Courting Attention

**Reposted from the first Lair, original date: 1/12/04

So I was out with my buddy Alleycat the other night, and he was doing some pretty cool stuff.  The thing I like about Alleycat is that he’s not afraid to jump in there.  He’ll walk up to any girl out there and start talking.  This is a good trait to have as a seducer and an excellent (some would say “must have”) trait for a Pick-Up Artist.  But I noticed something with him that I had forgotten in my time off, something that made his approaches so much easier than they would have been.

Basically, Alleycat was wearing a big, sparkly, mirrored cowboy hat.  It was a little odd, because it really didn’t match his outfit – but that doesn’t matter.  What matters is that it draws attention.  While we were out, I saw SO MANY girls turn his way and look him up and down because he was wearing that hat.  And more than that, he knew it too, and used this as an excuse to approach.  My guess is that it is similar to that PAIMAI stuff that exists on ASF, which basically boils down to a Pre-Approach Invitation (some call it an Indicator of Interest, but I digress).

Regardless, this one goofy looking cowboy hat made him instantly more popular with the ladies.  This reminded me of an experience I had with Mystery at the Highland’s night club a few months back.  Mystery popularized the whole theory of “peacocking,” which is basically a way of dressing that is meant to attract attention.  If none of you have ever met Mystery, he very much practices what he preaches, dressing up in outrageous outfits, even going so far as to have a flashing sign on his chest touting his name.  At the Highlands, I got to see him pull some amazing stuff, but a lot of it was due to the fact that the image he created instantly drew attention to himself.  Seeing women’s eyes grow wide and follow him as he walked by was a real sight to see.  Then, seeing their reactions when he approached them was even better, because they were already curious to talk to him and this made them more susceptible to his routines.  (Just another reason why Mystery is a master, I suppose.  =)

Which brings me to my original thought, which in a way is an outgrowth of Mystery’s peacock theory.  Basically, it’s the theory behind being an attention whore.  The difference is, attention whores actively seek your attention with their words and actions.  But when you COURT ATTENTION, you are passively receiving what you want based on how others perceive you.

Everything is judged by its appearance.  If you go unseen, you escape judgment, but you also escape notice.  You never want to let yourself get lost in the crowd.  Stand out.  You need to be conspicuous – a sore thumb.  You need to make yourself a magnet of attention by appearing larger, more colorful, and more mysterious than the rest of the moes out there.

If you look at women, that’s what they do.  They try to stand out.  They try to draw attention by dressing sexy, or different, or colorful.  The problem with men is that men tend to neglect fashion and blend together.  Taking it as far as someone like Mystery does insures you will stand out and it will also make your approaches easier.

Dressing in a way that courts attention also has a weird psychological side effect that will improve your field work.  In a way, when you dress outside the norm, you create a different character for yourself, one where you are less inhibited and more daring.  You can take more chances with women and get farther with them because of it.

So I guess what I’m trying to say is that when you go somewhere that’s stimulation overload – such as a bar or a club – with the goal to seduce, you want to draw attention to yourself by creating an image that is sure to draw attention.  Do anything to make yourself seem larger than life and stand out from those who surround you.  It doesn’t matter if the attention is bad or not, because either way it will accomplish the goal – you will get noticed!  And any sort of notoriety will aid in your effort to get women.

Thundercat