Sex Leads to Confidence?

There’s a post over at the Don Juan Discussion Forum by someone named Crackhead (appropriately enough) about how regular Sex breeds the confidence you need to have MORE sex…

Crackhead writes
What is the correlation between being a chumpass AFC and not getting laid? I would go as far to hypothesize that it’s one in the same practically.

Coming from the background of a 100% loser chump m@therf*cking as AFC as it gets vagina-less loser, I only speak from experience.

But gentlemen, for me, sex HAS LED to confidence BOTTOM LINE.

It’s simple really. With a simple sports analogy, practice makes perfect, all that. You are more confident in doing something if you have *AHEM* actually done it before! What a concept.

This goes not for sex only, but consistent sex, yes, plenty of it; and experience overall. I experienced a similar surge of confidence 5-6 years ago, but sadly, it eventually went away, slowly destroyed by a harsh drought of my **** not being wet inside juicy, delightful vaginas. Sexual deprivation is a tough thing for the male psyche to deal with.

I have experienced some dark, evil depression in my 27 years. But getting laid is easily the single most confidence inducing thing I have ever experienced. I haven’t posted here in months. Why? Cause I could give a rats ass about any of the crap I was hung up on during a harsh vagina drought. And believe me, I was on some intense self hatred and fear of women.

But now, I’ve been having sex with a solid 7 consistently for about 5-6 months (as well as hooked up with 2 other girls during this time), and while I’m not at peak capacity donjuan whatever status, my fear of women has fizzled to pretty much an all time low, while my confidence has soared friggin 10 fold.

My masculinity and testosterone, too. It’s true, dudes. Women like MEN, not sallys. And I think at the essense of masculinity, you will find ‘not giving a damn’ This is why I don’t put too much stock into all those tactics and tricks, neg-hits, etc. It’s just confidence in yourself. I’ll make eye contact with every damn good looking woman I see on the street. And I’m not by any means satiated either.

Once you leave the sorry AFC state, you become like a (forgive the duran duran reference) hungry wolf who’s just got the taste for blood and wants more. Before I’m through, I am going to hook up with an HB 9 supermodel status or higher. I know this.

I also tried sharing this thought one time in that older frank dude’s thread that lasted mad months. I recommended that he go to a hooker (because I have experienced sex leading to confidence), but some freak spazzed out on me and assumed I was a drug addict because of my username and totally spun it the wrong way. I felt that as a virgin in his mid 40′s, a trip to a madamme would be beneficial and therapeutic. Still do.

Years ago, I saw some old 70′s footage of a father of a 15 year old kid debating with a large amount of women about how he wanted to take his kid to a prostitute so he could become a man. I would endorse this and know that if I went to one when I was 15, I would have benefitted greatly.

Word up, good luck to all the current AFC’s, and Peace out

So some interesting stuff there. But MetalFortress chimes in with the counter point:

MetalFortress writes:
WRONG. Sex doesn’t lead to confidence, confidence leads to sex.. Buddy of mine bought a hooker and he’s not anymore confident than he was before. Still an AFC.

You can read the whole thread here.

This is one of those odd Catch-22 situations. I mean, I think it’s true that having sex does breed confidence. Anytime you partake in an activity reguarly and it becomes part of your reality, you look at it in a different light. The more you have sex, the more comfortable you become with the act, the more comfortable you become with women and their bodies, the more comfortable you become with your own ability to perform, etc. But I think you also become more familiar with the SIGNS women give off when they want to have sex, and that helps you become accustomed to recognize them out in the field.

Of course, this hits on MetalFortress’s point. There are guys out there who will have sex, be it with a hooker or by some fluke of nature, that don’t become any more confident from it. In fact, they get worse because they feel they can’t get a girl other than by money of pure luck. I think this comes down to what it is a guy wants from a girl. If a guy is looking to get laid just to get his rocks off, for the pure purpose of moist relief, then I think Crackhead’s point is a valid one. But as we all know, guys are looking to get laid for different reasons.

If someone is looking to have sex because they want validation that they are attractive, or desireable by women, then the sheer act of sex simply isn’t enough. They need to know that the woman is emotionally into them, and that’s a whole different ball game, because without that, they aren’t getting what they want.

Personally, I think if more guys focused their energies on the ACT of sex, they would more easily find a girl who will give them the emotional validation they seek. But most guys tend to want to put the cart before the horse, so to speak, and I think that’s where a lot of guys stumble.

What do you think?