Sleeker2610 over on the PUAForums writes an incredibly awkwardly phrased question, that actually addresses an issue lots of guys struggle with:  turning that girl “friend” into a “girlfriend.”

Sleeker2610 writes:

Hi I want to ask for help in my situation because I fall in love with my best girl friend. I know she likes me very much because even if I said her I fall in love with her she accepted a date with me but she still cannot switch me from position of her best male friend to boyfriend :/ . So here is the thing I just have to bring her to swap me from friend zone to eventual boyfriend and its done but I dont know how :/. She is okay even when we hang out alone together she allow me to sleep with her and hugging her during that time and she likes it . I don´t know what more to say if you need more informations just ask about them I will answer them ASAP.

Okay, so I guess now would be a good time to go over how exactly one manages to “escape the friend zone” and actually turn that female friend of yours into something more…

First of all, know this – if a girl is friends with you, it means she likes you.  However, being friends with you also means that she likes you, but isn’t attracted enough to you to want to be anything more than just friends.  Any couple I know of who was “friends first” and later turned into something more always had a certain level of attraction there between the two before they became friends.  So, to move out of the friend zone, you need to establish an attraction with the girl you’re friends with.

I go really in-depth about this process in my course The Art Of Approaching (so much so that I broke it out into its own book, which you get for free with the main course).  But here are the basics…

First, you have to be willing to LOSE this girl’s friendship.  Why?  Well, because in order to create attraction, you’re going to have to start treating her differently than you would a friend.  In fact, you’ll have to change your behavior so much, that the girl in question won’t recognize you from the guy she used to know.  And when this happens, she might decide you’re no longer her friend.

So you need to ask yourself:  What’s more important to you – her friendship, or a chance at a romantic relationship?

If you want to roll the dice and are willing to risk your friendship, know that you will have to start treating this girl in a way that’s radically different from what you’re used to.  Spending time with her and chit-chatting isn’t enough, you have to start building sexual tension and creating a new frame with which you interact with her.  This can be uncomfortable at first, for both you and the girl, but if you keep it up, she will eventually fall in line with it.

You’ll need to add a “sexual” edge to everything you do.  Instead of joking around, you’ll need to joke around in a flirty way.  You’ll have to make comments about her that subtly lets her know you’re attracted to her, without coming right out and making it clear.  You’ll have to limit your interactions to stuff that allows you to seduce her – no more 3 hour phone calls about her boy troubles!  And most of all, you have to know how to get physical with her, because unless that happens, she’s never going to make that transition.

All that said, there’s never a 100% guaranteed way to get a girl to go from being a friend to a lover.  Every person is different, and some women might be looking for things in a guy you just don’t have.  So the best advice I can give in this situation is to not get too hung up on any one girl, even if you think she’s “the one.”  Keep playing the field, but keep working on your target as well, and see which one gets you the result you want the quickest.

David Wygant writes:

When I Say "Pick Up A Girl At The Airport," I Really Mean It!!!

So you’ve started dating somebody. Things are going really great. You haven’t slept with them yet, and they’re about to go away for a weekend trip. Do you or do you not let them take a taxicab? Do you drive them to the airport and, more importantly, do you pick them up when they get back from their trip? And what exactly does that signify in the relationship?

First off, I hate picking people up at the airport. I’ll tell you something, picking people up at LAX is a nightmare. They don’t allow you to park. Secondly, you don’t want to circle around waiting to pick someone up because LAX is a long track where traffic can get as bad as it is on the 405, and you can sit in your car at the airport for two hours, driving 1/8 of a mile.

But the fact of the matter is, when you pick somebody up at the airport, that’s relationship material. You do that when you’re in love. You don’t do that when you first start dating. That’s crazy.

“Yeah, I took her out on three dates, we haven’t slept together yet, but I’m picking her up at the airport.” Really? Why? I mean, you’re basically picking her up at the airport and driving her home, bringing her bags in and then she’s going, “Alright, thank you. We’re not sleeping together so you’re not staying here.”

So she’ll give you a glass of water and then find a way to get you to leave. The only way you ever pick somebody up at the airport is if you know you’re going to have massive crazy sex afterwards because you’ve missed each other. That makes it fun. That’s a blast.

I love pick-up sex. One of my favorite things in the entire world — airport pick-up sex after a trip out of town. It’s great. You pick her up, she’s all excited to see you after a few days, you play with her, fondle her a little bit on the way home, you get her all excited, you schlep her way-too-heavy bags (I mean, who needs that much stuff for a weekend trip?) into her place. Then you have amazing sex.

But if you pick her up from the airport and you’re not already sleeping together, you’re immediately in the friend zone. So unless you desire to be in that friend zone, I strongly suggest you wait to pick her up from the airport until you guys are intimate and committed.

So here I thought we’d get an interesting guide on how to actually Pick-Up Women at the airport, but this is actually a rant on dropping off and (literally) picking up women at the airport.  And I can’t say I agree with David on his points here.  I mean, I’ve picked up a lot of people from the airport that I wasn’t sleeping with, just because its a nice thing to do if you know the person and they need help (or are trying to save a few bucks).  Plus, if you’re alone in a car with a girl you like for however long it takes for you to drive them to and from the airport, that’s some nice quality time you can use to chat them up and stuff.  I mean, there is a fine line here between using it as a pick up opportunity and being used just for your transportation.  I guess it all comes down to whether or not you actually WANT to help someone out by picking them up at the airport.

But, let’s get away from that and talk about what I really thought David’s blog post should be about… picking up chicks at the airport while YOU’RE traveling.

Now, I know most of you think that picking up a girl while you’re traveling is a bad idea.  But I’ve done it more than once and it CAN indeed work.  I mean, think about it for a minute… what’s the one thing people do more than ANYTHING else while flying somewhere?

Answer:  NOTHING.

There’s a lot of sitting around and waiting.  And when there’s waiting, there’s opportunity to meet girls!

Here’s what I’ve found to be the best situations to chat up girls at the airport:

1.  Security line (if its a long one).  Those lines to get into the airport past security can be long and slow.  If you’re near a pretty girl, why not start up a conversation with her?  It will help pass the time.

2.  The Terminal For Your Flight.  Most people just sit around, reading, playing games, doing whatever until the flight boards.  Try to sit next to a girl and chat her up.  Who knows?  Maybe you’ll even sit next to her on the flight.

3.  Airport restaurants/bars.  There are lots of places to eat and drink in the airport, and I’ve had more than one great interaction with women at these places.  Be it a lowly Burger King or a nice restaurant.  Not only that, but you can meet some really cool people at these places!

4.  Your Flight.  Now, this one is kind of hit or miss because it depends if you’re sitting next to a girl you find attractive on your flight.  But this has happened to me at least 3 times where I was sitting next to a cute girl on an airplane for 5+ hours, and each time I walked away with her phone number.  So it can be done.  And who knows?  Since you’re both flying to the same place, you might be able to get together while you’re at your destination!

5.  Baggage Claim.  Honestly, there’s nothing I hate more than waiting for my bags to come out after a flight.  But the good news is that pretty much every girl from your flight (and other flights) will just be standing around waiting as well.  (and remember, waiting = opportunity!)  So you can use this opportunity to talk to any of them.  You can also do some advanced stuff like find out where they’re headed, offer to share a cab, get their phone number, etc. right here as well.  And you know what?  Lots of people just mill around the baggage claim area so you’re not limited to just the girls on your flight.  And if you need even more proof of this, just check out Barney Stinson’s method for picking up at the baggage claim…

Anyway, the point is there are lots of ways to “pick up girls” at the Airport, and none of them involve you driving your car there to physically pick them up.  Try and use every opportunity you can to meet the women you want.