First Date Tips…

I found an interesting article about why movies aren’t good first date ideas, and it got me thinking…

I’ve NEVER thought going to the movies on a first date was a good idea.  EVER.  I’m a huge movie fan, so I never wanted to "mix my pleasures."  Once you and the girl have been dating for a while, its fun to go to a movie – but the first THREE DATES are so important, you don’t want to squander that time sitting in a dark room for two hours and not talking.

Personally, I don’t recommend going to a movie on a date until after you’ve already established emotional connections with the girl you’re dating.  Once you two have a good rapport going, the whole "dinner and a movie" thing can, in fact, work.

But the first couple dates need to be spend doing the following things:

1.  Building comfort
2.  Deepening rapport
3.  Building attraction

In order to do this, you’re going to need to TALK and INTERACT with the girl you’re dating.  And movie theaters aren’t the best place to do that.

If you want to watch a movie, invite her over to your place to watch a video.  One of the things I like to do is figure out what TV shows my girls enjoy, and invite them to come over to my place and watch them with me.  (It helps that I have a DVR, because often times a girl may be working or have some type of commitment during the show, but she can come over later, or even the next day to watch it.)

A good first date is doing something simple and relaxed, like meeting for drinks.  Some people like to meet at coffee shops, and that’s fine.  I actually PREFER restaurants with bars in them.  This way, you can meet for a causal drink, even get a table, and if things are going well, you can turn it into a "dinner date."

As a side note – I also like to take a first date somewhere that’s close to another bar.  This way, if drinks/dinner goes well, I can invite her to join me at this other bar and "mini-date" her.  This is a great time distortion tactic that makes the first date feel like two dates – remember, every time you change the date venue, it feels like you two have been dating longer than you really have!

I actually have a whole "three date system" over in my Consistent Close course that works very well for me.  If you guys are interested in figuring out how to amp up attraction over the course of three dates, you’ll definitely want to check it out.