitchat they just turned and there speaking to each other again.
But better than nothing. I think the one girl found it a little strange that i went out alone. How can you communicate that your not a lonly creap who is so desperate that he goes out alone? Any suggestions. Thanx
Sexxmax,
I don’t think you have your inner game together enough to be using such a direct approach this time.
When girls used to ask me what I wanted their number for, I’d say something like:
I need something to write on the bathroom wall. “For an average time call Sarah” WTF do you think I need it for??
If she says something along the lines of “I don’t give my number out to guys, give me yours” I’d say “Don’t gimme that shit, give me your number.”
As far as keeping sets going, you’re obviously not creating the initial attraction that you should. If you don’t have your inner game and outter appearance quite together yet, this means you have to use more C&F. lost more. and if you still can’t keep the sets, try something even more drastic, pull her hair, make faces. whatever
And if someone asks if you’re out alone or who are you here with, theres several approaches:
theres the “I’m out alone” in a “duh” type voice.
you can LIE (I personally don’t lie) “My friends are on their way here”
or you can use more cocky and funny. “I just met you 30 seconds ago and ALREADY you’re tying to meet my friends.”
Try some of this stuff out, it works.
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