Lovergirl writes:
Okay, as some of you know I have 5 kids so this is a big pet peeve of mine. I absolutely HATE it when men (loudly) try to get my phone number IN FRONT OF MY CHILDREN. WTF are they thinking??? I don’t care WHO it is, what they look like, their approach or anything, if my kids are RIGHT THERE LISTENING I cannot give my phone number to you!! Good lord!!

Yesterday I was at the grocery store loading my bags into the van and this guy walks up to me and asks me for GAS MONEY (claiming he had run out…which is pretty damn lame to begin with, who wants to get with a broke ass man in the first place.. but I think that was just a way to talk to me because there were a zillion other people in the parking lot and he wasn’t bothering any of them and he went straight to trying to talk to me when I told him NO I didn’t have any money…good god!) He starts going on about how much he likes my hair and how beautiful he thinks I am, blah blah and my kids are all climbing in and sitting right where they can HEAR him. He asked for my phone number and I said no and that I have 5 kids (hint, hint, they are sitting RIGHT THERE) and so he is like “I don’t care about that!” and won’t let up!! I had to say no like 3 or 4 times and I was probably turning about 5 shades of red it was sooo embarrassing to me in front of my KIDS. Then of course I have to explain to them that Mommy does not give her phone number to random guys in parking lots! I mean, seriously, how would that make my kids feel if they were to see me do that?? THINK PEOPLE before you do something like that!

Okay, I’m done…lol It’s just that it is NOT the first time this has happened to me and I do not get what men are thinking. If you are going to talk to a woman and her kids are there at least talk quietly and take her aside where they cannot hear what you are saying. Use some common sense!

Think of the kids!  Good lord – THINK OF THE CHILDREN!!!!!!!

*Ahem*

Honestly, I got nothing against single mothers.  But sweet Jesus – 5 KIDS???  You should be thankful you’re getting approached at all, lady.  (I’m just sayin’.)

For a decade now we’ve been chronicling the emergence of cougars in the dating jungle: women, usually over 40, who hunt younger men, or cubs, and shower them with a tantalizingly experienced kind of love — and lots of Abba music. There are cougar celebrities — 47-year-old Demi Moore married 32-year-old Ashton Kutcher — cougar books, cougar cruises and, perhaps the ultimate affirmation, cougar sitcoms, including the popular Cougar Town, starring real-life cougar Courteney Cox. What further proof do we need of this species’ existence?

Michael Dunn isn’t buying it. The noted psychology researcher at the University of Wales Institute in Cardiff has just released a study that he insists renders the cougar craze a “myth.” After examining the age preferences expressed in 22,400 singles ads on popular dating websites in North America, Europe, Australia and Japan, he found no sizable cohort of women seeking younger men. To the contrary, almost all of them wanted men their own age or older. Nor did he find evidence for the proliferation of cubs: the overwhelming majority of men displayed their eons-old preference for younger women. “I do believe the cougar phenomenon is a myth and, yes, a media construct,” Dunn, who specializes in human evolutionary psychology and mating behavior, told the Australian Associated Press.

Of course, the article includes the counter-argument from people who say the cougar phenomenon is real, but here’s my take on things…

First of all, I personally believe this type of thing is just a construct of feminist media in an effort to try and put sexuality for older females on equal footing with that of older males.  You know, the ones that chase after the hot young 20-somethings?  After all, if feminists just accept the concept that a woman’s sexuality over 40 is somehow inferior to a man’s, that would essentially be admitting defeat, wouldn’t it?

Now, I do think that there is something to younger men going after older women.  Guys are horny by nature, and different guys like different things.  And I know lots of dudes who hook up with chicks who are older than they are.  But the notion that WOMEN are the aggressors never sat right with me, which is what the whole “cougar phenomenon” is all about – older women prowling for younger men.  Honestly, I don’t see a vast number of women suddenly making the switch after they hit 40 to being aggressive with guys.  If a younger guy hooks up with an older woman, it’s usually because the younger guy makes it happen somehow.

And it’s also been my experience that women, in general, prefer dating men their own age or older.  I think most women don’t like the idea of a guy who’s younger than them, because the male/female dynamic is supposed to be one where the man is inherently in control, and a younger man doesn’t fit that bill.  That’s not to say there are exceptions to that rule, but in my experience, that’s what exists.

Also, I think if given the choice between a woman who’s over 40 and a woman who’s still in her 20s, the vast majority of men would go for the one in their 20s.

So yeah, I agree with this study that the “cougar phenomenon” is largely a myth.  What do you guys think?