Hey guys I know it’s been a while since I’ve posted, but things have been really busy here…

I recently worked with MTV as one of the coaches for the show MADE.

Been working on social circle and entourage game, which is going great and I encourage everyone to do.

Meeting (and learning) from some of the best in the community, such as Steve P and Hypnotica.

Last time I posted I talked about the core of what exactly attraction is, which is great for understanding but nothing you can put to use right away. So this time I’m going to give you guys some goodies that you can immediately put to use and have a lot of fun along the way, regardless of whether you’re a newbie or advanced. I’ve got two openers I recently came up with that work AMAZINGLY well and I decided it’s time to share. Keep in mind that I have a very playful style so this might not be congruent with everyone, still I suggest you try these out regardless.

The first opener is for one of the most dreaded situations a PUA faces in the field. The girls who are crazy high energy, or all dancing on each other. We know to come in with higher energy and give value to the set but when they are clearly having so much fun already it becomes daunting to try and “bring the party”. I’m sure for those who have been out you know exactly what I’m talking about. This bothered me for quite a while so I developed an opener SPECIFICALLY for this type of situation, and here it is.

Walk up with a big smile and place yourself in the set where you can be most viewed by everyone, you might have to gently move a girl out of the way. Loudly and clearly, since the more members of the group who hear the better, say “Ok, which one of you ordered the male stripper?”. Then watch as mayhem occurs. Usually what happens is the group will role play back and pick a girl for which you can trade lap dances with, playfully begin a strip tease show, get away with tons of kino, and easily transition from there. The only thing to watch for is staying in the super high energy and entertainer role for to long since you can easily become a dancing monkey.

The second opener is fairly new but did amazingly well when field tested by myself, and other skilled PUAs I know. It also opens a WHOLE NEW STYLE of openers for you guys to try out, I call them “Singing Openers”. The idea is you go in and right from the start begin singing to the girl. The song I chose was the song from Aladin so I’m naming it the “Aladin Opener”. I’m not even sure if these are the right words but here’s what I sung…

“I will show you the world, shining shimmering splendor. Over, under, together, on a magic carpet ride.” Then simply said “Sound good?”.

Only sing one or two lines since it’s more then enough and if done right the girl will giggle like mad and blush, in some cases even join in! This actually started as a joke that I didn’t think would seriously work, but the field proved me wrong. It also works as a great weeding tool for me since the kind of girls I like are playful and would find the humor in that kind of opener. It also shows tremendous confidence, unattatchment to the outcome, playfulness, being in your own reality, high energy and bringing the party, as well as something unique that brings them back to fond childhood memories. Students of NLP can appreciate that last part.

What if it goes bad and the girl gives a negative response or looks at you weird? Simply say “Oh that’s a shame, you’ve already been jaded by (city you live in). I’m sure there’s still a girl wanting to be a disney princess.” However I’ve yet to need this line yet…

Try these out guys and post your experiences with them here. Next time I’ll be sharing with you guys proof and motivation that anyone can become amazing at this and really change, so keep a look out.

Also remember….”If you’re not having fun, you’re not playing the game”

-Psych

To often do newbie and even intermediate guys focus on advanced concepts and ideas that either do nothing for them, or else make them seem weird without the fundamentals. In fact I suggest that all guys, including advanced, touch back on the fundamentals and make sure that they are either improving or not getting worse. This is a practice I do often actually. So exactly what are the fundamentals of game? I’ve thought about this and came up with the following…

-Body Language

-Tonality

-Eye Contact

-Light Kino (or touch) that isn’t creepy

-Vibing

-Being NORMAL

If you lack any of these six things then any other form of game is a complete waste of time. These six things make up the cake, the rest of game is the icing and decorating. Without the icing you might have a mediocre cake but with only the icing you don’t even have a cake. So lets break down each of these six things to get you started.

1. Body Language

In my mind there are two levels to Body Language. First thing to learn is the “Alpha” Body Language. Basically taking up space, chest out, chin up, back straight ect ect. There are countless articles and exercises out there to develop this, from the Alexander Technique to imagining a string running down your spine. The idea is to give off a dominant and powerful masculine energy that portrays confidence. Your nonverbal signs are 93% of your communication, your actual words being only 7%.

Now keep in mind that with all new skill sets in game you’re going to go overboard with everything and overdo it…this is actually a GOOD thing because you can only calibrate what’s appropriate by doing to much of something and then balancing it. If it’s not to much then you’re not pushing yourself and if it’s been to much for a while then you need to learn to tone it back down again.

The second level to learn once the first is down is how to relax. You don’t want to be the guy who constantly has to look like superman and is always caught on the idea of looking alpha. It’s time to relax your shoulders and develop more fluid carefree motions. The most powerful form of body language is looking completely at ease and comfortable in your own skin, again without it seeming try hard though. Later on once these are down you can learn more advanced body language for particular situations such as opening, rapport building, sexual, take away’s ect ect.

2. Tonality

This is by far one of the hardest to learn with the exception of “being normal” for some people. Speaking clearly without mumbling, talking in a loud and crisp voice, getting rid of any kind of stutter or pause fillers such as “uh” “um” “you know” “like” or anything similar. Your voice should also be animated and lively, if you have a monotonous voice then anything you say will be boring and people will not pay attention to you. Always try and speak from your diaphragm which is located between your chest and stomach, being nasal is the most unattractive voice quality. Finally having a deep voice will always help and it should sound strong and masculine. This is actually where I could still develop the furthest out of the six fundamentals and will probably take vocal lessons to improve my tonality, that’s how serious it is.

3. Eye Contact

Again there are two levels for this one. The first is basic eye contact where you are simply able to hold someones gaze, especially a girls. You shouldn’t be staring but instead be relaxed by it and give almost a curious energy through your eyes. Looking at her tits or ass will be doom for you, unless it’s done in an advanced way but again we’re focusing on the cake not the icing, and I even had a girl shit test me one time on this. I was on a date and the girl had double D tits and began jumping up and down in front of me acting happy. The entire time I kept my eyes locked on hers while smirking and finally she stopped and looked at me and said “very good”.

Keep in mind the eyes can betray submissiveness by darting your eyes away or especially by looking down. Once this is mastered then the second level would be sexual eye contact. This is hard to explain in words but it’s basically looking at a girl with your full desire for her being expressed through your eyes. It takes great confidence and nonverbally puts everything out on the table. With sexual eye contact you are still looking into her eyes and should have what’s called “laser eyes” where you maintain eye contact completely. With sexual eye contact even if she looks away your eyes should be focused on hers, this is not staring or being creepy about it though and can often be misinterpreted through writing. Best way to learn this is by watching movies and observing the actors eyes before he kisses the girl or even better going out in field and observing a natural. When you see a natural with a girl watch the way he looks at her and see if you can tell his strong sexual intent for her just from his eyes, if you can then you’re seeing it done right.

4. Light Kino

Many guys in field have one of the two problems. Either they can’t muster the courage to even touch a girl in any way or else they are incredibly aggressive and creep the girl out with uncomfortable kino. If you’re the first you MUST get over this and begin touching the girl. You should actually be touching not just her but everyone, even guys! Pats on the shoulder, elbow touches, light hand holds, upper back and the such. Basically if a guy can’t get light touch going how in the world does he expect to get sexual touching going. Also the longer you are in an interaction with a girl and not touching her the more precedent you set for NOT touching her and when you finally do it will be much more awkward and uncomfortable. This doesn’t mean you have to touch RIGHT from the approach, although you can, but definitely within the first 2-3 minutes.

For the aggressive guy just tone it down. This guy is definitely better then the first but women will often find you creepy. The reason for aggressive touching early on is either being drunk, way to sexual and horny, or trying to be “alpha”. If it’s the first then drink less or not at all. If it’s the second then really just try and control yourself, keep in mind that if you control yourself now you’ll be able to get all the touching you want later. For the third guy he needs to get over the idea of being so “alpha” and tone it down, if your aggressive kino hasn’t been working why not try it another way?

5. Vibing

This is basically being able to hold a normal and pleasant conversation without any motive. Can you talk with a girl comfortably about anything and engage in what is called “fluff talk”? If not then even though you have all these cool attraction routines and interesting stories she’ll become uncomfortable with you or else never see you as a real person. Vibing helps build familiarity and is a way to show that you’re normal (see number 6). Point blank if you can’t talk to a girl normally then how do you expect to talk to her in a way that makes her attracted to you? To practice this begin conversations with everyone and see how long you can keep it flowing while talking about every day things. Chances are though you already know how to vibe. Think of your conversations with your best friend or family member, pretty easy going and normal without an agenda. The idea is to duplicate that with a stranger and the best way I’ve seen is by assuming rapport and just talking to her as relaxed as possible without any investment or care in the interaction.

6. Being NORMAL

This is the hardest to teach for those trying to learn. Many guys who come into this community without having the average fundamental social skills and then begin learning advanced attraction material which makes them weird. No matter how much theory or routines you know if you can’t be normal with a girl she will see through you and want nothing to do with you. Some weirdness is OK though and shows individuality…it can be cute quirks to a personality. However for the most part you want to be a normal fun guy. Without that as the backbone of your game then NOTHING will work. The best way to develop being normal is to engage in a bunch of different activities so that you’re thrown in social settings. Also developing social circles is EXTREMELY useful. You should have social circles of normal cool guys (not the D&D buddies sorry) as well as social circles of attractive girls. It’s OK to be in the friend zone, you WANT female friends. You will not become normal though by spending all your time discussing game with community guys or have the only idea of social interactions be from your nights of sarging.  Also developing a sense of humor and being aware of social feedback will help tremendously.

Alright so those are the fundamentals and I suggest everyone, no matter what your skill level is, to look into at least one of these things and try and improve it. These are all seriously the frames that hold up your game and if one should weaken due to lack of attention or development then it will all come down.

-Jarett aka Psych

Many new guys fall into this trap yet many find there way out again and begin going out in the field as I did.  There seems to actually be a natural correlation.  Those who stay in the community for 3 months will keep it going and those who stay for 5 months usually have begun really learning from the field.  This post isn’t for the new guys though, (sorry I’ll make one for you guys later on), this post is for those intermediate guys.  The guy’s who have taken the game seriously and have gone out again and again into the field and still have yet to begin seeing the results that they’ve been waiting for.  This post is for every guy who has asked the following question…

“What do I need to do to make that change and get myself to the next level?”

The answer? Become Your Own Guru

Have you been in this game for over a year and a half and still not getting the results? Be your own guru.

Do you go out practically every night yet still see only mediocre improvement, if any, when looking back over the months or years? Be your own guru.

Are all your PUA friends progressing while you feel perpetually stuck on a plateau? That’s right, be your own guru.

See I began noticing a few months back that every time I went out with my community wings that a familiar pattern began to happen.  Before every sarge we’d discuss what Guru X thinks and why some particular way is better because Guru Y said so.  Then during the sarge I’d notice that every community guy had a tendency to talk about game instead of actually doing it.  I did this myself for a while but finally broke out of that mindset, even so many wings would try and talk about it regardless.  Finally at the end of the night we’d have a debrief where I’d be told how something I did was wrong because of  something Guru Z said and then we’d debate who made the most sense out of Guru’s A, B, and C.

Everything I did in field was the result of something some OTHER GUY thought was right and taught it to be done.  It was maddening to see all the different styles and methods out there, and try and figure out which guy I should listen to.  Hoping that the next product from Guru X would finally be the missing piece I’ve always needed.  It got to the point where I felt almost everything I learned about pick up could be debated because of the different beliefs and ideas of Gurus.  Now that I look back it was a new form of “Paralysis of Analysis” all over again but not quite, it wasn’t exactly guru worship either.  It was something I’ll call “Guru Overload”.

PUA’s with Guru Overload can be going into the field nonstop, the problem however is that they keep trying to juggle all these different ideas out there and use stuff from other people without ever trying to figure things out for themselves.  Instead of using the community as a reference point to make sense of their own findings they never try and make any of their own findings at all and just keep practicing the next shiny idea in the community.  Should we be trying to DHV or is the answer simply to bring the Nimbus?!

I finally had my click one day and decided that from now on I would determine what’s best in field, not any other guru, unless it made sense for what I personally have been finding.  When I did this my game improved dramatically.  My wings would say “Why are you doing that? Guru X says you should do this instead.” My reply to this every time was “Ah, but I say I should be doing that.”  The thing is most of you already know the answers, or can work it out yourselves, but there’s the fear of “I’m not good enough and need to keep seeing what others think I should do.”

For those intermediate guys.  You know the theory, you understand how this works, and anything you don’t know you understand how to figure it out and learn from yourself.  Here it is finally plain as day, do exactly that.  Be your own guru already.  Socially experiment and stop doing what you think you SHOULD do or is NEEDED and instead begin doing what YOU feel is right and make your own assumptions on things.  This doesn’t mean forget about ideas and material out there that can help though, instead learn to appreciate it on a much more meaningful level.  Instead of it being something for you to shape yourself to, it can now become something that you may or may not incorporate into your own individual style.

I’m not going to tell you what needs to be done, or the next best thing for your game, or even a new method that you have to learn…how about you tell me instead?

Hope this helps guys,

-Jarett aka Psych

Here’s what people are saying about me though….

“Psych is pretty good. I’ve seen him in field and know that a lot of people would benefit from his writings.”-White Rabbit

“i think psych would be pretty good. his theory is on-point.”-Elev8

“Psych. He pulls lesbians.”-Compey

“Psych’s gonna blow up in the scene hardcore, i saw this youtube video of him pulling some chick on stilts!”-Millionflame

“PSYCH! One time he got pulled over by a female cop… and he fucked his way out of the ticket!”-Hellmach

“Psych has blue hair. I will work with him any day : )”-Heartwork

“I once heard that Psych opened a hot ass MILF at starbucks by singing “I’M BRINGIN SEXY BACK!” the whole song! He ended up making hot love to her 30 secs later.”-Flame

“I heard Psych amog’d a bear out of eating him and the bear ended up buying him a drink and offering him some raw salmon”-Bill Brasky

But who am I really?  I got into this game about 2 1/2 years back by reading a book I’m sure many are familiar with.  It was actually shown to me by my girlfriend at the time, worst mistake of her life!  Now even though I had a girlfriend I was by no means a “natural”.  I’d spend almost every weekend playing Magic the Gathering…by myself.  I also of course have my sob stories when it comes to women as I’m sure every community guy does.  However that was the past and since then I’ve made my transformation and worked tirelessly on improving myself with women and learning the skill, art, and science of what we all call “Game”.  Since my journey I surrounded myself with like minded individuals to aid me in reaching my full potential, which is really what this article is all about and what I’ll get into now.  You can find more of me by checking out youtube.

The Company We Keep

While I will dabble in techniques and structure of game I really want to go into topics that haven’t been beaten to death by others.  Sorry if you were hoping this would be an article on “Opening”.

One of the most fundamental things for us to realize is that who we surround ourselves with will always affect us.  Exchanges of values, social norms, micro behaviors, and ideologies are constantly being exchanged between yourself and the people you spend time with on a regular basis.  I don’t care how strong your reality is or how sick your inner game is…know that this happens and instead of fighting it, use it to your advantage.

The idea is to build social circles and befriend people that will have a positive impact on your life.  There’s some old advice out there about needing to drop old friends since they might hold you back in your development to be a more high value man.  To an extent this is true, if you have a friend who always makes you feel bad and doesn’t add any value to your life then this really isn’t a friend at all and needs to be dropped.  However it is incredibly important to have friendships with non-community guys just to stay NORMAL.  I think anyone who’s been in this community long enough knows that many guys in the community, while good at heart, can be really weird.  If everyone you know is a community guy, and they are the only people you hang around with, then you’re bound to become weird to…sorry but it’s true.

If you don’t already then make it a necessity to get some cool friends who don’t spend every minute of every day talking about women and the game.  You go out in field a lot anyways correct?  Well befriend some cool guys and develop the persona of “a fun social guy” as opposed to “a pick up artist”.  This is not to say that you don’t want community friends however, some of my best and very close friends are actually community guys.  They give you some great new insights, can really motivate you, and share your passion so you’re bound to be close.

The idea between who you want around as non-community friends and as community friends should be seen in this light though, YOU ARE THE SELECTOR.  So with that said…be selective! Do these guys offer value to your life or do they make you feel bad and consistently hold you back?  This is an incredibly important question to ask yourself but I do want to warn about one pitfall, don’t become the shallow guy that sees everyone as either value givers or value takers.  Everyone’s a person and should be treated with respect.  Also keep in mind the idea of “investing”.  Just recently I met with a guy who was new to the game, many guys treated him poorly but I saw that he had potential and was a normal cool guy.  Within only three months his skill grew so fast that he blew everyone else out of the water and has been someone even I have gone to for advice.  I’m glad to say we’re good friends.

This next thing should go without saying but one of the most crucial things to have for getting good at the game is having mentors.  For the longest time this was a huge problem for me and I struggled to find one.  Recently I really have been blessed by meeting and befriending some of the best guys out there and my skills have incredibly improved, I can’t even stress enough how much of a difference it has made. By befriending guys who you can be around continually, and are better then you, you automatically begin taking on characteristics that improve your game…even if you don’t necessarily talk about game!  Why would anyone want to mentor you though is a question I’m sure many of you are asking right now.  Well it turns out that we actually learn a tremendous deal by teaching others, it’s in someones best interest to be a mentor.  The key factor though for who guys want to teach are those that are COOL, NORMAL, and FUN.  Which is actually the three most powerful attractive frames to have IMO, more on that though possibly another time.  For now if you find a potential mentor don’t just become a value sucker, nothing turns these guys off more.  Instead actually get to know the guys and develop a friendship.  If done right they’ll actually be the ones to start helping you out without you even asking, that might be shocking to some guys but it’s true.

So now you have cool non-community friends to keep you normal, community friends to have fun with and keep you motivated, and mentors to keep you cool and really improve your skills.  Thing is though why did you get into the game in the first place?  I’m hoping your answer had something to do with meeting women.  If that’s the case doesn’t it make sense that you’d want women in your life on a continual basis?

It astounds me how many guys don’t even have one REAL female friend.  They go out almost every night, discuss game to no end, yet at the end of the day have no women in their lives.  If this sounds like you then I hope you just realized a critical mistake you’ve been making.  Instead of always going out to hunt for a new girl make some female friends that you can see on a continual basis.  Do you want to be the guy that constantly has to go into the club and create the illusion of pre-selection or do you actually want to be pre-selected by arriving to the club with women with you already?  Having female friends gives you tons of benefits.  They naturally rub off on you and allow you to be more naturally calibrated towards women, you can pick their brains on female topics that your having trouble with, they give you pre-selection, they introduce you to their hot friends and actually help you get them, and they’re also just a lot of fun.

Your social circles are important and will greatly influence your success in field and the kind of lifestyle you live.  Sometimes you’ll have to be ruthless and sometimes you should give a guy a chance.  As with many things it’s going to be up to you to build your social circle and choose who you want as part of your life, really recognize your self worth and the value of your time.  Also make sure to never forget the incredible value that a true devoted friend has despite any external circumstances.

It’s said that it’s not what you know but who you know…I hope now you understand how this can sometimes apply to the game as well.

-Jarett aka Psych